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February 2012 Moms
Sweetest116
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Baby #1 BFP 6/10/2011-EDD 2/19/2012-DS Born 2/10/2012!
CP BFP 1/6/2013-EDD 9/19/2013-CP 1/9/2013
Baby #2 BFP 1/3/2014-EDD 9/12/2014 -DD Born 9/10/2014!
Baby #3 BFP 7/8/2018-EDD 3/17/2019-Team Green!
Let's talk oral sex...
Sweetest116
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DH is weirded out by sex right now, which I can't blame him for. For the ladies with husbands that are all about it, more power to you! I won't push him on it, I get it...
I want to show him some intimate attention and I know he loves oral sex, but I'm weirded out by swallowing now (TMI, yep, sorry). Anyone else a little weirded out by swallowing while pregnant? I just keep picturing my LO getting nutrients from daddy's sperm and it grosses me out. When I'm not pregnant I'm all about it!
I'm also afraid to orgasm... what is my deal?! Tell me I'm not the only one being a weirdo about this... if I am, help me get over it!
Baby #1 BFP 6/10/2011-EDD 2/19/2012-DS Born 2/10/2012! CP BFP 1/6/2013-EDD 9/19/2013-CP 1/9/2013 Baby #2 BFP 1/3/2014-EDD 9/12/2014 -DD Born 9/10/2014! Baby #3 BFP 7/8/2018-EDD 3/17/2019-Team Green!This discussion has been closed.
Re: Let's talk oral sex...
I know what you mean. My DH keeps wanting oral sex, which I am happy to do for him, but I always tell him, 'I am not swallowing'. I am not weirded out by it at all, I just am afraid I will puke or something after I do. You're lucky your DH doesn't want sex... I wish mine didn't sometimes. I just don't feel like it ever!
I can't say that I'm afraid to orgasm; it actually feels soooo good now with the more blood flow and what not, but I was really afraid the first few times we had sex. I wasn't afraid about the baby or anything, we just hadn't done it for awhile, so it seemed like things had gotten tight again and I was just afraid how my stomach would handle it.
Sorry, but the part in bold literally made me laugh out loud!
Ok, to answer your question - I think that swallowing while pregnant would probably make me gag just because my gag reflex has been super sensitive. Actually, you're a braver woman than I am, because I haven't given DH oral sex since I got my BFP because I'm afraid I'll gag/barf. Can you just spit instead of swallowing?
To answer your second question, I definitely haven't been afraid to orgasm. At about 5/6 weeks, having an orgasm made me have mild cramping, but that has gone away.
I wouldn't give a blow job right now if my life depended on it, but not becuase I am afraid of swallowing his "nutrients." Ugh, the thought of it makes me start to gag. Your LO is made of sperm so I think its weird how you associate the two things.
With DD, later on in my pregnancy when I would orgasm I would get braxton-hicks. They started to get really uncomfortable the bigger I got, but having one now is shouldn't worry you.
I never swallow. I always gag if I even try. DH understands and so we just do a hand job once he's ready.
As for the orgasm...don't be afraid! It feels just as good as before (or better!) and will not hurt the baby. Have fun!
That made me LOL! I love it!
I am anti swallow because i gag no matter what...even before pregnancy.
I wish my husband was weirded out by sex right now. I swear he asks everyday and I am just not in the mood. Poor man.
I can't swallow either. I tried once and I spit it right back out on the guy... talk about sexy! I just have a towel handy and he lets me know when he gets close. But, if I could, I probably still would.
And as far as the orgasm goes - mine have been super, super intense to the point that any stimulation after hurts. And sex just hasn't felt as nice for me since I've become pregnant, but I enjoy it as much as I can because I know MH enjoys it.
Wow - more power to you for even thinking of oral! I can hardly brush my teeth without throwing up at this point.
As far as an orgasm - don't be scared - it's even more awesome now during pregnancy!!
I gotta do something for the poor guy - he's freaked to have sex with me! Haha! I actually don't mind oral at all. Spitting might make me puke, swallowing sounds way better/easier... I think I might switch to just my hand when he's close and avoid the whole thing. It's better than nothing, which is what he's getting right now!
Alright... I'll try to put aside my orgasm fear. Can you believe I haven't orgasmed since BFP!!! I feel like I have cob webs growing down there for pete's sake!
Thanks for all the advice ladies!
OK. So.... I know this is a crazy convo, but here goes. I am a "swallower." mainly bc I don;t appreciate the mess anywhere Else. LOL And I NEVER had a problem with it. But since DS.... The smell makes me throw up. I mean, heaving and retching. And it doesn't matter if we had sex or I just helped him out, if I catch a whiff, I am puking. Talk about putting a damper on things! LOL I can still give a half-ace BJ, but can't do my usual stuff bc my gag reflex is so bad right now. But the thing is, guys are happy for anything. LOL So, we just use a towel and he gives me a heads up. Not as sexy, but once he finishes, he doesn't care about sexy. LOL
I was Terrified of O's when preg w/DS. But I had horrible cramps after. THIS time, no cramps, but I am immediately dry-heaving nauseous. So, he used to like to "do something for me" before we had sex, but now I don't let him or it's game over. Poor guy. I know it's not our personal Best, but now that I'm not so sick all the time I'm even Open to it, he's happy;0)
We tried spooning the other day. LOVEly. No pressure on bladder or baby, I didn't get tired... Check it out
I am cracking up at the OP and responses to this. Too funny.
