day 5 ET yesterday and freaking out today

jamisoncondie

My Dh has poor morphology and I am healthy (as far as we know).  We had 3 failed IUI's and i was sure one would work.  We just finished our first IVF with a day 5 embryo transfer and are now in the 2ww.  Im freaking out!  What if it doesnt work?!  Am I strong enough to do it all again? I feel like a failure if it doesnt work, is that weird? 

CeeCee82

That's not weird at all. I'm halfway through the 2ww and if it doesn't work, I will for sure feel like a failure. What's helped me (a little) is having a back up plan. Like, if it doesn't work, what will you do and how will you cheer yourself up? Try making a list of happy things you can do. Sending you hugs and sticky vibes!!!!!!

Mitzi Bishi

Sorry... it's a very long 2 weeks. You'll likely get a blood test sooner than that, so that's the bright side. 

Unfortunately I think too many people act as though IVF and ICSI are fail proof and it is a possibility that it won't work, but until you have proof of that work on staying positive, because you've done all that you can. 

If it doesn't work you start again or figure out what you want to do. It's definitely not easy. Plan some fun things along the way to focus on and have short term goals like dinner with DH or movies.  

Aegis2005

Not weird at all.  I'm trying to go into IVF#1 with the mindset that it's going to take a few times (so I'm not in a complete funk if it doesn't) but I'm not sure I'm going to be able to do that. 

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