Baby Daddy and I had been dating about four months when we found out I was pregnant. He would not even talk to me about the pregnancy - and I harassed him for six weeks before I finally exploded. We then pretty much broke up and I had the ultimatum of picking between him and the baby. This was all back in December/January. Well - I chose baby and now I have a beautiful just over 4 week old.
The question is... do I even tell BD about him? We have had no contact in 6 months - and he doesn't even know the sex of the baby and was absolutely no support during the pregnancy. I didn't put BD on the birth certificate and have not asked for child support.
Would anyone out there contact him or just let it go? Thanks!
Re: Involve Baby Daddy or Not?
In her defense, if she hasn't lurked this board much, she might think BD really stands for Baby Daddy. When I first started visiting this board, I thought that what it stood for.
Anyway, to the OP, he knows you were pregnant and I'm assuming he knew when you were due so he should know he's got a child now. I say it's up to him to contact you and until he does, I wouldn't even worry about it.
I agree with Christine, even on the meaning of BD. Until now I thought it meant baby daddy.
But I would just wait for him.
It is not that big of a deal that she said "baby daddy." That's what I always thought it stood for until someone got their panties in a bunch about it and made a big stink.
Anyway, I would file for child support at least. He probably won't bother filing for visitation.
Well he seems like the type of guy who deserves a derogatory term...
Anyway, I'd probably send him a text or e-mail about the baby/when LO was born/etc. If he doesn't respond, that's his problem. But at least then you'd know that you attempted contact just in case he was interested in meeting LO.
Sorry - I did think BD was Baby Daddy. That is one thing I do struggle with on the board are all the abbreviations everyone uses. Is there a key to these somewhere? I can't read some posts because I don't necessarily know what people are saying!
To those of you that responded, thanks! I really like this Board - makes me feel less alone.
There are a lot of abbreviations. BD is typically baby daddy and more of us use the term DB for deadbeat or douchebag. I sometimes say SD which stands for Super Douche. Baby daddy sounds like nails on a chalkboard to me, but that's just my opinion. I also hate the term "prego" that some people used on the TTC board.
Anyways, I would file for CS, if you want to let him know when LO is born that's up to you.