My MIL is HORRIBLE. I cannot freaking stand her. She is SO self absorbed. If I say anything to her about the kids being overwhelming she says "try it with 3 boys!" because she had 3 boys. She's one of those people who turns everything into being about them. Even with her grandkids. ANYTHING the kids do, she compares to her boys then goes on and on about the past. She is seriously nuts. It is so freaking rude and I just have to tune her out. Her boys played tons of sports and the other day I said something about being a neat freak and she said that I won't be able to be a neat freak in the future when I am running around like crazy getting the kids to all their sporting events. Ok 1. Who said my kids are going to play tons of sports like yours did? And 2. Who says I'm not busy now?!
The confession part is that I went off in front of DH about her. He knows exaclty how I feel and I don't ever censor myself in front of him. He agrees with me so it's not too bad I guess, but I speak horrbily about his mother on a regular basis.....(remember this is flame free right? )
My mil drives me BSC too. She plays the martyr card all the time and tries to employ DD1 to guilt us into driving down there. Because us traveling with a 3.5yo & nb is way less difficult than 2 grown adults driving up here. Interstate goes both ways. My FFC is I originally signed DD1 up for M/W/Th pre-k but am thinking of switching her from Thursday to Friday. There's a dance class her little friends are in Thursday and plus it'd make it that much less likely we would drive to IN to see IL if we had to factor school on Friday & Monday (usually we do 3 day weekends and MH works from their house Fridays).
I visit my memere, who is going to be 88 next week, every week. She's lovely and I really enjoy the time I spend with her. I'm going to be heartbroken when she passes and I can't even stand the thought of it.
But she has dementia and it's like hanging out with 3 toddlers all day long. And she's terribly lonely so I really have to be there the whole day. :
I visit my memere, who is going to be 88 next week, every week. She's lovely and I really enjoy the time I spend with her. I'm going to be heartbroken when she passes and I can't even stand the thought of it.
But she has dementia and it's like hanging out with 3 toddlers all day long. And she's terribly lonely so I really have to be there the whole day. :
Sorry to hear about this, it made me think of my grandmother who passed away a year ago. I used to visit her every single week and she was also in the beginning stages of dementia. However, a year later, I still beat myself up and think I could have been there more. Keep it up because you will always wonder if you could have done more after they are gone.
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My MIL is HORRIBLE. I cannot freaking stand her. She is SO self absorbed. If I say anything to her about the kids being overwhelming she says "try it with 3 boys!" because she had 3 boys. She's one of those people who turns everything into being about them. Even with her grandkids. ANYTHING the kids do, she compares to her boys then goes on and on about the past. She is seriously nuts. It is so freaking rude and I just have to tune her out. Her boys played tons of sports and the other day I said something about being a neat freak and she said that I won't be able to be a neat freak in the future when I am running around like crazy getting the kids to all their sporting events. Ok 1. Who said my kids are going to play tons of sports like yours did? And 2. Who says I'm not busy now?!
The confession part is that I went off in front of DH about her. He knows exaclty how I feel and I don't ever censor myself in front of him. He agrees with me so it's not too bad I guess, but I speak horrbily about his mother on a regular basis.....(remember this is flame free right?
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DD1, Kathleen 9/15/2007
I visit my memere, who is going to be 88 next week, every week. She's lovely and I really enjoy the time I spend with her. I'm going to be heartbroken when she passes and I can't even stand the thought of it.
But she has dementia and it's like hanging out with 3 toddlers all day long. And she's terribly lonely so I really have to be there the whole day. :
Sorry to hear about this, it made me think of my grandmother who passed away a year ago. I used to visit her every single week and she was also in the beginning stages of dementia. However, a year later, I still beat myself up and think I could have been there more. Keep it up because you will always wonder if you could have done more after they are gone.