I hate it when other pregnant mamas think their pregnancy is more special than other pregnant mamas. Ex, a work friend of mine is like 3months ahead of me, so I like to ask her about when she found out the sex, when the baby started moving, stuff like that. She responds with well, I found out early because I had to have an emergency ultrasound, but you'll have to wait till your 20wks. Thats fine, but she brings this up every time she has a chance. The doctor put her on diability because she didnt want to go back to work and she always likes to bring that up too. It just irritates me.
I hate those headband things everyone puts on their baby girls. Especially the ones with the giant flower. Ugh.
I hate it when people wait to find out the sex before they buy stuff like strollers and carseats. Your baby does not need everything to be pink or blue! Plus, once you have another kid, you might have to go out and buy a new one!
Here is another...I think kids look silly in sunglasses.
Me too, I want to be able to reuse the big stuff. I know my family is gonna want to throw a baby shower and I'm tempted just to not tell anyone about the sex so that whatever we do get is works for boy or girl.
1. Clothes: I can't stand big logos or writing on kids clothes (Especially a quip about being spoiled or any bratty behavior), unless someone wants to pay me for advertising. Yes, they are funny but just isn't as versatile for our family.
Little girl's underwear with glitter or jewels. Why would my 7 years old need that?
2. Contests: The giant nursery = love for the baby.
The pregnancy being further along contest. Yeah, I really want my baby born early just so they are "older" then yours. Craziness! To be fair I have only had this with the other first pregnancy ladies.
3. GERMS: People being shocked that I won't be bubbling my baby for the first year. I was strapped to my mom's back to work outside, and so will my children (with appropriate clothing and sunblock). We have large gardens, and livestock to tend. It was a great way to expose the working dogs to the baby, and right there with mom. I really don't understand when the same people will support putting my baby in daycare as soon as possible. Where is the logic in that? Are there no germs in a daycare?
4. Spouses: Consistently whiny about your spouse, ummm you picked them, and I don't think feeding the whiny attitude is going to magically help either.
DD is only three and I'm already starting to get skeeved out by some girls' clothes. Like I don't really think one-shoulder tops are appropriate for little girls. It's not an issue of how much skin is showing, because I put DD in little sundresses with skinny straps, tanks/camisoles with shorts, etc., but those seem more natural on her than the sort of clothes that it seems like teenagers/adult women wear to be deliberately provocative. Yes, I am going to be that parent who tells her daughter, "You're not leaving the house dressed like THAT, young lady!"
And I also hate onesies with cute slogans on them. We got SO many of them as gifts for DD and I usually just used them as underwear with layered outfits. DH refused to let her wear the one that said "Does this diaper make my butt look big?"
1. Totally agree with pp's about the nurseries, baby gear and cutesy clothing... I realize some people maybe just have the money to blow and do it more for themselves because it's fun, but I cannot fathom spending tons of money on expensive crap that will get destroyed, bit to pieces, pooped on, broken, etc. (especially CRIBS!) that the baby couldn't care less about. I am going to bargain shop as much as possible as well as get as much GN stuff as possible. I'll spend the money I save on the kid once they actually can give input on what they like and can appreciate the stuff a bit more. Not that I'm cheap, I'd just hate to waste so much money! Kids are freaking tornadoes!
ETA: I don't understand crib sets at all... yes they're adorable, but you probably won't even use at least half of it! All a baby's crib should have are sheets and maybe a mobile... bumpers are out, I've heard from BTDT moms that the diaper stacker things a pretty useless, the quilts aren't safe or practical at all, and the hampers are much too cute to allow poopy clothes to hang out in and babies to eventually suck and chew on... IDK, I'd just rather buy the usefull stuff seperately. And yes, you can still have a cute theme without buying a set.
