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I delivered my baby at 5 months, why did that happen?

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I am so so sad...I went into labor at five months and delivered my baby unexpected. I am traumatized. I don't know how to cope. I miss her in my belly so much. This is the second time I attempt to go online and talk about it. I am crushed. I can't help but to cry. The hospital did nothing about iau I was one day short of twenty weeks I assume. Twenty weeks was at midnight and I delivered her at midnight and she lived for only minutes kicking to grasp for air. i refused to look. My husband saw everything. He saw the baby hanging out of me. He saw her kicking for air. The doctor ask me did I want to revive her....she had no eyes and he said she would be blind and have  a lot of problems my husband and I agree to not revive her. I miss her so much. The ER gave me a box with her photo and baby blanket someone knit. I thought it was a kind gesture. I later had a nervous break down when I realize I didn't get to see her at all and ask the nurse to bring her to me the next day. She brought her in a hazard bag wrapped in two small hospital wash clothe. I didn't want to give her back. She was perfect with all her toes and fingers...we loved her. My husband refused to see her like that. He said he saw enough
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Re: I delivered my baby at 5 months, why did that happen?

  • Dr.LorettaDr.Loretta member

    I am very sorry for your loss.

    I would strongly suggest talking to the doctor who was there and finding out details, when you're ready.

    And I would very strongly suggest counseling. This was a traumatic event and you need some help to process your emotions.

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  • jenk84jenk84 member
    I am so so sorry. I cannot imagine what that is like. Like Dr. Loretta said, I think finding a counselor or support group would help you learn to cope with your loss. 
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  • MrsRucinski85MrsRucinski85 member
    As I read your story I couldnt help but cry. I am so sorry for your loss. My deepest sympathies go out to you and your husband.
    I really have no idea medically on why it happened... I am however a strong believe in God doing things for a reason. (even if we dont always like what he does...)  I'm not familar with that kind of situation. I do know however there is a forum under Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss. You might find it more helpful to post/talk on there because it's other women going thru the same thing you are. It could help to talk about it with them and its possible they might have better answers?
    I'll keep you and your baby girl and your husband in my prayers.
    God bless

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