we have an incredibly sweet, loving, affectionate, devoted dog who also has aggression issues. he was abused before we adopted him and occasionally exhibits very unpredictable aggression towards strangers. (has never bitten anyone, but has tried to a couple of times.) over the last year we have spent about $1000 on expert behaviorists and trainers and have worked very hard to make him safe around the baby. this week he showed aggression towards the baby for the first time--a snarl and a bark, fortunately no bite. the behaviorist and trainer think we should consider getting rid of him, and my husband's parents would probably adopt him and take good care of him. i am increasingly thinking that this is the best thing to do, but i am heartbroken at the idea of saying goodbye to him and putting him through a change of homes when he is so attached to DH and i.
right now DH is unwilling to get rid of him. i've asked him to keep an open mind and i'm going to drop it for a few weeks and let him get used to the idea. in a few weeks, if i haven't changed my mind, i will try to convince him that we should send the dog away.
i am a basketcase. please send thoughts and prayers for my doggy, that he'll be happy whatever happens, and of course thoughts and prayers for my son to be safe.