name game

35baby

At my shower yesterday we played a game called the name game.  The names thrown around were interesting choices to say the least.  Once all the cards were collected we selected our top choices.  From the all the cards there were just two that were both chosen with us picking the same choices.  I was a little sad that the names we liked together didn't have my grandmother's name because I was kind of set on it being her middle name. Still the choices we picked seemd alright for us considering finding a name or LO has been such a challenge for us.  I don't know if we are going with the choices definetly but we have more options now than we did before.  I am glad that he finally got on board with some name choices without vetoing any of them.  I believe it was because his he didn't want to look like a tool in front of his family.  Still he went along with the name game and we have two solid choices plus a mn choice.  If you've read my posts on trying to find a name then you know how scared I was of leaving the hospital without having a name for LO.  You have heard of me struggle with boyfriend about how he veto's all of my choices even though he has left it up to me.  You guys have called him names for not helping me decide which is okay because I did feel alone in the process and had hoped he would be more invovled.  Once we have really narrowed it down and picked our choices I will share.  Sorry this rant was long.  TIA for reading this and listening to me. Good Luck to all you gals who have choices or are still looking for names.   

GM&DG

Does this mean that your shower guests picked the name? I am not sure why your grandmother's name isn't an option?

 

I don't know your baby name/bf drama but want to say that DH and I had our hearts set on a girl name while we only had some boy ideas. The baby was a boy and we sat with him for a few hours before one of the names felt right. So go at it with some ideas and don't worry so much.

meenda7

I"m confused also.  I don't know what the drama was about, but if you were sad and disappointed about not using your grandmother's name, why aren't you?

brookelynpaisley

meenda7:

I"m confused also.  I don't know what the drama was about, but if you were sad and disappointed about not using your grandmother's name, why aren't you?

Because her "partner" in this, her boyfriend, has been a complete and utter PITA about names. He won't suggest anything because he already has kids, yet vetoes all her choices. I'd hazard a guess that the least of her problems with this guy will be choosing a name.

35baby

My grandmother's name choice isn't ruled out but it doesn't go well with the two top choices we picked.  Brookelynpaisely seems to know the story and is pretty much spot on.  As a couple we rarely fight and we don't disagree about things but this pregnancy came as a shock to us both.  Although I was thrilled he wasn't as metioned in pp since he has a few kids already one of whom will be an adult this year.  I don't fully blame him for not jumping on board with the names.  I don't want to think about what his lack of interest means aside from feeling he is "done" having more kids. 

brookelynpaisley

35baby:

My grandmother's name choice isn't ruled out but it doesn't go well with the two top choices we picked.  Brookelynpaisely seems to know the story and is pretty much spot on.  As a couple we rarely fight and we don't disagree about things but this pregnancy came as a shock to us both.  Although I was thrilled he wasn't as metioned in pp since he has a few kids already one of whom will be an adult this year.  I don't fully blame him for not jumping on board with the names.  I don't want to think about what his lack of interest means aside from feeling he is "done" having more kids. 

All the more reason to name her what YOU want. I'm not going to lie, or sugar coat this. I understand you may not fight or disagree, but his lack of interest would seriously concern me.  I think you do need to face what that means, personally.

I still vote for Aurelia as a first name

HannahO28

You really need to sit down with you boyfriend and talk about what his role is going to be in your daughter's life. I know that it's hard, and it's going to suck. You might not like what he says. But you have to know. My guess is that if he won't even be helpful in choosing a name, he sure as hell isn't going to be changing diapers or doing nighttime feedings. You need to know what he will be doing. So that you can make plans one way or another.