I'm getting sick of all the lunch meat postings. If it worries you so much that you need to post your meat experience on the internet, then stop eating it. I'm not judging people for following this rule, I just don't understand why each incident needs to be shared on TB.
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I have no idea if this is unpopular but I think baby/little girl dresses are way too long. Summer styles should be short enough to show at least a little diaper, summer baby bum is so cute! DD looks Amish in most of her summer clothes, I am thinking of buying a sewing machine just to hem everything about 5 inches.
you want your baby's butt to show??
It's not her butt really, that makes it sound sexual it's her cute baby chubby legs and some of her diaper or diaper cover which help make the outfit. For example the first dress is so much cuter than the second here:
I hate those headband things everyone puts on their baby girls. Especially the ones with the giant flower. Ugh.
I hate it when people wait to find out the sex before they buy stuff like strollers and carseats. Your baby does not need everything to be pink or blue! Plus, once you have another kid, you might have to go out and buy a new one!
Here is another...I think kids look silly in sunglasses.
Baby-related, though, I'm not into piercing the ears of infant girls. DH's family does it, but it ain't happening if this this little thing is a girl.
Ha, me, too! And in addition to that, a slight socialist as well. Coming from Germany I just have a very different mindset than most Americans when it comes to this.
Totally agree with you. DH watch it help ruin his parents marriage. I also hate when people say all men look at it. It's not true.
I like watching porn WITH my husband!
I think it's okay as long as it's normal (no kids, animals, or weird stuff like granny or chicks with ....) and it's not a secret. and it's fun to watch together sometimes, too! I'd think it was abnormal for a guy to NOT like porn.
I guess my husband is abnormal then. I also hate it when people say ALL men do it and ALL men masturbate. It just isn't true. And while I understand everyone has different sexual desires and experiences, mine do not include my husband looking at OTHER naked women. It could be a self-esteem issue with me, yes. I think it's disrespectful for a man to do it behind his wife's back or instead of having sex with her. I also think porn makes men expect women to look/act a certain way in bed and it's capable of ruining marriages and relationships.
All this is coming from someone who ABSOLUTELY hates it and will never be okay with it, no matter what. If you are okay with it and truly and honestly don't mind it then I don't see how it could hurt your relationship.
Well, a man shouldn't expect all women to look and act like that. My husband knows what' s real and what's not... not to start a fight with you, but I think it may be a matter of age, too! I used to think it was gross, too, when I was 20 but as years went on and I met different guy friends and boyfriends and then my husband, I learned it was pretty natural and could be fun to watch. Everyone has their own opinion. And I'm sorry, I think thing it's a bit weird if a guy doesn't like it at all...not even just a little bit. To me, if a guy says that, he's just not comfortable with admitting it.
Gravitation is not responsible for people falling in love. -- Einstein
Totally agree with you. DH watch it help ruin his parents marriage. I also hate when people say all men look at it. It's not true.
I like watching porn WITH my husband!
I think it's okay as long as it's normal (no kids, animals, or weird stuff like granny or chicks with ....) and it's not a secret. and it's fun to watch together sometimes, too! I'd think it was abnormal for a guy to NOT like porn.
I guess my husband is abnormal then. I also hate it when people say ALL men do it and ALL men masturbate. It just isn't true. And while I understand everyone has different sexual desires and experiences, mine do not include my husband looking at OTHER naked women. It could be a self-esteem issue with me, yes. I think it's disrespectful for a man to do it behind his wife's back or instead of having sex with her. I also think porn makes men expect women to look/act a certain way in bed and it's capable of ruining marriages and relationships.
All this is coming from someone who ABSOLUTELY hates it and will never be okay with it, no matter what. If you are okay with it and truly and honestly don't mind it then I don't see how it could hurt your relationship.
Well, a man shouldn't expect all women to look and act like that. My husband knows what' s real and what's not... not to start a fight with you, but I think it may be a matter of age, too! I used to think it was gross, too, when I was 20 but as years went on and I met different guy friends and boyfriends and then my husband, I learned it was pretty natural and could be fun to watch. Everyone has their own opinion. And I'm sorry, I think thing it's a bit weird if a guy doesn't like it at all...not even just a little bit. To me, if a guy says that, he's just not comfortable with admitting it.
I think it's just personal preference, my husband won't/wouldn't even allow it in the house, and we are only 24 and 23, we just don't like it. Nothing against people who both like it in their relationship, but it's not for us.
Totally agree with you. DH watch it help ruin his parents marriage. I also hate when people say all men look at it. It's not true.
I like watching porn WITH my husband!
I think it's okay as long as it's normal (no kids, animals, or weird stuff like granny or chicks with ....) and it's not a secret. and it's fun to watch together sometimes, too! I'd think it was abnormal for a guy to NOT like porn.
