i knew this was coming...today she started asking what i am doing with my older kids when i am in the hospital. she was fishing for me to say, "well mom you're going to drive down here to stay with them, right?!" which is sooooooo not the case!!!
first of all, the last time i gave birth, she and my dh had a MAJOR incident with her trying to control what he did with our baby. that didn't fly with him and it shouldn't have...he was putting the baby to bed in his crib. my mom wanted to walk around and hold him. i side with my dh on that one. second, she lives 3 hours away...so apparently i'm supposed to hold off my l&d visit to give her time to drive here to care for our twins. i informed her that my aunt (who lives 10 minutes away) will be watching them while i deliver and then my dh will care for them while i am in the hospital. we are trying to have as little disruption in their routine as possible and my mom turns everything into a circus! we want time to bond as a family and to make sure they are okay with everything (new baby, starting at a new school around my due date...). i really don't think this is unreasonable, but of course, it hurt her feelings and made her mad that she didn't get her way.
so, i was not prepared to have this conversation today and it didn't go well. but no matter how it was laid out for her, i don't think it would have gone well anyway...
i am so over both of our families being annoying!!!!!!! my in-laws have nothing to do with our kids because they don't like me and my mom & sister are selfish and create drama when they don't get their way. wondering when they will understand that at almost 40, i can control my own life just fine?!?!
sorry to ramble, but they are darn frustrating!