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Devastating News Today (warning - sensitive subjects mentioned)

As much love & support as I received from this board when I had a missed m/c last fall, I was hoping to never be back.  That said, here I am - full of devastation & sadness.

We opted to do a full-integrated screening for potential birth defects, and today was our ultrasound portion of the screening. 

We found out that our baby has six significant birth defects, and that the chance of survival through pregnancy is less than 10%.  The doctor & genetic counselor told us that if the baby made it through pregancy, he/she would not likely live very long.

We opted to have an amnio today to get more information about what caused the birth defects, and we're crossing our fingers that they were chromosonal instead of genetic.  If they were chromosonal, the genetic counselor told us that we have approximately a 1% chance of it happening again.

We are planning on having a D&E within the next week, and I am praying that we will get to be back on the pregnancy journey again soon.

Thanks in advance for your positive thoughts & prayers.


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  • I'm so sorry to hear of your news. I too had a missed miscarriage in September and was thrilled to be pregnant again, only to lose my baby girl to a cord accident last month. It is incredibly difficult to deal with, but if you need anything I hope you won't hesitate to ask here, the women are very supportive. I hope you get some answers with your amnio.
    Mommy to seven-year-old twins who are the joys of my life, and three sweet little ones in Heaven, including Miss Lily Grace who was lost at 20 weeks due to a cord accident.

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  • I am so sorry to hear this! Your story sounds so much like ours. However, unfortunately we were not advised to do Amnio or CVS. Our NT results came out completely normal and sonograms showed everything was normal until our 18 week gender sonogram. Our baby too was given a very small chance of survival (he had a rare bone disease with lethal markers - a chromosomal problem).  Our specialist thinks he had a recessive (inherited) gene but informed us that that was just a guess. If this is the case, then that would mean a 25% chance with each pregnancy that our baby would have this disease.

    We are praying very hard that it is an autosomal dominant gene (a spontaneous occurence) instead. The particular done disease that our baby had usually cannot be detected until the 18th-24th week of pregnancy (sometimes earlier if there are lethal markers).

    Oh and I had my D&E a little over 2 weeks ago if you need any advice on what to expect for that. I was terrified but the physical pain was nowhere near what the emotional pain was.

    I hope you get answers soon. Feel free to message me if you need someone to talk to about all of this. (There is someone else on this board who I believe had a similar situation who I've been meaning to contact.)

    Big hugs!

  • Celeste, I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. Words are not enough. Sending a heartfelt hug.
    TTC #1 since January 2011
    BFP#1 April 12, 2011, EDD December 24, 2011, strong heart beat at 7w3d, d&c at 10w6d
    BFP#2 Oct 24, 2011, natural miscarriage, EDD unknown
    After RPL testing my losses and subsequent infertility are considered unexplained.
    Cycle #22: Femara, TI, and progesterone = BFP!! 
    BFP#3 Dec 21, 2012. Beta #1 @14dpo = 134, progesterone 67.8. Beta #2 @ 17dpo = 664! Team green, EDD 9/1/13, healthy baby boy born 9/12/13!
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    Congratulations to the fabulous KGS2003! Her sweet boys are here! Grow boys grow!!!
  • Thank you so much, ladies!  I appreciate your kind words, willingness to share your personal experiences, and support!
    BabyFruit Ticker

  • I am so sorry for your loss, my thoughts and prayers are with you.
    Trying to conceive #2 since Oct. 2008 BFP 6/14/11, 7/5/11 - Gestational Sac measured 7 weeks 6 days, Baby measured 5 weeks 6 days, No Heartbeat, 7/11/11 - Missed Miscarriage confirmed, 7/18/11 - D&C
  • I am so sorry to hear this.  We found out there were defects at my anatomy scan.  The next day we tried to do an amnio, but my water broke instead. 

    I truly hope you have some good news with your results.  I can't imagine what it would be like to go through this 2x.  As you probably already know, the women on this board are great.  I hope you can find the support you need here.  If you ever need to talk, I'm here.

     Our baby boy,Logan, was born still at 19w3d on 7/1/2011
    Our 2nd baby boy, Mason, was born still at 20w3d on 1/31/2012

     After a much needed sanity break... we are praying for our rainbows

    ((BFP 7/29/13))  ((EDD 4/12/14))  It's BOY/GIRL twins!!!

  • I am so sorry for your losses.  Sending you and your family many thoughts and prayers. 
    For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Jeremiah 29:11 Natural MC @ 7wks 6days Missed MC @ 7wks 6days, baby measured 6wks 3days
  • I am so sorry for your loss.  I too was given the devastating news that our little girl had a severe birth defect that was non-life supporting.  The genetic counselor informed us that this had nothing to do with genetics or age, and encouraged us to try again when we are ready.  We had our D&E almost 4 weeks ago.  As another poster said the physical pain is nothing compared to the emotional pain.  The worst part of the D&E was the preparation appointments where they inserted laminaria to help my cervix dilate.  I had quite a bit of cramping after those visits, but the doctor provided pain meds.  This was our first pregnancy after 2 years of trying, which I think made this so much more heartbreaking.  We felt that our prayers had finally been answered only to have our hearts broken.


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  • I am so sorry for your loss
    1st BFP 6/17/2011, EDD 2/22/2012, Saw HB 7/12/2011 at 7wks6d, Missed MC 7/26/2011 at 9wks6d, D&C 7/27/2011

    2nd BFP 11/15/2011, EDD 7/11/2012, MC 11/16/2011 at 5wks6d

    3rd BFP 1/23/2012, EDD 10/4/2012, Our baby boy was born on 9/27/2012

    4th BFP 3/19/2014, EDD 11/30/2014, MC 3/31/2014 at 5wks1d

    5th BFP 6/1/2014, EDD 2/12/2015, diagnosed with a large subchorionic hemorrhage 6/17/2014, hemorrhage resolved 7/15/2014

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  • I am so sorry for your loss.  ((hugs))


    Chemical Pregnancy 2001, Married 8/8/09, TTC April 2011, BFP 5/8/11, Missed M/C @ 9wk5d, D&C 6/21/11 BFP 11/13/11 Chase Everett born at 29wks 0 days on 5/7/12 at 2 lbs 14 oz, 14 1/2 inches long.
  • So very sorry.  Wishing you all the best.

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