I guess my husband is abnormal then. I also hate it when people say ALL men do it and ALL men masturbate. It just isn't true. And while I understand everyone has different sexual desires and experiences, mine do not include my husband looking at OTHER naked women. It could be a self-esteem issue with me, yes. I think it's disrespectful for a man to do it behind his wife's back or instead of having sex with her. I also think porn makes men expect women to look/act a certain way in bed and it's capable of ruining marriages and relationships.
All this is coming from someone who ABSOLUTELY hates it and will never be okay with it, no matter what. If you are okay with it and truly and honestly don't mind it then I don't see how it could hurt your relationship.
Well, a man shouldn't expect all women to look and act like that. My husband knows what' s real and what's not... not to start a fight with you, but I think it may be a matter of age, too! I used to think it was gross, too, when I was 20 but as years went on and I met different guy friends and boyfriends and then my husband, I learned it was pretty natural and could be fun to watch. Everyone has their own opinion. And I'm sorry, I think thing it's a bit weird if a guy doesn't like it at all...not even just a little bit. To me, if a guy says that, he's just not comfortable with admitting it.
I hate politics and discussions of religion (moslty b/c they become arguments and not kept civil and intelligent)
I have opinion and beliefs on both, but I only share based on facts.
Baby UO:
people who assume that becuase I am due in late december I will not resurface to the outer world until Spring break.....ummmmm in general (unless the pedi has advised otherwise or cases of severe weather) if a baby is healthy enough to come home the baby can go in public (but yes I do mind people touching and the like)
Totally agree with you. DH watch it help ruin his parents marriage. I also hate when people say all men look at it. It's not true.
I like watching porn WITH my husband!
I think it's okay as long as it's normal (no kids, animals, or weird stuff like granny or chicks with ....) and it's not a secret. and it's fun to watch together sometimes, too! I'd think it was abnormal for a guy to NOT like porn.
I guess my husband is abnormal then. I also hate it when people say ALL men do it and ALL men masturbate. It just isn't true. And while I understand everyone has different sexual desires and experiences, mine do not include my husband looking at OTHER naked women. It could be a self-esteem issue with me, yes. I think it's disrespectful for a man to do it behind his wife's back or instead of having sex with her. I also think porn makes men expect women to look/act a certain way in bed and it's capable of ruining marriages and relationships.
All this is coming from someone who ABSOLUTELY hates it and will never be okay with it, no matter what. If you are okay with it and truly and honestly don't mind it then I don't see how it could hurt your relationship.
Well, a man shouldn't expect all women to look and act like that. My husband knows what' s real and what's not... not to start a fight with you, but I think it may be a matter of age, too! I used to think it was gross, too, when I was 20 but as years went on and I met different guy friends and boyfriends and then my husband, I learned it was pretty natural and could be fun to watch. Everyone has their own opinion. And I'm sorry, I think thing it's a bit weird if a guy doesn't like it at all...not even just a little bit. To me, if a guy says that, he's just not comfortable with admitting it.
I think it's just personal preference, my husband won't/wouldn't even allow it in the house, and we are only 24 and 23, we just don't like it. Nothing against people who both like it in their relationship, but it's not for us.
My DH is 30 and doesn't allow it either. I don't think age has anything to do with it. I think it's a personal preference, and with DH, it's also a moral issue.
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Well, a man shouldn't expect all women to look and act like that. My husband knows what' s real and what's not... not to start a fight with you, but I think it may be a matter of age, too! I used to think it was gross, too, when I was 20 but as years went on and I met different guy friends and boyfriends and then my husband, I learned it was pretty natural and could be fun to watch. Everyone has their own opinion. And I'm sorry, I think thing it's a bit weird if a guy doesn't like it at all...not even just a little bit. To me, if a guy says that, he's just not comfortable with admitting it.
DH is weird I guess, there are many reasons he doesn't like it and I'm sure not everyone would understand but that's fine with us. What I can't stand is when it comes up and people assume he's looking at it behind my back, we are very open about everything and that is not something I even think about.
To the porn folks: I couldn't care less if DH watches porn. I would not want him to deny me my smutty novels! In a marriage I think this stuff is small potatoes.
I'm not saying every guy watches it all the time or every guy loves it. I just don't think there are many guys out there that hate it. I think most of the guys who say they hate it, are just saying so to make their girlfriends/wives happy.
I also think that men who marry young, especially those who go straight from their families' homes to living with their wives don't have much breathing room and they are most likely the ones to either not be into porn or say that they're not.
whatever. either way, opinions are opinions. what I think about anyone's porn preference doesn't really matter. It's how your own marriages work for you!
Gravitation is not responsible for people falling in love. -- Einstein
Porn issue = DH loves it, and with his sex drive, THANK GOD that he does, lol!!! I would never be left alone! Needless to say, I have no problem with it, provided he doesn't pay for it (since so much of it is free on-line now, lol).
Unpopular Opinion -
I hate the term "grandbaby" - the term used by grandparents to describe their grandchild. I don't know why - it just sounds stupid to me.
Porn issue = DH loves it, and with his sex drive, THANK GOD that he does, lol!!! I would never be left alone! Needless to say, I have no problem with it, provided he doesn't pay for it (since so much of it is free on-line now, lol).
