1 on 1 time with each LO?

atc282

Dh and I somehow got on the subject last night about spending time with our LOs and we realized that aside from an occasional dr. appt. or quick errand when both of us are able to be home (which is rare), we don't spend any 1 on 1 time with each D; their time is always together.This weekend, we wanted to try it out and have DH hang out solo with one DD while I got to hang out with other DD and then switch off. 

Our talk made me feel guilty though as I would love to be able to give more individual time/attention to my DDs but just don't know when/how it's possible. Anyone else feel this way or am I just being an overemotional pg lady? And if you are able to manage some quality 1 on 1 time with each LO, how do you manage that? Any suggestions?

TIA

 

daisybride78

Seriously, you took the words right out of my mouth!!! DH and I were JUST talking about this last weekend. I was comparing the boys to some of the other kids who are the same age in our playgroup and was saying how the others talked so much more than H&J do. I really think the fact that I don't have as much one on one time with them is what makes such a big difference.

My sister offered to take one of the boys overnight next week so that I could have a little bit of a break and so that they could each get some one on one time. I'm really looking forward to it. I was also thinking that in the fall I might do Little Gym or Gymboree with them, but have a sitter stay home with the baby and one of the boys so that we can have some special time. 

I try not to feel too guilty, but it's so hard. When one wakes up from a nap a little earlier and we even have just 15 minutes together, it's like being with a totally different kid.

You definitely aren't alone in thinking this. You and I are on the same wavelength!  

omalley

I definitely think about this too.  We usually get our one on one time when I go to the grocery store.  Sometimes I will take only one with me and even though I would not really call that quality time I do feel like the one I am with enjoys it and so do I.

However my company had a family night at our baseball stadium (the team was away so we got to go on the field, in the dugout, clubhouse, etc) and James was sick so my husband stayed home with him and I took Connor.....I actually had the opposite guilt and I felt so bad that Connor was able to experience this and James could not.

It seems like whatever I do I can mange to feel guilty  

blondek8

I should probably start thinking abou this. Our guys are never apart, ever. There was one time when they were 4 months old that I took Ryan out for lunch with a friend and Nathan stayed at home and played with H.

I like the grocery store idea. I like doing groceries and the twins enjoy being in the cart and all the attention they get. Maybe I should start taking one baby to the store instead of both.

erinruns

I've learned to take the one on one time where I can.  Even if it's the minute that I'm unbuckling them from their car seat.  We chat and hug and I give them a kiss and I try really hard to make the little moments like that count.  Reading a book, having them help me cook, anything can be one on one time if you try.  

The other thing that I do is drop one off and daycare and take the other out for breakfast.  It's not much, but it's something.