Babies: 3 - 6 Months
If you were team green...
Did you and your DH/SO/baby daddy both agree on not finding out? If only one of you wanted to be team green, how did that work out? Was there any stress involved in not knowing the sex?
DH and I are talking about baby #2 and I really want it to be a surprise next time. DH thinks the idea of not finding out the sex until birth is a stupid idea. I'm thinking maybe we could have the ultrasound tech write it down and put it in an envelope so he can read it alone and just make him swear not to tell me.
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Re: If you were team green...
Funny you said that. With ds i found out & dh didnt!!! It's fine with me, can your dh keep a secert?
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Yes and no. I had a surprise bridal shower that he knew about. He told me that I was having a bridal shower but never told me where or when. I'm not really sure how he would do with keeping that kind of secret though!
Pre pg I was a big team greener, when we got pg I was more wishy washy, but DH wanted to be green, so we did.
I don't think I would like one of us knowing and the other not... it would be like one of us knowing the baby better or something?
But next time I am still cool with whatever DH wants... either way.
And in the end I would have been way more surprised with a girl, since sooooo many people thought we were having a boy.
We were team green...both in agreement about it from day one. However, when my 18 week appt came around and we had the chance to find out...it was very very hard for me not to. If DH said "OK, let's just find out" I totally would have. It is absolutely worth it though. After that appointment came and went we didn't even think twice about our decision and it was exciting for us and everyone around us. The way we looked at it was, there are so few surprises in life, so why not enjoy this one. It also gave me th motivation to PUSH! We also went the traditional way with having the doctor announce "IT'S A BOY!"
I say go for it.
Thank you so much ladies! I really want that moment where I push LO out and the doctor announces what it is. It just seems like it would be amazing (not that pushing out a baby isn't already an amazing feeling!).
I went and woke DH up to talk about it, again. He still thinks it's a stupid idea and that we can't properly plan for a LO without knowing the sex. I honestly think he's only against it because his brother was team green with their latest LO. He said he really wouldn't tell me if I didn't want to know because he respects my wish to not know, but there is no way that he isn't finding out ASAP! Some of you make a very good point about only one person knowing and not being okey with it. I really don't know if I would be okey with him knowing and not me. I want him to find out with me...when the LO makes his/her arrival! We still have time to think about it, but I really wanted to see what others who have been there thought
Thank you!
my husband really wanted to be team green both times. When I pressed him on it, it turns out it was because that was the one moment for the father...announcing the sex to me
I didn't care, so we were team green both times.
That is so cute!! I'll tell DH about how he can tell me the sex and see if maybe that will help change his mind
i was team green. the bf wanted to know. at the 20 week ultrasound the tech wasn't going to tell us because she says it never works out. but i promised her it would and she wrote it in a piece of paper and stapled it up. i left the room and told the bf not to tell me if he wrote it and we'd never bring it up again. before the ultrasound we had a list of 2 boy names and 2 girl names and we would decide after we saw the baby. but at around 38 weeks i wanted to revisit girl names cause we weren't seeing eye to eye. addison was a ringer and that's what we chose.
it wasn't hard for me because i knew when we were talking about babies that i didn't want to know. i felt that either way i would have been disappointed and by labor time i would use finding out what the baby was as motivation to push through it (i didn't know my body would push no matter what) i haven't thought about LO #2 so i don't know how i'll do it.
I never wanted to find out, even before I was pg! When we went for the anatomy scan, he was still hoping that I'd change my mind but he did end up leaving it up to me. There was no stress or arguing related to the decision. He got a little antsy towards the end but then again so did i....