Stay at Home Moms

Are your playdates always loud and crazy?

We do have regular playdates but I usually cringe beforehand because I know it will be chaos.  I don't know what it is, and I'm hoping others experience the same thing.  I have one friend who we have regular playdates with.  Her daughter just turned 3.  She and my DD play somewhat okay together and it's not so much chaos but a LOT of toy taking and saying "no, mine" etc.  I don't want to sound like I'm saying my DD is the innocent one (because she's not) but my DD has picked up this kind of behavior from this little girl.  The little girl wants whatever toy DD has and DD will start mimicking this behavior when they are together. DD rarely does this around other kids (unless they start doing it first).

My SIL just left with her 2 boys (2 and almost 5).  When DD is with our almost 5 year old nephew it is total and utter chaos.  Running and screaming, throwing toys, screaming etc.  It is a freaking nightmare.  SIL and I have somewhat different parenting styles as she tends to let a lot more slide- letting the kids play in a separate room and the distance drowns out some of the noise.  But their house is more separated than ours and unless the kids go upstairs, they are basically in the same area as us and I just can't ignore the noise.  Every minute or so, one of us is telling our child to stop running, screaming, etc.  My DD is pretty much out of her mind and cannot be stopped when our nephew is around.  She is pretty rambunctious but nothing like this otherwise. 

I do her regular time outs and follow through with everything and am basically on her every move but it makes no difference.  When we get together with younger or quieter kids, she is perfect.  She really tends to mimick the behavior of other kids.  In larger group settings she is usually one of the leaders and pretty outgoing and energetic but she will respect boundaries and doesn't shriek or act nuts if we are say, playing at the library after storytime. 

It has gotten so we barely get together with our nephews anymore and they live across the street.  It is just chaos and I feel like the neighbors must literally be wondering WTF all the noise is coming from our house.  Our nephew was not the best behaving toddler but has calmed down somewhat now that he's almost 5, but, like I said, when he and DD are together, it's chaos.  I think it gets worse the more we get together but DH said maybe if we got together more, the novelty would wear off and they would be able to play together normally.

Does this happen to your kids when they are around other/certain kids?

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Re: Are your playdates always loud and crazy?

  • Only CERTAIN playdates/kids. And I make sure NOT to host those playdates and suggest the playground- because honestly it is the biggest PITA (even though I REALLY like those kids/mom).

    For me it is just easier to have it at the playground. Every other playdate is always very enjoyable lol.

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