Lately I've been obsessing a bit about pushing past the protocols and working defense at the hospital. They say they accomodate natural birth, but bottom line is I know they might be pushy about some things.
If I bring a gift basket of goodies to the hospital for the nurses, should I pin some kind of sign on it that says "Thank you in advance for your care in helping us to have a Natural Birth" Thoughts?
Re: nat birth at hospital - gift basket for nurses
I agree with this. I think the gift basket, which a nice gesture, might make you seem a little high maintenance.
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thank you I was thinking more along these lines. I shouldn't have said anybody will be "pushy". I know most nurses are very nice and I just want to keep the positive thoughts going - I like the idea of bringing in goodies. But including the note was the random idea I had that I am on the fence about.
If your hospital doesn't allow birth plans, make sure your DH and/or doula are very well-versed in your wishes. Not having a written birth plan does not mean you can't turn down unnecessary procedures, etc. as long as you have an advocate there (you could try to be your own advocate, but you might be a little preoccupied!). I think this is the best guarantee that things will go as you hope. A gift basket might not hurt (who doesn't like getting gifts?), but how do you know who will be on call/staff the day/evening you go into labor? Better to go with the sure thing of knowing your DH/doula know what you want and don't want.
Also, laboring at home for as long as possible is another great way to ensure you're not subject to a billion things you don't want to happen.
Honestly, I'm a nurse, and I still think giving the nurses any sort of gift is just strange. They're doing their job that they get paid for, they shouldn't need any extra motivation.
If they are not pro-natural birth, a couple cookies is not going to change anything. Better to focus on making sure your husband and your provider are on the same page as you regarding preferences.
Labour at home as long as possible. Keep the treats there. Enjoy them when you get home from the hospital.
I hate the idea of bribing nurses to get them to treat you better. I just hate it. I don't know why it bothers me so much, but it does. I did send my recovery nurse a thank-you card after I got home because she was lovely and went above the minimum she had to, even when the ward was really busy. To me, that's what was appropriate and kind.
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Those anti birth plans make me think this hospital will NOT be natural birth friendly. Be as prepared as you can be, and even though they don't accept birth plans, you should have one written out for you and dh's reference. Oh, and if you can, get a doula.
Why must a woman "be nice" even in labour?
I hate that I'm supposed to be concerned about nurse's feelings while squeezing a baby out my vagina.
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I'm kinda of this line of thinking myself (this suggestion usually came from NB instructors with an intense disrespect for ANY OB/L+D MD or staff). I find it rather disturbing and condescending even insinuating that nurses' level of care can somehow be bought or influenced by the little extra goodies. Highly unprofessional, IMO.
I'm not a nurse, but if my boss tried this to get me to do more than my job (or bend a rule), I'd be insulted.
I agree with the bolded part. And I think many nurses would feel the same way. But mostly I just think it's ineffective.
The only thing about your second statement is that expecting a nurse to honor your NB preferences as much as possible isn't doing more than their job, or bending rules, it's basic standard care.
Like pp mentioned, sending a thank you card afterward would be completely appropriate and likely much appreciated.