Siblings sharing a room question

June2007

Can you put them both in there at the same time and have them fall asleep? If so, how long did it take them to get to this point?

DD#1 has no issue putting herself to sleep but she usually plays in her bed a while first, so we usually have to put her down well after (and keep shushing her) or well before DD#2. DD#2 has always been rocked or cuddled to sleep but is good at self soothing and she actually likes her space while falling asleep. So I think it'd be great to be able to put them down together. I'm trying it for nap right now and they are squealing, screaming laughing etc. I'm wondering if they'll eventually fall asleep or just play the whole time. Sigh... Now they're both yelling "mama! Mama "

Max'smom

Right now I have one in a bed and one in the crib so this may all change when DS2 moves to a bed later this year, but so far yes we can put them both down to bed or nap and they will go to sleep.

Three words for success: Have a Routine!!!

We do it exactly the same every night (nap on the weekend). DS1 goes potty DS2 diaper changed. We read two books together. Turn off the lights and music on. DS2 is rocked a few min then layed down. DS2 gets his back patted for a few minutes then I leave the room. Most of the time they lay quitely by the end of our routine, but some nights DS2 may not be wound down and will cry, talked, throw everything out of his crib. It hasn't been a problem but to avoid problems, I will sit in the rocker not talking to either until they settle. In these cases it may take 5-10 minutes but never much more than that.

I fear we may have issues when we move DS2 to a bed but we will get through it. routine helps a lot.

malejos0226

Max'smom:

Right now I have one in a bed and one in the crib so this may all change when DS2 moves to a bed later this year, but so far yes we can put them both down to bed or nap and they will go to sleep.

Three words for success: Have a Routine!!!

We do it exactly the same every night (nap on the weekend). DS1 goes potty DS2 diaper changed. We read two books together. Turn off the lights and music on. DS2 is rocked a few min then layed down. DS2 gets his back patted for a few minutes then I leave the room. Most of the time they lay quitely by the end of our routine, but some nights DS2 may not be wound down and will cry, talked, throw everything out of his crib. It hasn't been a problem but to avoid problems, I will sit in the rocker not talking to either until they settle. In these cases it may take 5-10 minutes but never much more than that.

I fear we may have issues when we move DS2 to a bed but we will get through it. routine helps a lot.

 

How soon after you had DS2 did you put them in the same room? Reason I ask is that DD will be turning 3 within a month and I'm due to have DS within that same time span. We have his crib in our room for now thinking that until she gets adjusted to having him around and the idea of a baby that it best he stay in our room, especially at night so she doesn't stare or poke at him. But eventually we were wanting to move his crib into her room since they are small enough and there's plenty of room to do so. She's in a toddler bed right now. I thought at around 3 months might be good because he should be used to a routine and sleeping through the night by then, and DD should be too. Any thoughts?

 

Sorry if i am hijacking the thread but it fits as well?... 

Max'smom

DS2 was in our room for the first 3 months for night and naps. At 3 months they started napping in thier room, of course DS2 had 2 naps and DS1 only 1. The afternoon nap was the same.

We moved him to sleep in the same room at 5 months. But at that time DS1 went to bed on the routine I talked about in my first response. Then DS2 was put to bed when he was asleep. We did it this way until DS2 was about 15 months when I stopped nursing. He nursed to sleep, if I had to do it again I would have stopped nursing to sleep sooner and started putting them to bed together sooner probably around 8-9 months.

I had this fear that DS1 would try and climb in the crib with DS2, but he has never bothered him. DS2s night waking  (when he did) was a problem when we were trying to wean DS2 and get him to STTN but we moved the crib to the guest room for a couple of weeks. I think we could have avoided that if I had weaned or sleep trained earlier.

All in all it works for us.

We are going to have a 3rd baby and I am tossing around the idea of the 3 room sharing. We will see. hope that helps.

June2007

malejos0226:

Max'smom:

Right now I have one in a bed and one in the crib so this may all change when DS2 moves to a bed later this year, but so far yes we can put them both down to bed or nap and they will go to sleep.

Three words for success: Have a Routine!!!

We do it exactly the same every night (nap on the weekend). DS1 goes potty DS2 diaper changed. We read two books together. Turn off the lights and music on. DS2 is rocked a few min then layed down. DS2 gets his back patted for a few minutes then I leave the room. Most of the time they lay quitely by the end of our routine, but some nights DS2 may not be wound down and will cry, talked, throw everything out of his crib. It hasn't been a problem but to avoid problems, I will sit in the rocker not talking to either until they settle. In these cases it may take 5-10 minutes but never much more than that.

I fear we may have issues when we move DS2 to a bed but we will get through it. routine helps a lot.

 

How soon after you had DS2 did you put them in the same room? Reason I ask is that DD will be turning 3 within a month and I'm due to have DS within that same time span. We have his crib in our room for now thinking that until she gets adjusted to having him around and the idea of a baby that it best he stay in our room, especially at night so she doesn't stare or poke at him. But eventually we were wanting to move his crib into her room since they are small enough and there's plenty of room to do so. She's in a toddler bed right now. I thought at around 3 months might be good because he should be used to a routine and sleeping through the night by then, and DD should be too. Any thoughts?

 

Sorry if i am hijacking the thread but it fits as well?... 

Hijack away! We didn't even attempt to put ours in the same room until DD#1 was 3 and DD#2 was 10 months.  I was afraid of DD#1 throwing things into the crib or climbing in (both things she enjoyed doing!) while we weren't in there, We also had a bigger house then, though I had always planned to eventually put them in a room together and make the other room a play room. Now that I'm not as concerned with stuff being in the crib, I'm fine with it. My issue is them feeding off each other and being nuts! Maybe starting at an early age they'll be used to it? but again I would never rest wondering if DD#1 threw a stuff toy on DD#2's face to "share"!

Max: Thanks for the pointers! A routine is probably what we need! I guess I'll have to get more consistent. The nap today didnt work out, DD#1 got into the crib and then when I took her out DD#2 flipped out and wouldn't settle, cried so hard she threw up! So I had to go get DD#2, take her out, rock her to sleep and then put her back in. I guess it will take some getting used to. I just cant wait until they can be in there together and maybe chit chat each other to sleep.