Stay at Home Moms

adjusting to 2 kids?

So DH goes back to work tomorrow after being off for the last 3 weeks. I am on my own starting tomorrow, his schedule is 2p-12a right now, and will be going to day shift pretty soon.  I am really nervous about handling the needs of my 3 year old and making her wait if I am nursing, etc...it has been so helpful with DH home as he has been able to help her while I have been tending for the baby.  What are some ways you handle it all?  Do you really feel like you have no time to yourself?  I also work 2 days a week, which starts back up in a few weeks...Thanks for any advice.  Oh and DD goes to preschool 2 mornings a week starting in 2 weeks, so I am thinking life might get easier when she goes...Oh did I mention I have 3 dogs too!
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Re: adjusting to 2 kids?

  • My DD was only 19 months was DS was born and it was really hard to deal with her when I was feeding him or putting him to bed...really hard. Things are much easier now, obviously I dont spend hours feeding him anymore, but I do rock him to sleep and she will play quietly in her room until I am down. Maybe thats bc she has gotten use to it and maybe bc she is older. I would imagine it might be a bit easier with a 3 year old because at least they can sit and do a little craft, color, or even watch a show. I guess that does depend on your kid though.

     As for time to myself...I go to the gym and put them both in childcare several times a week and they will both go to PDO one day a week in the fall. Thats about it bc my DH is not home much due to work.

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  • I've been doing it on my own for about 3 1/2 months.  It's hard, but it is getting a tad easier as the baby sleeps a little longer.  My DH also works 24 hour shifts so i do it all day by myself.  First I try and get through each part of the day without thinking too far ahead.  While I'm nursing DD#1 either plays in the playroom, watches cartoons, or reads books.  Coloring books are great.  I have little time to myself but DH is great about giving me out time without kids when he is home. Even if it's just going to the grocery store.It's great that you are able to work, that itself would be time to myself!  
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  • I'm obviously still adjusting. I have 2u2 - my girls are 18 months apart and last Friday was my first day alone with them. While it is certainly difficult at times since DD1 is still adjusting to life with the new baby herself, it hasn't been terrible. I'm FFing this time around so that helps significantly. It only takes DD2 10 minutes or so to drink her bottle so DD1 isn't left to her own devices for too long. Also, DD2 has been a great sleeper thus far. We've gotten extremely lucky that both girls have fallen asleep for their naps at the same time everyday so I get a few hours to myself every afternoon.

    Hang in there! It will only get easier as they grow up.
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  • MH travels M-F. It's not always fair to my 4 year old but we survive. Today we went to the park and she got to run & play while her sister slept in her stroller. Having DD help makes her feel important. She gets burp cloths or onesies for me, throws out diapers, and talks to her sister if I put her in the bouncy seat to make her something to eat.
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  • We're still adjusting as well.  Some days are great and everything is a breeze.  Other days, my 3 year old really gives me a run for my money.  He can be very helpful with DD, but he is still a 3 year old and we're still facing the meltdowns that accompany the age.
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