Oh boy, ILs are here. This is gonna be interesting...

katie4253

This morning, while I was changing Gabe, they came in.  Keep in mind it was 6am and I was in my jammies.  MIL kept picking him up while I was trying to change him and they both stood about 2 inches from me.  I hope they settle the hell down soon because otherwise I am going to have to freak out. 

I am going to be working this week.  Friday is my last day.  I hear about the other job Monday (hopefully).  They will be staying for 6-8 weeks if I get the job.  If not.  Probably 2. 

Oh, and since they were up I was all paranoid about going back to sleep.  So, H and Gabe are sound asleep and I am downstairs watching TV and eating breakfast. I guess they went back to bed (which I didn't know).  But, by the time I realized that, it was too late.  A nap is definitely in store for me today.

I am thankful they are here to help when I am working, but it is going to be a BIG adjustment.  

JakesBride07

Ah IL's ... say no more. I am glad they are there to help you, but the behavior you are mentioning is EXACTLY why we had to enforce some "rules" with my IL's (and my family too.)

I like my personal space.

Good luck and I hope you get really good news about the other job.

 

katie4253

JakesBride07:

Ah IL's ... say no more. I am glad they are there to help you, but the behavior you are mentioning is EXACTLY why we had to enforce some "rules" with my IL's (and my family too.)

I like my personal space.

Good luck and I hope you get really good news about the other job.

 

I tried to take him yesterday and MIL pulled back.  H is going to talk to her about it.  No way in hell you are going to keep me from holding my own baby.  If they keep doing what they did this morning I will have H talk to them.  I can try, but their english isn't so great.  So, it is just easier for H to talk to them about issues.

damabo80

Oh wow....it will be an interesting next few weeks at your house. Esp since there is a language barrier. No advice other than good luck!!

kck329

Since they are going to be staying with you for so long and caring for Gabe while you are working, I think you need to have a "family meeting" of sorts. Discuss what you need from them, boundaries, and what they need from you to make the next two months work for everyone. You need to be part of the conversation, even if it means lots of translation, so that you are all on the same page.

Good luck! I would never make it through 6 weeks for my inlaws staying with us so I'm amazed you are even trying this!

katie4253

kck329:

Since they are going to be staying with you for so long and caring for Gabe while you are working, I think you need to have a "family meeting" of sorts. Discuss what you need from them, boundaries, and what they need from you to make the next two months work for everyone. You need to be part of the conversation, even if it means lots of translation, so that you are all on the same page.

Good luck! I would never make it through 6 weeks for my inlaws staying with us so I'm amazed you are even trying this!

I agree.  I'm going to talk to H about it.  We are supposed to give his parents an "orientation" today.  Go over everything, how we expect things to be done, what he needs during the day (meds and such), etc.  

Deblondie1

Good luck with the ILs! Scariness LOL And good luck with the job!