2. Porn, to me in my relationship, is totally fine. We watch it together sometimes and Dh will watch it, rarely, if he feels the need especially if I'm not in the mood and it's been a while. I guess my thought is hate the player, not the game, in a sense. Porn, like many other potential vices, is just a tool. "It" does not destroy ANYTHING, people do because of their choices. If they can't control themselves in whatever they are using to harm relationships, it is not porn/alcohol/video games/etc's fault, it is the ADULT's issue. I can totally understand if some men avoid it because of the potential for harm and kudos to them for their control and knowledge of their weaknesses. But just because some men use it inappropriately does not mean it and of itself, is evil. Because many others can partake and it actually can be used as an accessory to a great relationship. Porn is not a threat whatsoever to our relationship, it isn't even close to being a comparison thing or whatever. It's just a visual stimulant, just like a video game can be used as fun entertainment or some women will use emotional fantasies/toys to arouse themselves.
Baby-related, though, I'm not into piercing the ears of infant girls. DH's family does it, but it ain't happening if this this little thing is a girl.
Funny, I'm a republican in California, need I say more.
DD July 2008 & DS December 2011*
TTC 09/2001*
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mc 3/23/06 my 30th b-day *
successful IVF EDD 7/08
DD 7/08 *
natural conception EDD 11/05/10
m/c 3/23/10 yes my 34th b-day *
I don't celebrate my b-day but
love to celebrate my daughters!!
2. Porn, to me in my relationship, is totally fine. We watch it together sometimes and Dh will watch it, rarely, if he feels the need especially if I'm not in the mood and it's been a while. I guess my thought is hate the player, not the game, in a sense. Porn, like many other potential vices, is just a tool. "It" does not destroy ANYTHING, people do because of their choices. If they can't control themselves in whatever they are using to harm relationships, it is not porn/alcohol/video games/etc's fault, it is the ADULT's issue. I can totally understand if some men avoid it because of the potential for harm and kudos to them for their control and knowledge of their weaknesses. But just because some men use it inappropriately does not mean it and of itself, is evil. Because many others can partake and it actually can be used as an accessory to a great relationship. Porn is not a threat whatsoever to our relationship, it isn't even close to being a comparison thing or whatever. It's just a visual stimulant, just like a video game can be used as fun entertainment or some women will use emotional fantasies/toys to arouse themselves.
I could not agree more, and I feel that women who are very threatened by porn are insecure in their relationships. Thank you for pointing out that adults need to take responsibility for their actions! You are so right about kdis being tornadoes, too. When I started teaching I learned this first hand. I bought a bunch of cute stuff to organize the classroom. I spent $1000! All I had to show for it by November was a broken pile of rubble.
1. Totally agree with pp's about the nurseries, baby gear and cutesy clothing... I realize some people maybe just have the money to blow and do it more for themselves because it's fun, but I cannot fathom spending tons of money on expensive crap that will get destroyed, bit to pieces, pooped on, broken, etc. (especially CRIBS!) that the baby couldn't care less about. I am going to bargain shop as much as possible as well as get as much GN stuff as possible. I'll spend the money I save on the kid once they actually can give input on what they like and can appreciate the stuff a bit more. Not that I'm cheap, I'd just hate to waste so much money! Kids are freaking tornadoes!
ETA: I don't understand crib sets at all... yes they're adorable, but you probably won't even use at least half of it! All a baby's crib should have are sheets and maybe a mobile... bumpers are out, I've heard from BTDT moms that the diaper stacker things a pretty useless, the quilts aren't safe or practical at all, and the hampers are much too cute to allow poopy clothes to hang out in and babies to eventually suck and chew on... IDK, I'd just rather buy the usefull stuff seperately. And yes, you can still have a cute theme without buying a set.
2. Porn, to me in my relationship, is totally fine. We watch it together sometimes and Dh will watch it, rarely, if he feels the need especially if I'm not in the mood and it's been a while. I guess my thought is hate the player, not the game, in a sense. Porn, like many other potential vices, is just a tool. "It" does not destroy ANYTHING, people do because of their choices. If they can't control themselves in whatever they are using to harm relationships, it is not porn/alcohol/video games/etc's fault, it is the ADULT's issue. I can totally understand if some men avoid it because of the potential for harm and kudos to them for their control and knowledge of their weaknesses. But just because some men use it inappropriately does not mean it and of itself, is evil. Because many others can partake and it actually can be used as an accessory to a great relationship. Porn is not a threat whatsoever to our relationship, it isn't even close to being a comparison thing or whatever. It's just a visual stimulant, just like a video game can be used as fun entertainment or some women will use emotional fantasies/toys to arouse themselves.
