sleep training question

julesmarie80

How long do you let lol cry before going in? When you go in do you just shush pat, or pick them up? I'm armed with a bottle of wine, I'm doing this

utlawgirl

I'd suggest you read up on different methods before starting and consider which one will work best for your LO. That said, we did extinction, which is simple -- you don't go in. You put them down for the night, and that's it. It sounds crazy, but it really works, and since it's faster, I think it's kinder to you AND baby. GL with whatever you decide!

julesmarie80

I read up on them a little bit, but I had no idea of spacing. I had already decided to go in around midnight and 4 for his feedings, and he only woke up once between those feedings and cried for 5 minutes. I wish it were that easy every night.

JenGarden

julesmarie80:

I read up on them a little bit, but I had no idea of spacing. I had already decided to go in around midnight and 4 for his feedings, and he only woke up once between those feedings and cried for 5 minutes. I wish it were that easy every night.

It may be that easy.  When we did Ferber at 7 months, I decided that the first night I would go in at 3, 5, and then 7 minute intervals; the second night, I was going to do 4, 6, and 8 minute intervals.  I also decided that I would feed her if she cried up to the first interval if it had been four hours since her last feeding.  The first night, I fed her once.  The second night (and since), she has never cried long enough in the middle of the night to warrant a feeding (so she's never cried for more than 4 minutes).  Since it's been so long, I'm not going to feed her in the middle of the night anymore.

shaw

utlawgirl:

I'd suggest you read up on different methods before starting and consider which one will work best for your LO. That said, we did extinction, which is simple -- you don't go in. You put them down for the night, and that's it. It sounds crazy, but it really works, and since it's faster, I think it's kinder to you AND baby. GL with whatever you decide!

We did this too.  Simple and quick.

julesmarie80

JenGarden:

julesmarie80:

I read up on them a little bit, but I had no idea of spacing. I had already decided to go in around midnight and 4 for his feedings, and he only woke up once between those feedings and cried for 5 minutes. I wish it were that easy every night.

It may be that easy.  When we did Ferber at 7 months, I decided that the first night I would go in at 3, 5, and then 7 minute intervals; the second night, I was going to do 4, 6, and 8 minute intervals.  I also decided that I would feed her if she cried up to the first interval if it had been four hours since her last feeding.  The first night, I fed her once.  The second night (and since), she has never cried long enough in the middle of the night to warrant a feeding (so she's never cried for more than 4 minutes).  Since it's been so long, I'm not going to feed her in the middle of the night anymore.

I didn't think about letting him cry a little; I just went right in to feed him. Maybe I'll try it tonight and let him cry for a few minutes before going in.