Baby Shower for Second Child

kellycoffee23

Hi Guys, This is my first time posting! I was just wondering if anyone was apprehensive about having a baby shower for there second child? My first son is almost 2, the same people who attended his would attend my new expected little ones shower. Thoughts??? Thanks!

Waiting4myJulyBaby

I think you're going to get a lot of people to respond who think it's tacky (especially if you register and/or throw it yourself) and with only 2 years difference in age I can't imagine there is much you need. 

I don't think a "sprinkle" though or a luncheon with a few close friends and family members is bad, I know my mom and sister and a few aunts plan to do something small for me for this baby (especially because it's a girl and my first is a boy) but I would never want/expect it to be in the same capacity as my first baby shower. 

kellycoffee23

Thanks so much!

ghdst1

I have a lot of friends who get a sprinkle.  It is for a 2nd child and it is much smaller, less shower stuff and more just girls getting together to celebrate baby #2.  Gifts tend to be much less expensive and focused on necessities like diapers, bottles, pacis, wipes, burp cloths etc.  Things that get really gross the first time around and you probably want new ones anyway.  No one registers for it and much more laid back.  I am actually throwing one for my friend next month and we are having a lunch at Olive Garden.  Should be fun!

MNgirl326

If a friend wants to do a small get together to celebrate baby number 2, that is fine. 

If it is a full blown shower, I personally think it is a little tacky.  Especially if you are throwing it yourself.

MrsMincks

I have a friend who had two baby showers, and it didn't seem tacky at all - she had a boy first, and the second shower was for a girl, so of course she needed some new things! She made it clear that she was mostly looking for simple things like clothing (and that used was fine) and gift cards so she could buy things like groceries, diapers, etc. more cheaply. A few of us also gave her a "date night basket" for her to use whenever she and her husband were finally able to have a night to themselves. It had a bottle of nice champagne, gift cards to a great restaurant and a movie theatre, a CD of romantic songs from the 40's and 50's, and a little bottle of perfume. Gifts like that can really mean a lot at a second shower, even if they aren't conventional!  

I think if you're throwing a second shower or are having it thrown for you, it could be a little tacky if you go full-out, but if you make it low-key and don't ask for very expensive gifts, it can be perfectly fine. 

greengirl0909

I've had 2 offers for showers, and I've turned them both down. IMO it's gift grabby to ask for more baby gifts.  Many people will bring a small gift when the baby is born anyway. 

As for sprinkles, where I'm from it's usually an already organized group, like say a mother's group or a church class that already meets, that just decides to bring small gifts for the MTB to one of the sessions. 

 

GL 

LLB430

Both 2nd showers AND Sprinkles are tacky in my opinion, unless there is more thana 10  year age difference.  It is not done where I am from.  To bad if you got all gender specific stuff that won't "work" for the next baby.  I was team green but even If I wasn't I would have registered for all neutral baby gear.  This why I roll my eyes at pink strollers and car seats if people are planning on another one.

mamaofboys

I think anyone throwing themselves a shower is always tacky. 

I think if there is a large gap between children or if they are different genders, it is ok if someone wants to throw you a shower (its not like it was your idea). I would just suggest keeping it small and with only your closest friends and family.

My friends threw me a surprise shower and it was completely a shock to me! But they wanted to honor me and this baby so I was really blessed. (We are also really close and are the type to want to always celebrate everything so it wasn't offensive to anyone)

ronnie day

My MIL is already talking about throwing me another shower. I have told her and my mom that I would like to politely decline. I just feel weird accepting because I saved EVERYTHING from my DD, and since we are staying Team Green, I don't see the point. If they want to do a sprinkle with just family and close friends after this one is born, I guess I would be ok with it...but it still makes me feel awkward.

gnomely

Having a second shower is fine. You should do whatever you want, and if people think it's tacky, then so be it. It's your life, right?

In my region (because I believe the etiquette of this is dependent on region) showers in general are low key (think--evites, potlucks, no renting of halls or an of that mess) and I've been to a few second showers/celebrations/BBQs/sprinkles. And guess what? They're not tacky. They turn out fine. Usually there aren't that many gifts--maybe a massage for the mom. It's just a baby themed get together.

So do what you want. If you're concerned, consider the general etiquette of your region. 

 

kellycoffee23

Thanks Guys for all your responses. My MIL is the one who brought it up. I had never heard of a Sprinkle, which sounds pretty fun! Just family and close friends....thanks again, and best wishes to you all!