Tired of worrying!

cautiousmom

I read posts about miscarriages and I worry. I read posts about healthy babies and appts and I worry mine wont be the same. I feel like the times in between appts is torture! I have had 3 miscarriages in the past and feel like it has taken away my ability to just enjoy being pregnant and that makes me sad. Two of the miscarriages were missed misscarriages so the fact that I have no bleeding or cramping brings me no peace. Is anyone else having a hard time with this? Does anyone know how common missed misscarriages are? This may be the last time I am pregnate and just wish I could let myself be happy and enjoy this. I wish it did not have to be so difficult.

ashley35209

This is exactly why I bought a doppler. It definitely helps ease my mind.

jennlin

i spend about 30 minutes a day sobbing, reading stories about missed m/c's. i've never had a m/c, but my bff had a missed m/c at 10 wks (found out at 12) and it just terrifies me. the doctor told me "not to announce yet", but to "stop worrying"...so that's all i can do. good luck!

smalltowngirl99

I know exactly how you feel.... I also had a missed m/c. I have been having cramps and disappearing symptoms so I get really nervous. Just because I have no bleeding doesn't mean anything to me. I go see the Dr. today and I hope we can get some good news I will be 10 weeks on Saturday so I am right where you are too! If everything is ok I am going to buy a doppler to easy my mind when I am having those days when I'm really worried. I hope time flies between now and your next appt!

naturegal79

ashley35209:

This is exactly why I bought a doppler. It definitely helps ease my mind.

This!

susie2242

I don't think it ever ends, you worry something will be wrong at every appt, then you worry about the birth, then you worry about feeding them, then you worry about if they are  developing on track. We just have to learn how to  stuff  down the fear a little bit further and try to enjoy the ride. ((hugs))

melkolb@yahoo.com

I think worrying is just part of the game.  We worry now about the baby being safe and healthy and we will worry when they are infants and we will check on them 3 times a night just to check on them because they are being "too quiet".  Then when they start walking we are going to worry they are going to hit a corner or fall up/down steps.  When they go to school for the first time we wonder if they will have friends and if they will be ok opening their milk on their own. And then when they get their drivers license we will worry about them in the car and hope they buckle up.  Worrying is just a sign of love.

 

We all worry and I am known for worrying about EVERYTHING (if my husband is 2 minutes late...i worry).  I think we need to take our worry with a grain of salt because no matter how much we worry, worrying won't do anything.

jldubb0626

Agreed. I finally relaxed yesterday after my u/s, then was in the ER last night with bleeding. I don't think it'll ever stop worrying. You can research the statistics of miscarriage, but honestly you'll only probably worry more then. As hard as it is, you need to relax, breath and remember that just because you've had losses before, doesn't mean this pregnancy will end the same. "Today I'm pregnant and I love my baby" is my daily mantra that I say to myself every morning and before I go to sleep. ((Hugs))

cathom7

I feel the same way.  I had a missed m/c at 10.3 weeks before I had DS, in which baby had passed at 5 weeks!  Even having had DS successfully, I am never relaxed and calm.  I saw/heard this baby and HB at 7.4wks in an u/s and have not again since.  Now I am starting to freak out.  I know doc is not worried at all, bc baby was perfectly fine then, but I sit there thinking--  I've had more energy this week and less nausea...  And I am a big girl, so I don;t LOOK any different at ALL- What if something's wrong and we just don't know????  GAH!!!  I REALLY hope we can hear HB tomorrow.  I am really plus size, so I didn't hear HB w/DS till, like, 14 week appt.  So I know there's a real chance we won't hear, and the thing is, even if we DO, I will feel better for a week and then be freaking out again.  GAH!  I try to be positive, and some days Imake it, some I don't.  Today has been hard.  I'm asking myself all day- Do I FEEL pregnant?  What does that even MEAN?!  I think I do, but what if I'm lying to myself?  I keep having this- Something is wrong- feling.  But I think it's the GD I am being diagnosed with.  I read somewhere once that having a m/c takes the innocence of pregnancy away.  True that.  I will tell you this, tho.  Once you can consistently feel baby move, it will help ALOT.  Even better than HB.  That's when I started to really enjoy pregnancy with DS;0)  Only around a month lefttill that for all of us!!  ;0)

mamatobe2012

I'm the same way!!!  I bought a doppler and received it yesterday.  Found the heartbeat 2 times last night and then put it away (you have to be patient when you look for it).  Best investment, I'm so happy to be able to whip it out when I'm feeling worried!

Sweetest116

Buying a doppler was the only thing that felt proactive against my worrying nerves.  Of course I paid for 2-Day shipping, I tracked the package, it was out for delivery today and the notes just said the driver forgot the package at the facility... UUUuuuugh!