How long did it take you to get past the idea that your baby is a preemie?

pizzo84

My girls are almost 11 months old, and I feel like in the last about 6 weeks things are finally how I expected they would be when I was pregnant with them... I feel like I've stopped concentrating so much on the fact that they were born early...

And when I go to The Bump, the preemie board isn't the first one I check out anymore!

Anyone else experience this? How long did it take you to "get over" having a preemie?

OscarQ

Not sure yet.  I'm guessing it'll be once we're dealing less and less with the issues of prematurity and all the follow-up appointments.  The more I hear his specialist say that he looks great and we're just monitoring, the more I relax.

Deblondie1

I think it'll be a while before I stop thinking of her that way. Maybe when she is starting kindergarten? LOL Right now I keep thinking of her actual age as compared to her adjusted age and it's hard to get over.

elisbu

I think when I have to stop adjusting.

I don't think about it everyday like I used too, but when I try to get her to reach for something or when I try to get her to roll over and I have to remind myself that she is supposed to be 2 months and few weeks, it gets me down.

When she is caught up with her actual age I will stop thinking about it.

TriciaJoy

Well, my son is 3 and I wouldn't say I'm over it yet.

Most assuredly some of it has gotten better. It's not a gaping wound like it used to be, but every now and then something can still rip that scab off.

 It happens slowly.. you don't even notice it happening. But there are still things that amaze me. Watching him eat. Just trusting him to breathe *all* the time. Sometimes I look at him and think "I never thought I'd see the day. This rocks."

And sometimes I realize how much smaller he is than almost every other kid his age and think "eff prematurity, dude."