That's what I said in what I thought was my last porn statement lol it's not porn that ruins relationships, it's the person's own problems. Anyone who is addicted to anything, whether it's video games, drinking, drugs or porn, is an addict who needs help. It's just like facebook-- if someone has an affair b/c they reconnected with an old flame, it's not facebook's fault, it's obviously a problem within the marriage. I use this example b/c I've heard many stories of facebook destroying families. If someone is happy and secure in their marriage and life, they are not going to cheat. Same thing with porn.
Gravitation is not responsible for people falling in love. -- Einstein
I don't like when adults wear disney apparel or pooh apparel on a regular basis. I can understand maybe if you are at the theme parks but come one people...grow up already.
As far as porn...whatever floats your boat.
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Miscarriage 09/30/08
First cycle of clomid August 09
Second cycle of clomid September 09
BFP 09/30/09
Miscarriage 10/10/09
Three more rounds of clomid and no success
Diagnosed with Unexplained Infertility
Abnormal Bleeding for 3 months resulted in D&C but results were normal
November 2010 100mg clomid but didn't respond
December 2010 forced break for a cyst
February 2011 150mg clomid but still no response
March 2011 250mg clomid and responded! Ovidrel trigger shot and IUI on March 31 Beta #1 11dpo: 27 Beta #2 15dpo: 85 Beta #3 18dpo 276
Yep. I hate winnie the pooh and all cartoon characters. If you want to give me a dvd for my child to watch later, fine but I am apparently high mantenance and will probably not use the winnie the pooh diaper bag that you think is the cutest thing on the planet.
Further more - I will not be doing a nursery animal "theme" I don't like animals unless it is my dog and I don't want stupid bears or fish hanging all in my house. We will have a color and pattern scheme and that's it. When my child is 5 and obsessed with dinosaurs that will be different but I would prefer to wait.
Lastly - First time moms can be excited. Yes we may by a $30 outfit because it is cute but if we can afford it and want it then back off. The hubby and I have waited 2 years and suffered through 2 miscarriages to be giddy and buy ridiculous baby stuff and no one is going to make me feel guilty about it! This is mostly aimed at some of my co-workers that are driving me nuts with "advice". So what if I am overly organized and have a "pregnancy binder" to help me plan the arrival of my long awaited child. I get that you didn't have a binder and your child turned out find but I am highly organized and very excited, so shut up!
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Me too, I want to be able to reuse the big stuff. I know my family is gonna want to throw a baby shower and I'm tempted just to not tell anyone about the sex so that whatever we do get is works for boy or girl.
So here are mine is what I am guilty of -
1. Clothes: I can't stand big logos or writing on kids clothes (Especially a quip about being spoiled or any bratty behavior), unless someone wants to pay me for advertising. Yes, they are funny but just isn't as versatile for our family.
Little girl's underwear with glitter or jewels. Why would my 7 years old need that?
2. Contests: The giant nursery = love for the baby.
The pregnancy being further along contest. Yeah, I really want my baby born early just so they are "older" then yours. Craziness! To be fair I have only had this with the other first pregnancy ladies.
3. GERMS: People being shocked that I won't be bubbling my baby for the first year. I was strapped to my mom's back to work outside, and so will my children (with appropriate clothing and sunblock). We have large gardens, and livestock to tend. It was a great way to expose the working dogs to the baby, and right there with mom. I really don't understand when the same people will support putting my baby in daycare as soon as possible. Where is the logic in that? Are there no germs in a daycare?
4. Spouses: Consistently whiny about your spouse, ummm you picked them, and I don't think feeding the whiny attitude is going to magically help either.
YES!!!
