July 2011 Moms

*COMomma81*

I just wanted you to know that I may not be super cool and well known or in the facebook group or anything.... but I like you.

You've given me some great insight and advice over the past few weeks.  Someone will probably call me out for unicorns and rainbows...but oh well.

Seemed like you needed a warm fuzzy.

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Re: *COMomma81*

  • I agree. I don't understand why people have to be mean. This is supposed to be a safe happy place for us to come and chat. no negativity from me (unless I am talking about work lol)
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  • I really appreciate this. Thank you.  It is so flippin' stupid how much I've taken all of this to heart, because...let's be honest...it's the internet!!! But, it still hurts tremendously, especially since I have felt like I've gotten to know some of the people on here and I have truly only tried to provide support and advice and share experiences on here. I am completely bewildered by what was said, and, unfortunately am still no closer to understanding.

    So, thank you. It has meant more than you know. I hope you had a lovely holiday weekend. 

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  • aesfaesf member

    i dont hate you.  I actually like you.  

    I'd like to shed light on the issue, as I seem to see it w/o attacking you, as you have asked for an answer.  I can think of multiple instances where you have said you aren't interested in the FB group and blamed the members, on the whole, for instigating nonesense drama. (But I can't search for ***, so I can't provide examples) Which is offensive to those of us who don't come here to stir sh!t up. Didn't you just recently, also, blame the FB group for July being slow?  Not to mention you are super snarky... which I personally really like.  Im just a b!tch like that. I love a good snark.

     However, I like you and your opinions.  I read your posts (which says a lot because I hardly read any posts any more). I come here to read yours and select other poeples posts and opinions.  (I dont come here for endless contraction/mucus plug discussion, thats for sure)  Im not a fan of excluding people but quite frankly I can also understand why some people have been hurt.  That being said, I am sorry that you have also been hurt.  I think that sucks too. 

     

    To sum up this convoluted post - i like you and your opinions, im sorry your feelings were hurt and im also sorry you took internet posts to heart.  Try to remember, its just a message board full of anonymous strangers. 

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    I'd like to shed light on the issue, as I seem to see it w/o attacking you, as you have asked for an answer.  I can think of multiple instances where you have said you aren't interested in the FB group and blamed the members, on the whole, for instigating nonesense drama. (But I can't search for ***, so I can't provide examples) Which is offensive to those of us who don't come here to stir sh!t up. Didn't you just recently, also, blame the FB group for July being slow?  Not to mention you are super snarky... which I personally really like.  Im just a b!tch like that. I love a good snark.

    I'm not sure exactly what COMomma has said about July being slow, but I don't think it'd be wrong to point out that the FB group has something to do with it.  I won't try to speak for COMomma about whether she meant to "blame" the FB group or not, but I'll say that I have said it -- without any negativity...just a statement of fact.  I suspect that's how COMomma meant it as well. 

    Of course a parallel group is going to affect posts on this board, but there's absolutely nothing wrong with that, esp. since in the past the FB group has always been good about letting people know that they exist and how to join.  In fact I recall MANY MANY posts about that over the past several months.  (I don't join because I once had a very bad experience with privacy issues on FB and so now I have a personal rule about no FB interaction with people I don't know IRL.)  Anyway, just wanted to point out that on this particular point it's possible that no harm was meant and that at least some of us (indeed -- I expect most of us!) have no problem with the FB group whether we are members or not.   

    aesf::  I won't speak to the other points you make, as I just can't offer any insight there.  P.S.  I miss you.  I'm glad you're still around a little. 

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    imageHelloAnnie!:

    Iaesf::  I won't speak to the other points you make, as I just can't offer any insight there.  P.S.  I miss you.  I'm glad you're still around a little. 

    I miss you too. I return for you as well.  I simply don't have a lot to add right now. im kinda burnt our in general. I don't update my blog either. 

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  • imageaesf:

    i dont hate you.  I actually like you.  

    I'd like to shed light on the issue, as I seem to see it w/o attacking you, as you have asked for an answer.  I can think of multiple instances where you have said you aren't interested in the FB group and blamed the members, on the whole, for instigating nonesense drama. (But I can't search for ***, so I can't provide examples) Which is offensive to those of us who don't come here to stir sh!t up. Didn't you just recently, also, blame the FB group for July being slow?  Not to mention you are super snarky... which I personally really like.  Im just a b!tch like that. I love a good snark.

     However, I like you and your opinions.  I read your posts (which says a lot because I hardly read any posts any more). I come here to read yours and select other poeples posts and opinions.  (I dont come here for endless contraction/mucus plug discussion, thats for sure)  Im not a fan of excluding people but quite frankly I can also understand why some people have been hurt.  That being said, I am sorry that you have also been hurt.  I think that sucks too. 

     

    To sum up this convoluted post - i like you and your opinions, im sorry your feelings were hurt and im also sorry you took internet posts to heart.  Try to remember, its just a message board full of anonymous strangers. 

    Thank you. I truly appreciate you taking the time to shed some light on what is going on. I cannot begin to tell you how sad and confused I was. (Which, I realize is silly in the grand scheme because it is the internet for cripes sake). But I have truly only had good intentions I had NO IDEA I had offended anyone. It makes me terribly sick to think that all this time so many had this opinion of me.

    I have to say, I'm really shocked that my comments were found to be so offensive/hurtful. I can't search for crap either, but what was said was never meant to be in the context "oh that FB group is a bunch of drama". Because I've never even felt that way. I believe the discussion was centered solely around the change in the dynamic of the group on here and what I mentioned was was the whole troll saga back in April (?). But I never blamed the FB group, or at least never intended for it to come across that way. And if it did, I really am sorry. Not what I meant at all.  I have never had a problem with the FB group or its existence. Yes, I have said I wasn't interested in the past...simply because I didn't understand how it worked and figured I was on the internet too much as it was. Then when all the regulars left in mass-exit, I did express interest, but again was gun-shy because I still didn't have a clear understanding of it in regards to privacy, etc....

    And, as HelloAnnie pointed out... of course the FB group is directly correlated to it being slow here. Especially since hardly of the "regulars" ever come here anymore.  A sentiment that has been echoed by several others as well. And a few of the FB/regulars have come here and said as much as well. My comment was never directed in a way that I was pissy about it or remotely trying to stir drama. It was just stating the facts.

    Since I can't defend myself over there...I hope some of the other FB people get a chance to read this and know I sincerely apologize for offending anyone. I am not the type of person that enjoys drama or hurting peoples' feelings and it really does make me sad to know that I have hurt or offended anyone. 

    Aesf- thank you again for your comments and for taking the time to explain this to me. I hope you had a nice holiday weekend and I wish you all the best as you prepare for your little one's arrival. 

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