registering/ shower ? what do you think

keykey

so im 30 weeks pregnant with my second child . my first was a girl and this one is a boy. So im not really expecting to be given a second baby shower . how ever i wouldnt be surprised if my family had a small dinner / lunch for me. ThE thing is i was wondering if i should register anyway for stuff i need/ want. alot of people have been asking what i need ect........... i also want the perks of registering such as the cupons and free offers ect.. However i dont want to tell people that i registered and make them think that im expecting a shower or a gift. What do you think? If this is you 2nd or plus pregnancy did you or are you going to register? 

starskristen79

I think registering is not in poor taste. It would be handy, but only if people ask!! I am not a fan of second baby showers, either.

CHI-06

I did register for my second...and third.  However I did not announce it.  For me it helped me keep track of things I would need...when I thought of something I went and added it right then.  Then when it got close and went and bought everything with my 15%off total coupon...bonus.  Plus you can use other coupons with that too.  My mom knew about it and bought me a couple things I wanted and told my aunts too.  I only think it's tacky if you register and then go tell everyone...then it seems like you're asking for a gift.

zhirsch

Make an amazon registry. I have one and mostly use just as a list of stuff that we still need and it's handy because when I finally decide I want to buy it it's really easy. But my friends decided to throw me a shower, and the hostess asked if I had a registry I gave them that. Even a registry from BRU you could make for the completion coupon. If someone directly asks if you're registered somewhere I don't see the harm in giving them that info. It's better to get something you need if they are going to spend the time and money to get you a gift. 

LAHN

I registered, at the request of my MIL who said all her friends would be asking what to get us (no shower though).  The funny thing is I put only the stuff we really need on there and she didn't like it!  We had to put more 'fun' and 'expensive' things on.....that's the social circle she lives in I guess.  Anyway, I'm using the majority of the registry as my list of what I need and I've actually purchased stuff off it when deals or coupons come up.  I've only told my close friends (who also know MIL) that I've registered, so they can see I'm not just being tacky, lol. 

bhw5660

If we ever have another baby, I would register again for things we need for the discounts/coupons.  For most registries, you don't have to make them public.  I registered at BBB, Target and Amazon.  The Amazon one was not made public and I put items on there that weren't bought by friends/family so I could get the discount and usually a better deal.  But I definitely wouldn't count on a shower.

daylight11

i think registries are extremely helpful for keeping track of what you want/need, as well as letting well meaning friends and family in on things that they can get you if they so desire. as long as you don't announce it, it should be just fine.

ejagk

I would make a registry, and not tell anyone about. There is nothing wrong with wanting to get the coupons and bonus items- baby stuff is expensive enough!! If anyone asks, you can tell them you've created a wish list.

4LittleDucks

This is my 4th child - 2nd pregnancy (2 toddler adoptions) and I have no baby stuff anymore because I didn't plan on having anymore infants in the house.  I felt funny registering but my family all lives out of state and my mom requested that I do at least a small one because family would want to send gifts.  I ended up setting up a small Target registery but titled it "So-and-So's Wish List" and I think I have 30 items on it.  I haven't told anyone but my mom.  It's mostly very practial items - carseat, high chair, onesies, receiving blankets, etc.  Last week I got a package in the mail.  My grandpa called my mom and said he wanted to send us a gift for the baby but didn't know what.  He mailed a check to my mom and she ordered something for us off our registry - our carseat.  My sister lives far away and is in college and sent me some of the bibs off the registry.  Nothing expensive, just something to tell me that she's excited about this baby.  My mom likes to buy gifts for my kids since we live out of state so I suspect that she'll be sending a few items to us here and there as the time gets closer. So far, for us, it's been worth it and we've been able to avoid the awkward "tackiness" that I worried about.  FWIW, I'm not having a shower, unless someone is planning one as a surprise but I'm certainly not expecting that. 

e_delo

My dd is 8 and we move A LOT so after I hadn't had another baby in 6 years I decided to sell everything, actually the money from the yardsale paid for us to move again. So when we found out we were having a baby, I had asked my SIL what I should do because my MIL's friends wanted to "do something" so I registered at the request of my IL's. I didn't even tell my best friend until the other day while we were at BRU. Her response was "I didn't even know you registered."  But it has been easier keeping track of what we needed. Plus, I forgot all the stuff it takes to raise a baby! I really liked the suggestions that the stores had. I would have never thought of most of the stuff on my own.

Stephiehun

I'd absolutely register.  You'll get coupons, and it will be easier to keep track of what you need.  I wouldn't go telling people about it, but if someone asks you can let them know.

marriedtoeric

For our second, we'll register if there are things we need--the completion coupons, etc. are great!  But we also don't believe in showers for second children--so we won't be telling anyone about the registry.

Ms.Jade

People always say that they are registering just for themselves to help them keep track and don't expect gifts at all. Hm, ok. Why not just use the wish list feature available on both Amazon and Babies R Us which can be kept private?

Janimal

My friends are having a celebration brunch for me.  The invitation says "your presence is the perfect gift" and just close friends are invited and I have told them we really don't need anything.  I know my generous loving friends will still buy things, so I expect to get some blue blankets and clothes or something, which will be lovely.   But the message has definitely been put across that this is NOT a shower - just that this baby deserves celebrating too.

I did put a couple things on a registry so I could get a giftcard and a completion coupon - but I changed the spelling of my last name so I wouldn't be sneakily found!  It's for me, not a registry list that could look tacky....