difficult at 1 = more "terrible" two's?

luvmybaby28

I would not say my little guy is difficult, but he is very emotional and tantrumy.  In your experience, did your feisty 1 year old turn into a super feisty 2 year old?  I know that every baby is different, just wondering about your experiences since I am thinking of possibly ttc soon!

sunnyday016

Around 18-21 months was the peak of her tantrums. She still throws them every so often, but she's easier to calm down & distract now. She's very verbal so I think her tantrums back then were more out of frustration of not being able to communicate what she wanted/was feeling. Once she started talking more her tantrums subsided.

GoombaGirl_79

I think DS is what people call "spirited".. he has always just been a bit more than other kids (before crawling he would not be happy with sitting in his stroller if I went out for coffee with other moms.. their little one could sit and play with a toy while she sipped her coffee for an hour, DS would be flailing and straining trying to get out after 5 min!). Now at 2,  he is very very busy and runs and plays constantly, and has quite the loud "little"  voice (I say he should be a stage actor haha)! He's definitely hitting the terrible 2s now but he's generally a really sweet little boy, he just gets very demanding and yells if he wants something RIGHT NOW! He went through a brief tantrum period just before turning 2 (he'd throw a fit on the floor for silly things like asking for a cup fo water.. I bring it to him.. suddenly he HATES WATER HOW DARE I BRING IT *flop flop flail scream*!!!!!!)  But that has passed. Now he just tests me a lot... does things he knows he's not allowed to and sees how long it takes mommy to get mad and give a time out. Stinker-smile and all!

FutureMrsCaesar

DS1 has always been stubbourn, but he was actually quite a pleasant 1 yr old.  Pretty much the second he turned two it's been downhill.  So I don't know if there's a correlation between the two.  Mostly what changed for me, and him, was that at 1 when he was misbehaving he probably didn't know better...and since turning 2, he is more blatently disobedient which just irks the crap out of me.

GoombaGirl_79

FutureMrsCaesar:

he is more blatently disobedient which just irks the crap out of me.

Haha my DH has a really tough time with this... I can see the veins stick out in his forhead when DS does something deliberately to get a reaction!

Smores730

Mine is another "spirited" child. Her worst point was at 13-15 months too like a PP. She was queen of the limp body, fall to the floor, scream maneuver and loved to do it in public. Difficult times peaked again as she turned 2 and we did the child under one arm carry out of many public places... As she got more vocal, we could better control her tantrums. We knew what would set her off and avoided those scenarios. The year wasn't terrible, but we definitely had terrible moments.

Jen&Len

DS is very sensitive and spirited and he did become super feisty at 2...and now at almost 3, he's super super feisty!

Princess_Lily

Well, to be honest, it started even younger than your little one.  His true personality crept in when he was a little baby (maybe 6months old-ish).

He's very sensitive and strong willed.  Doesn't like loud events and will be loud with it, if you say no (heck if anyone says no) its as though the world ended for him.  He always wanted to crawl everywhere, and didn't want to be held by mommy/daddy too much for long periods of time.  One day he would be a ball of sunshine, and next you would want to run into a closet and hide.

 

 

My brother was like this when he was a little one too.

As they reach adulthood people are known as highly sensitive person (HSP).  They also call little ones - spirited aka The Spirited Toddler.  The same techniques used in the book are similar to that of the HSPs.  However, toddlers can't control their emotions, as adults can...so you have other things you need to do.

 

Some people who aren't aware of a spritied toddler will consider them spoiled, and your just excusing their behavior.  I 100% disagree.  They are curious, and strong and determined to explore the world - their personalities will lead others one day, however for now, trying to keep them safe in a world that demands them to explore it is like asking a dog not to eat from a garbage can filled with hamburgers...

 

RHitch

My DD was actually great at 1.  She was really happy and she rarely cried.  THEN....she turned 2.  I don't know what happened, but she turned into a completely different child.  She started acting a STONE.COLD.FOOL.  Now that she is 3, she has calmed down tremendously.  She rarely have tandrums, but she does have a very sassy attitude, and I am convinced that she is emtionally unstable.