disappointment & joy

red1115

Hello ladies:

Well the bad news is that we found out this morning that i'm not pregnant. So the injectibles didn't work - But hey- I got over my fear of needles!!

My wonderful Orge of a husband couldnt find the words to comfort me, so he just picked a flower from the garden & brought it to me. After a good long cry, I dusted myself off & headed into work.  I then get a text from a friend of mine (expecting in November!) that she's having trouble with the person who was planning her baby shower and would I mind helping pull it together? 

Maybe I'm just weird - but I'm thrilled about doing this for her!  She's such a great lady & she's been so supportive during our whole fertility roller coaster that this just seems like a tiny, little way I can say "thanks."  Despite that fact that I seem to be surrounded by pregnant women (most who "weren't even trying!"), I'm not feeling particularly bitter - just a little less blessed than those lucky ladies.  Does that make any sense?  There's always next month...!

Anyway, Hubby & I have decided to hold off on IVF (our next step according to Doc) for a bit, as the cost is rather prohibitive even without donor eggs!  Lack of Insurance coverage has seriously drained our bank accounts, so it may be awhile... Besides, I really want to do some more research on what's involved. (How they prep my body, the actuall retrieval process, what's the time line & success rate??, etc.)  Any insight you ladies can provide on what I can expect would be greatly appreciated!

 

boymamaco

I'm so sorry that you got a negative. You are so sweet to be able to plan a shower for your friend. That is so generous and self-less of you. As for IVF - there are a couple gals on here that are going through it now. You could also try the TTTC and the IF boards. Best of luck trying on your own in the meantime.

dalm0m

I am too new to offer any medical insights but I've learned a lot from Web MD.

It is so sweet of you to arrange the shower.  I'm glad you are excited by the prospect.  Hopefully karma will work it's magic & all those PG women will be "contagious." 

Country Girl in the City

Sorry for your bad news.  It is so wonderful that you are able to plan your friends baby shower.  I can't give you much advice on IVF because I am only in the first steps of going to see an RE.  I can tell you that the one that I am going to does have several payment options so that you don't have to come up with all of the funds up front in cash.  Maybe that could be an option for you?

BeckyP005

So sorry about your negative.:(  The gesture that your husband did with the flower is sooo sweet. Great that you can help your friend..wish i could of done that few months back with my friend. I need to stop being bitter..I hate when I;m like that.

No advice on IVF. That is our next step but DH doesn't want to spend the $. Blah blah is what I say

lindaeverly

I'm sorry that you got a BFN this month!  I think that it is amazing that your are still excited for your friend that you still want to do the shower for her.  I know that IF can get you down & not want to be around anyone that is KU.  You're a good friend!