When does the random crying stop?

sarahnwill

Seriously, I have got to get a grip.  I'm fine at work, but at home it's a whole other story.  When does the random crying stop? 

blindvictory

Let me know when you find out. I'm holding it together most of the time, but I just randomly burst into tears occasionally. Hope you're doing as ok as you can be right now. (And also, just remember, you're allowed to cry. If anything was worth crying about, it's this.)

MrsMS2008

I don't think it does.   I'm sure it becomes less and less, but there's always going to be something that reminds you, or something someone says, or just a random moment when it hits. 

~M

lycih

blindvictory:

Let me know when you find out. I'm holding it together most of the time, but I just randomly burst into tears occasionally. Hope you're doing as ok as you can be right now. (And also, just remember, you're allowed to cry. If anything was worth crying about, it's this.)

Definitely this. 
Yeah... I'm not sure it will ever go away completely. 
I am so NOT a crier in general... or at least, I wasn't... So, I have no idea how to handle this newly emotional version of myself. 

But, like BV said, it's ok to cry.  

DianaChristineB

I'm not sure that it does. It has been almost 2 months since my loss and I still start crying out of the blue sometimes. It's not as constant, but sometimes little things act as triggers that get me thinking about my baby. I often cry thinking about what could have been. For example, last weekend my boyfriend and I were shopping at Target and I caught glimpse of the baby section and burst into tears. All I could think was that I could/would have been 15 weeks and at least thinking about what stuff we would need to buy for our baby. For the most part I do okay, but every now and then I just cry which I think is all part of the healing process. All I know is that I will always love and miss my baby and I will always feel great sadness and disappointment in the fact that we never got to meet. It's gotten easier though as some time has gone by, so I suppose it makes sense to believe that it will keep getting easier and the crying spells may happen a lot less.

wendyssmith

I don't know, today was my 1st day back at work and I did ok, but the second I walked out the door, I cried and I cried all the way home. But like Blind Victory said it's ok to cry about it. I've cried so much I rubbed the skin off of my right eyelid.

sarahnwill

Thanks girls, on the bright side, I think my skin has gotten used to all the crying and doesn't turn bright red every time.   I had a super rough time this weekend after the D&C, but am hoping it gets easier with each passing day. 

Sin_NIN

I don't know if it ever will... it will almost be 3 months since I lost my LO and it still hurts so bad.  ((((Big Hugs))))..... all these girls here are wonderful and we often cry together.

Ziegeficker

Well, today was my first "good day" since we lost our baby two weeks ago...and by "good" I mean that I wore makeup, did my hair, and could stand to be positive for a day. 

Then I saw some stupid news about Beyonce being pregnant, and that was all out the window.  I don't even care about Beyonce.

orangegoggles

I have known about my m/c since 8.16 so I have to say that whole week was filled with crying but then after that week it became more about what triggered me. I would have some "good" days. Today I went in to have my D&C and I have been a little emotional today. Like the other pps have said, it is important to let it out and cry when you need to.

SeaBlue73

I def agree with all the previous posters.  My crying seems to be worst when I have no distractors (reality tv, friends, junk food) & it's quiet all around me.  There have been many nights when I'm lying in bed trying to sleep that all the tears come bounding out.  My first few days back at work also started with a 30-minute crying commute. 

Be gentle with yourself.  I know the desire to have these feelings & reactions go away, but I've been slowly learning that moving through the pain & tears helps me heal. 

Take care & know you're not alone!

MrsGingerN

I wish I knew. It's been a lil over a month since my missed miscarriage and I cry occasionally. Usually it's when seeing baby stuff on TV or I'm alone. It was hard seeing a friend of the fam have her baby 2 weeks after my MC. My in laws went to see the baby and I sobbed all morning. I am so happy for my friend, but it hurts. They came back raving about the baby and I couldn't bring myself to listen to them. They should know better since they had dealt with miscarriages themselves. I try to be strong, but sometimes my resolve comes crashing down. It happens, but I allow myself to grieve as long as it's not constant.

ania.mario

It doesn't