I really didn't want to have a baby shower, I wanted a "meet baby" open house type of thing instead. Gifts are not necessary since DH and I are pretty strict on the things we want and don't want, plus it is our own responsibility to take care of our child.
Friends are wanting to throw a baby shower, and a little part of me would like that too...
Anyway, would it be bad to have a baby shower hosted by friends pre-baby, and then a meet baby party after the baby is born? I would specify no gifts on the meet baby invites if we were doing that.
Please give me your thoughts/ideas. Thanks!
Re: Shower AND a seperate "meet baby" party?
I would do both, I'm sure everyone in your life will be excited to meet the baby.
Also, if I was a guest at both, I would bring a gift to both b.c that is just how I am. I understand how you feel about gifts, but some people (like me) feel weird going to an event empty handed.
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The presents may be for you and baby, but a baby shower is really for the guests. It's a way for them to show their love and support for you and your growing family. A "sip and see" is hosted by you or your family after the baby is born. It a simple tea (state on the invite, "no gifts, please") and a chance for your friends and family to meet your little one.
Most party-goers know better than to cut off tags, and a registry is a chance to for you tell guests what you would like. Don't turn down a shower, as the people who offered to host have a genuine desire to do so; otherwise, they wouldn't offer their time, effort, and money. I have hosted several showers/engagement parties and would have been extremely hurt if the honorees turned my offers down.