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VENT re: soap in mouth as punishment
Jazzra369
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I'm writing this from my phone so the formatting may be messed up.
anyhoo DS, who has just turned one, has started biting. It's annoying but he understands NO so we have been working on it. However, my mother recommended that I put soap in his mouth when he bites. I gave her a huge side-eye when she said that. I don't like soaping in general but certainly not for a 12 month old.
Coincidentally my mom soaped one of my brother's almost weekly growing up and they have a terrible relationship. She was always harsher toward this brother in general.
Sorry if this offends you but I'm not a soaping fan at all.
anyhoo DS, who has just turned one, has started biting. It's annoying but he understands NO so we have been working on it. However, my mother recommended that I put soap in his mouth when he bites. I gave her a huge side-eye when she said that. I don't like soaping in general but certainly not for a 12 month old.
Coincidentally my mom soaped one of my brother's almost weekly growing up and they have a terrible relationship. She was always harsher toward this brother in general.
Sorry if this offends you but I'm not a soaping fan at all.
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Re: VENT re: soap in mouth as punishment
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Honestly, I think 1 year old is waay too young to use that method of punishment, or any other kind of punishment, other than saying "no." Your DS wouldn't understand why you are doing that. I'm with you on this one.
I hate punishments like that for any age and think they are counterproductive, but that's just my opinion.
Okay, just re-read my post. To clarify, I'm not advocating soap-ing at all! Trust me, it sucked!
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I completely agree. At that age we tell them no and redirect. And sometimes we repeat the process a million times, but there is no way soap in the mouth is a good punishment.
FWIW - DD was biting while nursing and our ped recomended a light tap on the hand or the bottom of her foot while telling her no.
Yeah, no.
I personally don't believe in these kinds of punishments for my children, but ONE seems way too young even if you were on board with this form of dicipline later on. I can't imagine a one year old would learn anything from that experience, and that begs the question why you would do it all.
Dude. Yeah. Not OK.
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Oh, I could never do that.
Reading this brought up a bad childhood memory. When I was little (maybe 8 or 9), my sister (who is 3 years older than I am), was really mouthy and would cuss and talk back to my mom a lot. One time we were in the kitchen and my mom had had it and told my sister she was going to 'wash her mouth out with soap.' She then turned around to get some some soap and I completely freak out. I start screaming "No" and crying. I was really scared (and it wasn't even happening to me).
Anyway, they both looked at me in shock and froze. Luckily my mom didn't do it. In fact she NEVER did it to either me or my sister.
It's still a horrible memory because I can still feel how panicked I was :-(