Question for those with multiple little ones...

xoladiebug

I'm sorry to crash your board with this question and then bail.  I'm post on the TTC after Loss board and don't have any children:

My husband and I were asked to be Godparents last fall and now our Godson (Kyson) is celebrating his 1st Birthday soon.  Kyson's parents are very dear friends of ours - initially childhood friends of my husband and now very dear friends to me also.  I really want to do something special for him and continue that tradition for each birthday.  I guess I worry that this gesture towards Kyson will hurt the feelings of his 3 brothers.  What is your take on this?  

AnnapolisLari

You're Kyson's godparents, not the other 3 kids. You have no obligation to give them anything. Kids need to learn that it's not always all about them. I don't give my son a gift on my daughter's birthday or vice versa.

 

britanyd

I guess I'm all about "fairness".... but we always send along a small gift for the other kids as well.  Example, I'm meeting a dear friend of mine and 2 of her 3 kids have birthdays around this time of year.  I'm bringing them birthday gifts, and the third child is getting a small car.  It's just a token gift, but it will make them happy so why not?

Lari is right--you're under no obligation to get the other kids gifts, but it would be a nice gesture.

This was actually the main reason that both my kids have the same set of godparents.  DD1 had awesome, thoughtful godparents, and anyone else we would have picked for DD2 would have paled in comparison.

Alexandra*sMom

I think kids need to learn that just because one gets something on his/her b-day all should not get it.

If you want to get Kyson a gift and do it yearly, GO FOR IT!

Bride2b2004

Idk, what kind of a thing are you thinking about?  Kids get things on their birthdays and the others are jealous, but eventually understand they will get their birthday too... and gifts typically differ because ages differ.  So, I am having a hard time imagining what the "special" tradition would be and how that might impact the other kids.  If we are talking about a gift, they will be getting use to each other getting different b'day gifts, so no big deal... if you are talking about a trip to Disney World only one gets to experience each year, that would be totally different IMO.