Feeling so frustrated that nobody seems to understand

hairspray77

....just how miserable I am half the time. I have been having MAJOR pelvic pain for about a month now, and exercise makes it a ton worse. My mom and sister keep telling me I need to be going for a walk every evening, and the last time I did that, the next day my pelvic pain had me in tears for the entire day. I dont think my mom or my sister ever had this type of pain in their pregnancies, as they keep acting like I need to 'push through it' or get over it. It's so frustrating. My mom said to me the other day "You're still WAY TOO EARLY to be feeling this uncomfortable." It just makes me want to cry. I AM this uncomfortable, weather you believe it or not!

And i'd give anything for my husband to understand how I feel too. I feel like because we have close aquaintances (and siblings) that have great pregnancies who have never complained once in front of us, my H thinks I am being a huge baby every time I limp out of bed or wince in pain. And truly I try not to complain too much, but I am so miserable! My hips, my pelvis, my knees... and waking 3-6 times each night... Plus it seems that my morning sickness has returned and most days I feel nauseated in the mornings and nights. I know many of you are in the same boat but I just had to vent. I am feeling overly emotional to begin with, but when people treat me like I am being a huge baby it just makes this pain and lack of sleep even harder to deal with

Ok rant over.

TeacherVicky

Have you spoken to your OB about the pelvic pain? He/she will probably be able to make some recommendations.

Also, have you thought about seeing a chiropractor? I have some friends who see one during the pregnancy and they swear up and down that it makes their pregnancy tolerable (no more body aches and pains). It might be worth a try.

hollinor

I'd tell them all to STHU!  After that I'd "accidentally" kick hubby in the pelvis in the middle of the night, and then tell his to stop whining like a baby because I'm trying to get some sleep.

hairspray77

TeacherVicky:

Have you spoken to your OB about the pelvic pain? He/she will probably be able to make some recommendations.

Also, have you thought about seeing a chiropractor? I have some friends who see one during the pregnancy and they swear up and down that it makes their pregnancy tolerable (no more body aches and pains). It might be worth a try.

My next appointment is a week from today so I plan to discuss it with her then, but i've done a bit of research online and it seems there isnt a lot you can do for the pelvic girdle pain. Just ice the area, and tylenol but that's obviously short term. As for the chiro, I am starting to consider that. It's just been the past few days that my hips and knees are giving me trouble, so we will see about that. Thanks for the advice!

Djcieply

Everyone's pain tolerance and pregnancy is different! Thats what irritates me with my mom she says well I wasnt like that so you shouldnt be or just be glad your not carrying twins like your sister was or like she was on bed rest with placenta previa with her first pregnancy.  I try not to openly complain to anyone other than my DH because I really dont want to hear everyone elses comments, and he was the same way just because he really didnt understand what I was going through even though he has been around a lot of pregnant women. We just finished our child birthing classes and since then he has been way more conciderate when I say "ouch this hurts" or say anything about the pregnancy in general.  So I recommend going to a birthing class together(more for DH), I didnt get a whole lot out of it because just with reading I knew a lot about what they were talking about. Maybe you could at least get him to understand and that in its self would be benefical.

tbaban

hollinor:

I'd tell them all to STHU!  After that I'd "accidentally" kick hubby in the pelvis in the middle of the night, and then tell his to stop whining like a baby because I'm trying to get some sleep.

I like this idea!  People should understand that every woman's body and pregnancy is different!  Just b/c it's easy for some doesn't mean it's that way for everyone!  So sorry for your frustration and I understand.  I am not in as much pain as it sounds you are, but I am in pain...b/w my hips and my lower back and then getting up multiple times a night, it can be pretty exhausting!  Hang in there...

TeacherVicky

hairspray77:

TeacherVicky:

Have you spoken to your OB about the pelvic pain? He/she will probably be able to make some recommendations.

Also, have you thought about seeing a chiropractor? I have some friends who see one during the pregnancy and they swear up and down that it makes their pregnancy tolerable (no more body aches and pains). It might be worth a try.

My next appointment is a week from today so I plan to discuss it with her then, but i've done a bit of research online and it seems there isnt a lot you can do for the pelvic girdle pain. Just ice the area, and tylenol but that's obviously short term. As for the chiro, I am starting to consider that. It's just been the past few days that my hips and knees are giving me trouble, so we will see about that. Thanks for the advice!

