when did you start to feel "comfortable" with pregnancy?

soontobee · October 2008

OK so according to OB I will be 13 weeks this week... Perinatologist I will be 14 weeks... ME still freaking out that everything will be ok. I am having a hard time turning off that voice inside my head that says... "you know maybe next time this will not be ok... you need to prepare yourself." We don't have an appointment until a week from Tuesday. The last ultrasound everything looked great... baby was moving... had a great heartbeat... ::sigh:: I just want to feel "comfortable" being pregnant... I think I am driving my husband nuts.

thanks,

sooonie

ocean71506 · October 2008

I am still not totally comfortable. After all I have been through with this and the last pregnancy, part of me always thinks the other shoe will drop. Then I try and remind myself of all the positives with this pregnancy, like a great u/s at 18 and 22 weeks and a great fetal echo. I would say at 14 weeks things are looking good!

newtlet · October 2008

It's a gradual thing. I was a nervous wreck up until about 13 weeks, and then started to relax a little to be out of the first tri. When I could consistently get the h/b on doppler at about the same time, that helped. Then when I could feel baby kicking regularly--like about 18 weeks onward, that's a big help. I think we managed to buy our first baby things at about 20 weeks, so that was a big milestone. Passing viability at 24 weeks made me a little more comfortable, too.

But like Ocean says, part of me is still waiting for the other shoe to drop. This is just never going to be one of those effortless pregnancies like women who have never been through a loss get to have. But it does get better.

ncsubride · October 2008

I started to feel more comftorable once I was able to feel the babies move on a regular basis. I still worry though about ridiculous things, I think since we all have been on the other side we know what could happen. I just take it day by day. I also drive my husband crazy, don't worry he will get used to it; mine has or at least he doesn't tell me I am crazy he just makes me feel better.

Kerri

Mrs.SPM · October 2008

I calmed down about something being "wrong" with the baby after the big u/s @ 19wks. I still have my paranoids thoughts and worries that something will go wrong. You worries don't go away they just change. I think it is normal and we are just more in tuned to the concerns. GL

mrsdanigirl8 · October 2008

I started to feel more comfortable after the big u/s at 18 weeks and than even more comfortable after I got the test results from the Expanded AFP test. Every once in a while though I have a freak out session. I am sure this will go on until that little baby comes out.

Redlass13 · October 2008

I agree with everything Newtlet said! It is a gradual and slow process. For me I started breathing easier at 14 weeks, then again after the big u/s, then again after 20 weeks and it just keeps getting better. Lately my fear is not carrying the baby to term but I remind myself that I am not in control and that my body and the baby knows what is best! Mantras have helped a lot and so has my doctor. She keeps telling me I have absolutely nothing to worry about.

cloud9climber · October 2008

After my NT scan at 12.5 weeks I felt tons better. ?I try to stay positive and enjoy every single day of this pregnancy. ?The chances are that everything will work out so I just keep the faith. ?

?GL!??

~*Jamie*~ · October 2008

I haven't hit the point of feeling comfortable yet, but it does help that we can hear the hb whenever we want on our doppler. The doppler has been a lifesaver for me! I am hoping that I will start to feel better after our big u/s in 4 weeks.

gremaud07 · October 2008

I was thinking about this this weekend..

I am 12 weeks today and I do thank God I am.. but I still feel like something could be wrong..

I bought a doppler but have yet to find the h/b so that doesn't help..

I think once I have my u/s at 14 weeks then I will feel better.

starshell · October 2008

THANK YOU for posting this question! I am so right there with you. I am worried and know I need to just relax. These posts are wonderful. Thank you all.