My m/s has me so I have ZERO interest in oral sex right now. Poor BF. Oh well, I got better sometime during 2nd tri last time, so I'm sure that's what he's hoping for. As far as having an orgasm, I have no fear but I also don't look forward to afterwards: a lot of women cramp/experience contractions after - including me...and that is NOT fun.
*still giggling like a schoolgirl as I end my response*
My husband and I were just talking about this the other day, and it kind of weirds us out, too! Especially if it's a girl... something so Freudian about it!
Well, I will tell you that I have had the same problem, as it just kind of tastes different now that I'm all kooky. It's a bit of a weekend morning ritual for us, so I've just come up with creative ways of positioning my mouth at the end so that all of his business circumvents my tongue and taste buds. It has definitely helped.
ETA: I don't understand the towel people. I feel like the towel or sheet or whatever never gets uncrusty after you use it to clean up, and it always gets all over my hand if I use tissue. I mainly swallow to avoid the mess!
I'm not sure if anyone here will get this, but the first thing that came to mind is the very last video Daniel Tosh showed on his final Tosh.0 episode of the season. It was totally related to this. Oral was involved and needless to say, it didn't end up well. lol
Anyway, I give you a standing ovation for even thinking of swallowing right now! This has always been so difficult for me. I was able to do it once, in a very hot way, and haven't been able to since. DH LOVES the idea of it, but I just can't.
If you're weirded out by swallowing right now, just use a towel or whatever makes the two of you feel most comfortable. I'm sure he after he's finished he could care less how it was handled. 
As for having an orgasm, my first orgasm was 2 days after I got my BFP. I was sort of freaked out by it. Afterwards I had a bit of cramping but it went away. My biggest issue is just being in the mood to have sex. DH could have sex 10 times a day and sometimes gets frustrated when we haven't been intimate in a week or so. What I'm trying to do is if I have a sexy thought and we have the time, I force myself to initiate it. It sounds bad, but honestly, once we get into the groove I'm TOTALLY in the mood. Could there be a possibility of you doing something different, maybe an outfit, maybe using porn or something to try to take his mind off the fact that you're pregnant. Any chances that could help? I've had a fair share of orgasms since I got my BFP and some have caused cramping, some haven't. I say just jump in and see how it feels for you the first time. You may be pleasantly surprised!
Good Luck!!!
Hooray! I'm so tired of everyone posting "Um, maybe this is TMI..."
I have been feeling really good lately, but if I open my mouth too wide I gag. Too, the last time I tried to swallow I almost threw up, so I am planning not to try anymore, at least for a few more months-ish.
I prefer not to swallow anyway. I just can't get past it, but now that I am preggers it is even worse. So, I spit it out.
I had tried not to O for a few weeks because of bad cramps. But they have gotten better. DH is coming back from three weeks of military training and I am so ready to get it on. I have been having all kinds of sex dreams and actually woke up in an O once. Happy ending.
That's what started the swallowing conversation with DH!!!! HAHAHAAHAH!!!! After she said why she was puking I was in shock lol... DH couldn't stop laughing.
You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you stop to look fear in the face. -Eleanor Roosevelt
After 1 year of TTC#2 BFP May 2011 m/c #3 4w2d. Off to RE.
Round 1: Femara + Ovidrel +TI = BFP! EDD 2/20/12
2IF does not always equal 3IF...Surprise!
This is definitely me, too, on all points! I know the baby isn't swallowing the semen, but... well.
Everything you ingest goes to the baby right now! So, yeah, it's a little weird.
So I usually give him about half a blowjob and then we switch to vaginal sex, LOL. Hey, it works as extra lube, too!
I do have a bit of the OP's fear of orgasm right now, too, though... :-/ About three times since my BFP (out of, well, lots more than three, but still), I've had cramps after orgasm, and one of those three... it was some hard-core "this is a BAD PERIOD" cramps, though it went away after 3-5min (in real life; felt like 10min!). So I'm always a bit wary of having that happen after orgasm, which is kind of putting a damper on my ability to get one!
Sigh.
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I don't sawllow; I never have. I'm sure DH would love it if I did...but I would puke if I tried. Ever since getting pregnant, my gag reflex has been crazy and a couple times I've gagged. Especially when he pushed my head down. I just let him go in my mouth, but I don't swallow. He cleans up with one of many workout towels he's taken from the gym by accident.
We do that about once or twice a week. My libido has never been great. We've had sex once since my bfp....and I don't really care. I'll give DH a bj if he wants it. I hate doing it though. A couple times I've woken up from a dream where I've O'd and I've had some cramps so that weirds me out.
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