I had bad pelvic pain from 30-32w, there are definitely no miracle cures. I did find sleeping with a pillow between my legs helped.

Looking into chiropractic treatment might be a good idea, that should help with the hip and knee pain you are experiencing too. If there's a chance it could help, it can't hurt right?

I hope you find relief soon!

sarteratops

That's the problem with pregnancy, no two are alike so really nobody does understand! I am the first in my group of girlfriends to become pregnant so none of them understand a thing I talk about. DH is not much help either, he pokes fun of the way I waddle and holds his back like its sore all the time to mimic me. I know he's just teasing but it's very insensitive. Luckily, that's what we're all here for! We can commiserate with you!

BettyBookworm

I'm sorry that you are going through the pelvic pain/pressure.

Do you have a pool you can float around in? I went to the pool and it was pure heaven to just float on a noodle or just walk around in the pool. I didn't even care that I felt like a heifer.

I have had something similar recently. Hot showers (not too hot though), some Tylenol, and a pillow between the knees is all that has been working for me.

You can also try old-fashion heating pads (the kind you put water in-- real old school) if you can find a spot that works the best for your pelvis. I tried right at my tailbone and it was heaven.

Every pregnancy is different. I'm sure it is frustrating for your family members to tell you to suck it up. You are in pain and do what you need to do. 

varkeyr

I find that a pillow between the knees helps or even a knee wedge. It is shaped like a capital I. It helps to place the hip in a more neutral position. Also have you tried some of the pregnancy exercises? The pelvic tilt has helped me on previous pregnancies.

Instead of walking for exercise, try something like yoga. Many prenatal yoga videos concentrate on pelvic, hip and knee. You might find that some of the exercises might help the pain.

 

CalinsBride

I totally know how you feel. My sciatic pain is horrible. It makes it so that doing anything is a huge ordeal. I can barely even handle a shopping trip for baby stuff, ten minutes in and I'm wishing I had one of those motorized carts to wheel myself around in. It's been so bad at times that my whole back was in spasm and I literally COULD NOT move. Not, it hurt to move. It was actually impossible since my muscles were totally seized up. DH had to carry me from room to room that day. Exercise used to help, but now it's just making it worse. I try to do some light stretching every day and I alternate hot and cold on the area but it's still really swollen, red, and stiff. My mom also said "Doesn't your back pain only start once you get a lot bigger?" NO! It started in 1st tri. I can barely sleep at night because my left side is so swollen, and the past two nights I was up eight, yes EIGHT times. EIGHT! I feel like when people see me limping around they just roll their eyes and think "oh, please," because I am not that big. What they don't get is that while I'M not that big, my BABY is measuring right on track, which means that instead of expanding outward my ute is stretching towards my back and up into my lungs (that's what the tech told me at my last ultrasound). Still super uncomfortable for my spine and lung capacity! I told DH this morning that I am so exhausted and uncomfortable that I just want to stay home for the next 8-10 weeks. I don't even want to leave the house.

alison2379

I began suffering from moderate to severe pelvic pain as early as week 24, and I have been in physical threrapy ever since. I sincerely believe it has made a big difference. By no means am I pain free, but I'm much more able to live my life as needed. I likely will be pulled from work early due to this condition, but it's gotten me two months past where I really thought I was going to break from the amount of discomfort and pain I was in. I highly recommend pushing your doctor on this, and not waiting until your next appointment.

sap05e

I am due the same day as you, and I have been feeling this way too! Some days it is like every move I make hurts and it takes a lot to get out of bed (especially in the middle of the night). My pain hasn't been so bad to the point of tears but it still hurts and it's hard to get any sympathy from others who haven't been there. I find it easier to talk to my pregnant friends about it instead of other people. Your mom and sister probably didn't experience what you're going through... everyone is different! My mom drives me crazy too complaining about how much weight I have gained even though I am eating well and doing the best I can. I finally stopped telling her how much I gained at my appointments. I would suggest just not talking to your mom and sis about it since they are just going to upset you

cassiedianne

I also have severe pelvic pain and finally talked to my doc about it and he either recommended massage therapy or physical therapy.  I opted for massage therapy first and if that didn't help, I'd move on to PT or chiropractor.  Luckily, since the doctor recommended it, insurance covers it all but the co-pay.  I've been going for a couple of weeks now and though I'm not pain free, it's better than it was.