shower at 32 weeks?

raches

My family is trying to schedule a date for my shower and due to everyone's busy schedule, we are having trouble coming up with a date.  Would it be too late to have a shower at 32 weeks?  I'm having twins and don't want to have it too late.  Any advice?  My family doesn't seem to understand that with twins I'd like my shower to be a bit earlier than most.

sue0809

I'm having my shower at 34 weeks.  The reason mine is so late is that I have been on bed rest for most of my pregnancy and only recently have been given permission to take trips out of the house.  So I don't know if I'll make the shower but I will try!  LOL

jcath

I'm having one this weekend and I'll be 32 weeks.  It's okay but I would have been more comfortable doing it earlier. We ran into the same situation - it just wouldn't work for the host any earlier.  

klr210

hard to predict - some MoMs are on bedrest by then. I am 34 and have no restrictions, but I do know that at 32 weeks I hit a wall and life was exhausting. I had mine at 30 and it was smallish (babies #2 and 3 for me) and it was fun, but I would have loved it as early as 26-28 weeks. That is commonly thought to be very early for a single baby, but not at all for twins. Also, you will (probably) have a good baby bump by then for everyone to swoon over and know the babies' genders so if you are able I'd shoot for that time frame if possible.

And keep in mind, there are certain people this will HAVE to work for (hostess/gmas/you) and outside of that there will always be a few people that already have obligations or will have something come up. Even if you did it 28 weeks that would be over 2 months advance notice -- so plenty of time for people.

Jen0204

I think mine will be at 25 or 26 weeks.  I'm due on 2/7, and my SILs in Georgia want to fly up for it so they asked if we could do it at the end of October before the flights get too expensive.  My mom isn't thrilled about having it so early, but from what everyone on here has said that's not a bad time to have it as far as my comfort level goes, and I'd like to be able to include his family if possible since we don't see them much and it's nice of them to put in such an effort to be here.

flutepharm87

I pushed my families for early shower dates. My mom complied, my MIL didn't. My mom planned my shower for around 28 weeks, my MIL for a little past 34 weeks. I was put on hospital bedrest at 27 weeks and couldn't attend either one. I actually delivered at 34 weeks exactly, so I was recovering from my c-section with outside babies in the NICU on the date of my MIL's shower. I had absolutely no signs or symptoms of complications until 24 weeks, when my BP started creeping up.

So no, I don't think your concern of having your shower that late is out-of-line. I know that your family members want to attend your shower, but the most important guest at the shower is you! I was supposed to have 2 showers, but I only got one and it was in the hospital (the staff was nice enough to allow it, but I had to sit in a chair the whole time). Calling everyone and telling them that the shower was going to be rescheduled and would happen in the hospital royally sucked. If you're willing to risk being on bedrest or (hopefully not) having outside babies for a 32 week shower date, go for it. But let your host know the risks and that she might have the huge task of uninviting people should anything happen to you.

And PP is right. No matter when you plan the shower, there will be people who can't make it anyway.

MrsLnt

Mine was at 27 weeks and it was perfect.  I still fit in cute clothes, I wasn't too exhausted, and had plenty of time to make returns/exchanges.  After about 30 weeks, I just was too tired to do much of anything.  It would have been doable but far less comfortable.  And I was one of the lucky ones that didn't have any complications and made it full term.

kaiteedidit

I had mine at 32 weeks. It was a surprise shower, so I didn't really have anything to do with the timing of it.  At that point I had already been on bed rest for 3 weeks, it was ok though. I wasn't overly uncomfortable and I sat pretty much the entire time,  I was thrilled to be out of the house and see other people. 

natb22

Of course it is impossible to know if you'll be on bed rest or what might happen by 32 weeks, but the sooner the better. I had mine at 28w and was glad I didn't wait any longer as I was much more uncomfortable the weeks following.

Kimmy08

I had my baby shower scheduled for 28 weeks, but went on hospital bedrest at 22wks5days. I actually had my shower in the hospital when I was 31 weeks and had the girls at 32 weeks.

mommyof4boys

I had my twins at 32 weeks so that would have been too early. My MIL did my shower after I had our twins.  I had been on bedrest and wasn't able to do anything but lay on my back.  I was also on hospital bedrest for part of the pregnancy though. My SIL had her shower at 32 weeks and she was very uncomfortable.  She had her girls at 36 weeks.