July 2011 Moms

DH decided what he wanted to do about circ'

Since we are all just trying to stay busy at this point....I thought I'd post my news.

Backstory: I bought "What to expect the first year" a long time ago and started reading it and they have a chapter about circumcisions.  I tell DH, "Awwww...I'm gonna feel so bad when they circ our boy."  DH says "I don't know if I want him to get cut".  I say "Oh, okay....I guess I never considered it an option...its just 'what you do'"

 Well, it turns out it was something that not everyone "just does".  I guess I didn't know that.  (Silly me, I know).  But a lot more little boys aren't having it done as they were when we were kids, so there is a trend for change.

So then we started this whole research and thinking about doing it or not doing it.  To be honest, I wouldn't mind either way.  I don't feel strongly about it one way or another.  I just want my baby boy to be healthy and happy and comfortable with his body.  So I left it up to DH.  He has the penis and all penis related issues are for "dad" so there.  I vowed to take on any labia/vagina/boob issues if we have a girl someday.  lol  

So after talking to a bunch of people, doing some research, DH decided to get LO circ'd.  I'm sure the outcome would have been different if we didn't live in the Midwest (especially Indiana - me and DH are from Chicago and San Diego - respectively - where people are more...progressive...but Indiana is pretty.....I don't want to say "small minded" but its just not a "go against the grain" kind of state.)   We know 10 couples with little boys born in the last year and all of them circ'd their boy.  I know, I know....I wouldn't jump off a bridge if everyone else did...but apparently I will circ my boy if everyone else did theirs...so there.

I don't want anyone to "contest" my decision with facts or figures...I know them all...believe me.  I know its not medically necessary, I know its really not a health risk to have foreskin like it was once believed.  I know the ama doesn't recommend doing it as a medical procedure...its a cosmetic one.  So I'm not looking for a debate...like I said....its just news.

 

 

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Re: DH decided what he wanted to do about circ'

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  • We're team green and still undecided if LO is a boy if we would do it or not. We're in Ohio, so I know what you mean about living in the midwest. I also think it's strange that random people will talk to me about weather or not we're getting it done. I think it's a very personal choice and I really don't want to know what DR did your LO 18 years ago....Worse yet, just assuming we're getting it done and asking what DR is doing it. :-/ Unless you will be changing his diaper, I don't think you need to know.
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  • I think this topic ranks up there with breastfeeding vs. formula feeding, co-sleeping vs. not, etc. etc. Someone will always have an opposing argument. Good for you for doing your research and making a decision!
  • I'm glad to hear that you did your research to help come to your decision- I think that is the most important part.
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  • eh, people will squawk in your ear about this topic either way. i think you're brave to even post about this, lol. we all just have to make the best decisions for our own families.  
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    eh, people will squawk in your ear about this topic either way. i think you're brave to even post about this, lol. we all just have to make the best decisions for our own families.  

    In the "old" days of July 2011 past, I wouldn't have posted this at all.  But now that its near the end, the drama girls are mostly gone (or have gotten tired of stirring stuff up) and I think everyone is pretty cool with the fact that we all make different choices....and that's okay. I think the board matured a lot in the past month or so...its slower...but much friendlier and supportive.

    And plus, I'd like to think I worded it in a way that wasn't attacking or anything...like I said, it was just "newsy" not looking for a debate...just wasting time bumping at work!  Stick out tongue

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    imageMrs Case:
    eh, people will squawk in your ear about this topic either way. i think you're brave to even post about this, lol. we all just have to make the best decisions for our own families.  

    In the "old" days of July 2011 past, I wouldn't have posted this at all.  But now that its near the end, the drama girls are mostly gone (or have gotten tired of stirring stuff up) and I think everyone is pretty cool with the fact that we all make different choices....and that's okay. I think the board matured a lot in the past month or so...its slower...but much friendlier and supportive.

    And plus, I'd like to think I worded it in a way that wasn't attacking or anything...like I said, it was just "newsy" not looking for a debate...just wasting time bumping at work!  Stick out tongue

    oh yeahhhhh, i feel you on that one. i weighed in one time on a post about this subject and this one chick totally tried to rip me a new one. she wrote this long, ignorant, passive/aggressive rant directed at me and i hadn't even said anything inflammatory. at first i considered responding but then i figured it was best not to dignify her BS with a response. she was a frequent poster. i know alll about things calming down. it's good to get support from people, even when they don't share your stance. sometimes it amazes me how vested people get into other people's decisions. for what it's worth, barring anything blatantly dangerous, i always try to support people's decisions. glad you guys were able to come to a decision you're comfy with-that's what matters most! 

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  • hahaha Love this ( and all the comments too :))  Im letting DH decide as well... the boys in his family were all circumcised, but mine weren't. I know at least one of my brothers got it done later in life, when he had to have surgery down there anyway(very painful- poor guy).  I guess the best way is if they can choose what they want later in life, but again, that is super painful, so Im just going to let DH decide.

     

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    hahaha Love this ( and all the comments too :))  Im letting DH decide as well... the boys in his family were all circumcised, but mine weren't. I know at least one of my brothers got it done later in life, when he had to have surgery down there anyway(very painful- poor guy).  I guess the best way is if they can choose what they want later in life, but again, that is super painful, so Im just going to let DH decide.

     

    I figure having a penis entitles him to 51% of the vote!  lol

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    I let DH make the final decision as well.  We were team green and I was almost 100% sure that we were having another girl so when Orrin was not a girl we really had to have the big talk lol.  We chose for him to be circumcised.  It really sucked at first because I could tell it hurt him, but he is much better now thank goodness.  I will admit to some guilt afterwards though but mainly because he was hurting.

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  • imagea_brasuell:
    I let DH make the final decision as well.  We were team green and I was almost 100% sure that we were having another girl so when Orrin was not a girl we really had to have the big talk lol.  We chose for him to be circumcised.  It really sucked at first because I could tell it hurt him, but he is much better now thank goodness.  I will admit to some guilt afterwards though but mainly because he was hurting.

     

    Same for us. DS is circumcised, when we changed his first diaper afterwards with the nurse, I had my first true "OMG, did I do the wrong thing?" mom moment. Within a couple diaper changes it looked better, and within a couple days it was fine and didn't need any special care.   

    OP I think it's great you and your DH researched it and made an educated decision. 

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