Anyone on here TTC without RE assistance?

halo+halo

Just curious. I know after 35 the chances go down, and a visit to the RE is highly recommended. But I'm just wondering how many are TTC on their own still before going to an RE...as for myself, I'm 37 and been seeing an RE since January of this year after many months without success. I do have a daughter who was conceived naturally, but that was before I turned 35!

Country Girl in the City

I just turned 37.  We are trying on our own until we get my insurnace worked out.  Once they approve they will pay for at least 50% of the RE.

shouldbworkin

I've been TTC since 11/09 (just after I turned 35), but had 2 losses.  I got PG right before I hit the 6 mos mark, so I didn't go to an RE.  I had a BO and went on to get PG again 3 mos later.  Had another BO and we TTC on and off until about May when I decided I needed a break (timing wasn't great for TTC so we were just not TTA for most of that time, although we had good timing and still no BFP).  Not sure if I ever will see an RE as this is #3 for us and we've been TTC for so long that we're kind of ambivalent about it.  I know it sounds awful, but we've just kind of accepted that we're ok where we are, but if something should happen that will be great too.  If this was #1 or #2, I know I would feel very differently, though.  Not that any child is more important or more wanted than another, but I do fear fertility treatments and multiples a bit.  Hope that's not flameful.  But, maybe I should look into it anyway, as I'm sure that my beliefs are a little misguided. 

Kat28655

I conceived DS without a RE (I was 35). Going to TTC #3 this fall and we will not be seeking assistance. We don't have the financial means to have lots of involvement, so if #3 is meant to be, then it will have to happen with our 'input' alone.

SaintCity

We got PG with DD naturally when I was 38.

I am now 40 and we are trying again naturally.  The only thing different this time is that I am using the CBEFM. 

Very best of luck to you!  Hope your stay here is a short one!

benoitfan

I was 37 when we got pg with #1, on our own with no assistance pre-pg with any dr.  This time around I am 40.  We are still doing it on our own with no assistance of any kind.  I don't have any known fertility problems.  DH is 30 and healthy, so we have no reason to think we will have any serious trouble.  If after 6 mos of trying and we are still not pg, we will contact my OB/gyn and go from there.  This is on his advice from last time. 

As per last time, we are just using the timing method and having a very busy time around ovulation!  Worked for us last time, so hopefully it will work again this time!

Tina224

I have been to an RE and so far all the tests have been fine.  I'm not sure we will get anymore assistance or not as it will be all OOP from here.  So for now we are still going the natural route.

javanut

Hi. I'm a lurker. We aren't seeing an RE. We got pregnant with our daughter on our own when I was 39 after six months of trying.

We are trying for a few months until I turn 42, which is at the end of September. I just got my cycle back after bfing so we'll probably only have about 5 cycles total. So for us this really is a Hail Mary pass with 10 seconds left on the clock. 

We would try RE assistance if he had not had a child already. But without insurance help, we would be significantly dipping into our savings (and maybe her college fund) to do so to pay for IVF. 

Jerem2911

We didn't want to have to go the RE route, but I wasn't ovulating on my own due to PCOS and hypothyroid.

HappyMrsK

I'm not seeing an RE. I'll be 36 next week. The plan is to try on our own through the summer and then see a RE in the fall if we have not conceived. Neither me or my H have any children previously.

Brosis

We're TTC #2 by using Preseed & BDing every other day during CDs 10-21.  I've tried OPKs as well, but haven't had much luck deciphering the results.  (Plus, knowing it's "time" puts undue pressure on DH & can make the BD session a total bust.)

We tried 2 different RE's when TTC our son, but were really turned off by their pushiness of technology-based methods.  (Ex. Encouraging donor eggs/IVF prior to an infertility work-up.)  We ended up conceiving naturally & hope for same blessing again, despite the fact I'm now 40.

annalisel

We've started to use a RE, but, thankfully most of my friends over 35 haven't needed to. Most have gotten pregnant in the first few months. The few who haven't gotten pregnant quickly have sought help though. So far - one success with IUI, one with IVF, me and one other. Don't let the numbers of women seeking help worry you. This board, and the bump TTC boards in general, likely skew towards RE help because those women who have gotten pregnant easily move on the to the pregnancy boards!

stever

We conceived naturally the first time and will try naturally with #2 as well. I have health issues that make me unwilling to try for too long or to move onto a RE.

cloud9climber

Yep.  We're trying on our own.  Got pregnant 2 times when I was 37 - first pregnancy ended in m/c and then the second time I got the cute little boy in my siggy  However, I did see an RE because I tested positive for ANA (my body likes to fight off the bad stuff and the good stuff like an embryo) and I have MTHFR (a blood clotting thing) so I had to get on blood thinners and prednisone for inflammation.  Both times I got pregnant very quickly.  My FSH was at 5.5 three years ago so egg quality was good and hopefully I still have a few good eggs left. 

I just turned 40 in May so I know it's a little harder each year.  I checked in with my RE and he said that he'd like us to try clomid if we're not pregnant in the next 3 months (this is our first cycle trying and I'm in the stupid 2 WW now and get to test this weekend EEK!!).  We will try the Clomid if necessary but that's it.  No IUI or IVF.  No offense to anyone but I just don't want to do all the hormones and deal with all the cost.  I have 2 friends doing it right now and they are batshitcrazy sometimes (hormones) and their marriages have suffered (neither of them has any children so they're trying for first babies).  I'm just not willing to take the risk on something like that which doesn't necessarily end with a baby. Now... having said that - if I hadn't been able to have that cute kid in my picture, I'm sure it'd be a different story.  The biggest issue - I'm scared shitless of multiples!

I'm also open to adoption but I don't want to wait for 8 years for a baby.  I'll be old as dirt by then!!! 

On a good note - I have a friend who is 41 and she just got pregnant naturally after trying for a little over a year so we are hopeful.   

 

 

FrogsHoney04

I got pregnant naturally when I was 37 and had my sweet son at 38.  I just got pregnant naturally one month shy of my 41st birthday.  I am due in March.  We took the stance we would either have our second naturally or not at all.  It took 6 months.

genekelly

I TTC for over 3 yrs w/out an RE before finally getting pregnant on my own 1 month before turning 40.  We now have a little boy.  We consulted an RE after 6 months trying but chose to not go down that path for personal reasons.  It was a difficult 3 years emotionally.  Good luck to you!  I hope your wait is much shorter than mine.

dknytx

I'm new around here...I was on the pregnant after 35 & March 2012 boards.  Not anymore.  Anyhoo, this board has kept me sane because my DH doesn't seem to understand that I'm 36 and not 26.

 Anyhoo, we're au natural right now.