1. Totally agree with pp's about the nurseries, baby gear and cutesy clothing... I realize some people maybe just have the money to blow and do it more for themselves because it's fun, but I cannot fathom spending tons of money on expensive crap that will get destroyed, bit to pieces, pooped on, broken, etc. (especially CRIBS!) that the baby couldn't care less about. I am going to bargain shop as much as possible as well as get as much GN stuff as possible. I'll spend the money I save on the kid once they actually can give input on what they like and can appreciate the stuff a bit more. Not that I'm cheap, I'd just hate to waste so much money! Kids are freaking tornadoes!
ETA: I don't understand crib sets at all... yes they're adorable, but you probably won't even use at least half of it! All a baby's crib should have are sheets and maybe a mobile... bumpers are out, I've heard from BTDT moms that the diaper stacker things a pretty useless, the quilts aren't safe or practical at all, and the hampers are much too cute to allow poopy clothes to hang out in and babies to eventually suck and chew on... IDK, I'd just rather buy the usefull stuff seperately. And yes, you can still have a cute theme without buying a set.
2. Porn, to me in my relationship, is totally fine. We watch it together sometimes and Dh will watch it, rarely, if he feels the need especially if I'm not in the mood and it's been a while. I guess my thought is hate the player, not the game, in a sense. Porn, like many other potential vices, is just a tool. "It" does not destroy ANYTHING, people do because of their choices. If they can't control themselves in whatever they are using to harm relationships, it is not porn/alcohol/video games/etc's fault, it is the ADULT's issue. I can totally understand if some men avoid it because of the potential for harm and kudos to them for their control and knowledge of their weaknesses. But just because some men use it inappropriately does not mean it and of itself, is evil. Because many others can partake and it actually can be used as an accessory to a great relationship. Porn is not a threat whatsoever to our relationship, it isn't even close to being a comparison thing or whatever. It's just a visual stimulant, just like a video game can be used as fun entertainment or some women will use emotional fantasies/toys to arouse themselves.
I could not agree more, and I feel that women who are very threatened by porn are insecure in their relationships. Thank you for pointing out that adults need to take responsibility for their actions! You are so right about kdis being tornadoes, too. When I started teaching I learned this first hand. I bought a bunch of cute stuff to organize the classroom. I spent $1000! All I had to show for it by November was a broken pile of rubble.
I totally totally agree! I think it's soooo boring -- even as a kid and I hate baby stuff with pooh. yuck!
That's what I said in what I thought was my last porn statement lol it's not porn that ruins relationships, it's the person's own problems. Anyone who is addicted to anything, whether it's video games, drinking, drugs or porn, is an addict who needs help. It's just like facebook-- if someone has an affair b/c they reconnected with an old flame, it's not facebook's fault, it's obviously a problem within the marriage. I use this example b/c I've heard many stories of facebook destroying families. If someone is happy and secure in their marriage and life, they are not going to cheat. Same thing with porn.
I don't like when adults wear disney apparel or pooh apparel on a regular basis. I can understand maybe if you are at the theme parks but come one people...grow up already.
As far as porn...whatever floats your boat.
Yep. I hate winnie the pooh and all cartoon characters. If you want to give me a dvd for my child to watch later, fine but I am apparently high mantenance and will probably not use the winnie the pooh diaper bag that you think is the cutest thing on the planet.
Further more - I will not be doing a nursery animal "theme" I don't like animals unless it is my dog and I don't want stupid bears or fish hanging all in my house. We will have a color and pattern scheme and that's it. When my child is 5 and obsessed with dinosaurs that will be different but I would prefer to wait.
Lastly - First time moms can be excited. Yes we may by a $30 outfit because it is cute but if we can afford it and want it then back off. The hubby and I have waited 2 years and suffered through 2 miscarriages to be giddy and buy ridiculous baby stuff and no one is going to make me feel guilty about it! This is mostly aimed at some of my co-workers that are driving me nuts with "advice". So what if I am overly organized and have a "pregnancy binder" to help me plan the arrival of my long awaited child. I get that you didn't have a binder and your child turned out find but I am highly organized and very excited, so shut up!
Ok this turned into a slight vent. My apologies.