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What's the latest your LO stays up?

Mommies of toddlers.. anyone else not have a bedtime routine that sticks? I've been trying.. and trying.. but I can't seem to get my 21 m/o on a routine bed time. We co-sleeped for 18 months, and she's had her own bed since 18 months, but comes to ours in the middle of the night. That's not an issue for me, it's just the fact that sometimes she'll be raring to go until 10 or 11 at night and that is just too much for me! Any suggestions? She gets a routine tub every night between 7 and 8, but never falls asleep at the same time. 
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Re: What's the latest your LO stays up?

  • Have you tried giving baths in the morning or afternoon?  DD gets excited by taking a bath and it takes a while for her to calm down enough to go to sleep.  I still do a routine with pjs, putting away all of the toys, reading books, and a couple of songs.
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  • That's a great idea. I think I, as well as many moms, get tubby time mixed up with before bed time, so just automatically assume it to be a night time thing. She just usually gets very messy with her supper (she likes saucy things, or stuff that is generally pretty messy.) and needs to be washed up afterwards. She's very strong and active, so she won't sit still to wipe her clean, so bathing her is what I opt for. Maybe I could bump her supper time up a bit, and do the bath after that? I don't know. When she was younger, baths relaxed her. Guess it's kinda having an adverse effect now! Thank you or the advice.
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  • DS is usually in bed by 9, 10 at the very latest. I used to let him stay up until 10 or later when we didn't have anywhere to be the next day. But he is starting Pre-k in a week so we have been working all summer on an earlier bedtime and so far 9 hasn't been a problem. We also do bath time before bed, and the pick up toys and brush teeth, then bedtime. Good luck!
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  • We have a hard time getting DD down, too. We always start winding down by about 7/7:30 and I get her in bed by 8, but sleep often doesnt happen until 9 or occasionally later. If we put her in her crib she screams and screams (at least 30 mins) until she falls asleep and then awakens in less than an hour and it starts all over again. :( If we co-sleep, I have to go lay down at 8, which still daylight and not fun, and DD tries to climb off the bed and tosses around.

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  • I had to do CIO with DD when she was about 20 months old.  The first night was awful, the second night wasn't as bad, and the 3rd night she just went right to sleep in less than 5 minutes, no crying at all.

    Her bedtime is 8-8:15-8:30 ish, but it's not firm.  And I do let her stay up for fireworks, family bbq's, etc.

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  • My LO's are in bed around 7.  I didn't co-sleep at all, though, so I did CIO a very long time ago and routine has been in place since.  I do put books in each crib and let them read for as long as they like.  Sometimes I hear DD flipping pages and talking for a 1/2 hour.  DS is usually down within 10 minutes.  Also, they know that once we brush our teeth, it's right to bed.  I include them in as many things as possible: they put thier own milk cups in the fridge, get their chairs to stand on to brush teeth, say night night to everything downstairs, and then pick out the books they'd like to have in their cribs.  Having an active part in the routine seems to help signal that it's bedtime.

    GL!

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  • Have you tried starting dinner and the bedtime route even earlier than you are now? DS is in bed by 7:30 at the latest and has been that way for a looong time. He needs to be in his pajamas in bed, reading a book by 7. Lights out at 7:30. Now that he is older we can push it when we need to, but if he stays up later he is up earlier/has more trouble faling asleep. She may be over-tired, so an earlier bedtime may help.
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  • imagekelleighxnicole:
    That's a great idea. I think I, as well as many moms, get tubby time mixed up with before bed time, so just automatically assume it to be a night time thing. She just usually gets very messy with her supper (she likes saucy things, or stuff that is generally pretty messy.) and needs to be washed up afterwards. She's very strong and active, so she won't sit still to wipe her clean, so bathing her is what I opt for. Maybe I could bump her supper time up a bit, and do the bath after that? I don't know. When she was younger, baths relaxed her. Guess it's kinda having an adverse effect now! Thank you or the advice.

    I would definitely bump up dinnertime. I save a portion of our dinner from the night before, and give that to DS between 430-5. He goes to bed between 7-8. We also do bath in the morning instead of the evening. It helps a lot.

    Have you tried using those large, easy to rinse off plastic bibs so not as much food gets on her body? Then you just have to wipe her hands/face which isnt too bad. It's a fight in our house too, but not too bad.

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  • DD is in bed by 8 pm at the latest every night although it sometimes takes her 20-30 minutes to fall asleep.

    How are your LO's naps during the day? Going to bed at 10 or 11 pm is really late for a child her age. It sounds as if she may be overtired which only complicates bedtime.
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  • My girls are up no later than 7:30pm, which is really rare. Their bedtime is 7. Like pp, we didn't cosleep and did CIO a while ago. Maybe you can try moving everything earlier. She could be overtired by 8pm and therefore having trouble falling asleep. If we try putting our girls to bed any later than 7:30, they're miserable and up for a LONG time. If we put them down happy around 7pm, they play quietly and fall asleep without a peep. GL! I know how frustrating bedtime can be. It was hell here until we did Ferber.
  • Bedtime is at 8 pm.  Sometimes we stretch it a bit, but she never goes to bed past 9 pm (and that is only in very special circumstances).

    Sometimes Lily doesn't fall asleep at 8 pm, but she knows that she needs to stay in her bed.  This is very rare however...normally she is asleep in 15 minutes.  

    Consistency is the key.  If you enforce bedtime you LO will adapt and eventually you will not have any problems.  If you let her decide when she wants to go to bed you are never going to get her on a schedule. 

    I find that many times overtiredness can lead to high energy.  I would bet a small fortune that is what you are dealing with when she is up till 10 to 11 am.

    You can do this.  Toddlers are very good at bedtime manipulation. :)  Lily has tried every trick in the book to keep from going to bed, but we just stay strong and stick to the schedule. 

    For example, a couple of months ago (in the winter) Lily went through a phase where she would take all of her clothes off right after we left the room and then cry that she was cold.  For the first couple of nights we went in and put her clothes back on until I realized it was just another way to delay bedtime.  The next night I told her that we would not be coming in to put her clothes back on, so if she took them off she would have to sleep that way.  Surprisingly it worked, but even if she had taken off her clothes we would have stuck to our guns and turned up the heat for that night. ;) 

     

    Edit- I should say that I have no problem employing CIO at this age...however we don't need it because we have this bedtime routine for so long.  


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  • DD no longer naps so she is in bed between 7:15 and 7:30 and asleep in 5 minutes. 

    At 21 months DD was still napping 1.5 - 2 hours after lunch. She was in bed by 8 and asleep by 8:30.

    I am assuming that your DD is still taking an afternoon nap (which is a good thing!). What time does she wake up from that? How long does she sleep? It could be that you ned to move her nap to an earlier time or perhaps shorten it so she is tired by bedtime. 

    Just some thoughts! GL! 

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    My toddler's normal bedtime is 7pm. I don't think he's ever been up past 8pm in his life (except when he was a newborn...by 4 months he was going to bed at 6:30pm).
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    Have you tried starting dinner and the bedtime route even earlier than you are now? DS is in bed by 7:30 at the latest and has been that way for a looong time. He needs to be in his pajamas in bed, reading a book by 7. Lights out at 7:30. Now that he is older we can push it when we need to, but if he stays up later he is up earlier/has more trouble faling asleep. She may be over-tired, so an earlier bedtime may help.

    I agree!

  • DS has been up until about 8ish with summer time.  It was consistently 7:30 but the light has messed that up.  Some nights he will fight us about it until nearly 10 and I want to shoot myself.  I have no idea what causes those nights to happen, so I'm not much help.
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