I don't know why this bothered me

MrsFeatherbottom

I have plans this weekend to go to a festival with one of my good friends and her younger sister who's 25. I just found out that her sister will not be joining us because she doesn't want to be around families and young kids since she "probably can't have children." Her situation: tried for 6 months, went to the doctor and found out she doesn't ovulate on her own. In what universe does that translate to not being able to have kids? I have no idea if she has an idiot OB, if this is something that her sister thinks or if it's how my friend translated the info from her.

I think part of the reason it bothers me is that I'm afraid that she'll get pregnant off clomid, it'll be hailed as a miracle and then I'll get the "well my sister was told she probably couldn't have children and look at her" bit. Am I being ridiculous? You can be honest with me

MAbride0808

Is this girl normally a "woo is me" type of person?  Unless your friend misinterpreted it, it really seems that way to me.  Something is a little wrong (not ovulating) and she jumps to the worst conclusion and everyone needs to feel bad for her because of that. 

This would probably bother me a little bit, but don't let it ruin your trip with your friend.

wither16

That's not ridiculous at all.  I think that most women dealing with IF have heard their fair share of, "My best friends, daughter's, cousin's, aunt was told she would never have children, and look at her!! It will happen...."  That is probably the most obnoxious thing to say to someone with IF, right next to "Relax, then you'll get pregnant". 

In these situations, I always remind myself that "You can't fix stupid".  And just smiling and nodding is probably the best way to deal with her.  I don't know about everyone else, but I don't wear my IF like a badge to parade around, it doesn't define me.  So if this woman, who has basically no extended experience in it is telling everyone she is barren for life, it seems like it might be an attention thing. 

Then again, I don't know her, it just comes off that way from your story.  I feel your pain, I have a few women in my life that walk around telling everyone they can't have kids, based soley on the fact that they missed a few pills and never got KU, or one because she had a cyst once.  I just shake my head and laugh inside.....

Keep your chin up!  If it only takes the "possibility" to throw this person into a tailspin of being a hermit, you must be 10x stronger to be dealing with it like you are!!!!

angela2004

IMO: There could be more to the story. Your friend might not know all the details for her sisters issues.

About 6 months ago I refused to babysit a couple of kids because I got AF after my third IUI. I am sure the friends were upset, but they don't know the whole story.

Try not to let it ruin your weekend and have fun :-)

MrsFeatherbottom

Oh, this isn't even coming close to "ruin my weekend" territory It was just irritating me for some reason. It's definitely possible that I don't know everything.