Hope they don't guess?

mamaofboys

I am finally getting into the doctor (thank God!) and my first appointment is next Thursday. I may not get an u/s anyway, so it may not even be an issue. But, hearing all your stories of people getting their baby's sex prediction at your NT scans, I really hope they DON'T try to guess that early for me.

While technology and training seems to be getting better to where they feel comfortable guessing, I don't trust it enough and don't think I even want the option there. I don't want them to guess boy and me start thinking boy when its really a girl or vice versa. 

MrsKilduff

The sex organs look too similar this early in the game, they will all look "boy".  I'll never forget with my first the tech said "i've been doing this for 30 years and im 95% sure it's a boy".  Yeah, she's a boy alright lol.  So even if they do guess, to me it means NOTHING.

kyethra

I have my first ultrasound soon, and I would love to know or have some idea.  I guess at this stage they can tell boy sometimes but not say if it is a girl.  A disorder that affects males more runs in my immediate family and we tried to select for gender doing several IUIs and due to infertility were about to do IVF and gender select again.  But then we surprisingly got pregnant.  And while we are thrilled, there is some nervousness.  So while I really want a girl because I think the life of my baby will be easier as a female, I would want to know either way to think of names, odds, etc. 

But I am one of those people that wants to know everything in advance-- I don't worry so much about things but I want to know.  It is the not knowing that makes me anxious.

jatilly

I wouldn't want that either! If you're worried, I'd tell them before they do the scan. Like "uh, hey by the way if you see a penis, don't tell me, k?"

shortsweet&sassy

I feel the same way, I would rather find out once they will be sure its accurate. I dont want them to guess when it comes to my baby. This early on I still look at it as a 50/50 scenario even with all the "angle of the dangle" information.

soralette

If you don't want them to guess, tell them (explicitly!) that you don't want to know.

I'm goin' Team Green -- and I've been advised to mention, explicitly and at every ultrasound, that I don't want to know yet. So, even if you DO want to find out, you can still borrow that method for an u/s!

k.linn

Just tell them you don't want to know. We were team green with dd and I kept telling our tech to please not say anything. She referenced the baby as "he" the entire time and then said, "Oh, it may or may not be a boy. I call all babies 'he.'" That one had me wondering if it was a slip up, but I guess not!

BradJen2010

What does Team Green mean?

mamaofboys

BradJen2010:

What does Team Green mean?

It means they aren't finding out during the pregnancy and waiting until the birth to know if its a boy or girl 

mintea

Yeah- even if I tried to hold myself back I know I would get all psyched about the guessed sex, and then be really frustrated if they changed course!

DBride2006

I was counting down the minutes to my 20-week u/s with DS and literally told my doctor I wasn't leaving the table until he told me what I was having (and I'm generally pretty laid back). That's how much I NEEDED to know.

But I agree with these early predictions. I had an in-depth 12-week ultrasound yesterday and I was hoping they wouldn't say anything. I hate the idea of 8 weeks of imagining, thinking of names, being tempted to buy things, etc. just to have it "change" at 20-weeks. Of course, I know that can be wrong, too, but it seems so much less likely in my brain.

cathom7

Just tell them ahead of time to take NO GUESSES!!