Unpopular Opinion -
I hate the term "grandbaby" - the term used by grandparents to describe their grandchild. I don't know why - it just sounds stupid to me.
lol i agree! sounds very generic... it's almost like, ummm, do you not know the gender of your grandchild?
Gravitation is not responsible for people falling in love. -- Einstein
DH watched porn before we got together. I think we watched 1 together, but more for the laugh factor, I remember it was a particularly ridiculous plot (not like they all aren't, but whatev).
When we got really serious he gave it up, and doesn't masturbate at all either. Since getting pg I've not been in the mood much and told him to "go freaking jack off!" but he said he wouldn't and would just be patient with me.
BFP #1: 3.28.11 Dx w/ PIH @ 24w
DS Born @ 36w: 11.7.11
6 Days in NICU BFP #2: 8.31.16 Dx w/ GD @ 28w DD Born @ 36w: 4.21.17
Mine is that I'm really judgmental of parents who spend a ton of money on their baby's clothes/shoes/bedding/etc. I totally understand splurging on a couple of nice outfits for special occasions, and don't advocate getting poor quality items, but really, your child does not need Uggs. Maybe this is just a regional thing, but I've totally gotten looks of horror when I've mentioned getting *gasp* hand-me-downs or second-hand clothing instead of putting little darling in the latest fashions.
This is a huge one for me too!!!! SO's ex spends sooo much money on clothes for his son and her new one that it is pathetic!! She wont even let SS wear the clothes we or SO's family buys for him cus they aren't "trendy" or expensive enough. If they look like kids clothes with cartoons or funny sayings she is disgusted with them. They only get to wear them how many time and grow out of them!! Why spend 75$ on a pair of baby shoes they will kick off or wear 5x?! Got to say that I love walmart and kohls cus they're cute and cheap and I am perfectly fine with dressing my baby in stuff from there!!
Totally agree with you. DH watch it help ruin his parents marriage. I also hate when people say all men look at it. It's not true.
I like watching porn WITH my husband!
I think it's okay as long as it's normal (no kids, animals, or weird stuff like granny or chicks with ....) and it's not a secret. and it's fun to watch together sometimes, too! I'd think it was abnormal for a guy to NOT like porn.
I guess my husband is abnormal then. I also hate it when people say ALL men do it and ALL men masturbate. It just isn't true. And while I understand everyone has different sexual desires and experiences, mine do not include my husband looking at OTHER naked women. It could be a self-esteem issue with me, yes. I think it's disrespectful for a man to do it behind his wife's back or instead of having sex with her. I also think porn makes men expect women to look/act a certain way in bed and it's capable of ruining marriages and relationships.
All this is coming from someone who ABSOLUTELY hates it and will never be okay with it, no matter what. If you are okay with it and truly and honestly don't mind it then I don't see how it could hurt your relationship.
It bugs the living daylights out of me to deal with people who are pro-life but yet are the first to give the stink eye or gripe about a kid fussing in church.. If you're so pro-life then mind your own business, and realize that kids misbehaving/fussing/whiniing/etc. when they aren't suppose to is also part of LIFE... The worst was I attended mass out of town and there was a little kid (maybe 2) that was making "fuss" sounds and the priest was disturbed by it and I think at one point made a comment about taking kids out if they fuss... Sorry dude - that's EXACTLY what the kid WANTS and isn't going to work to extinguish the behavior in the long term...
An off-shoot of that is people who don't have kids yet trying to give parenting advice... Seriously, some days it's like think of the most annoying person you've ever met at work, only they now live with you 24/7 and you're the boss trying to get them compliant... I'll use what works for the kid, your hippy "never say no to a child" may work in fantasy land, but in the real world, it's called boundaries!
I'm getting sick of all the lunch meat postings. If it worries you so much that you need to post your meat experience on the internet, then stop eating it. I'm not judging people for following this rule, I just don't understand why each incident needs to be shared on TB.
I know! Doesn't it make you want to scream "I Don't Care!!" Eat the sandwich, don't eat the sandwich...no one cares.
My UO is I hate hate when people post on FB 50 times a day..I mean really. We don't care what you ate for breakfast, lunch, and, dinner.. and don't really care if your dog pooped on the carpet 2 times today!
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I love the dentist. I look forward to my appointments. I never feel as clean as when I leave the dentist.
As for the porn, my husband doesn't watch it. I guess this makes him "weird" but he doesn't see the point. When we got serious, he stopped watching it. He says he's only interested in seeing me naked, and I feel the same about him.
Baby-related, though, I'm not into piercing the ears of infant girls. DH's family does it, but it ain't happening if this this little thing is a girl.
Ha, me, too! And in addition to that, a slight socialist as well. Coming from Germany I just have a very different mindset than most Americans when it comes to this.
I could hug you I'm not in Texas but trust that my political views are not loved here in Nebraska. The Europhile in me does not mesh well with my surroundings.....and, well, I'm about as liberal tree hugger as it gets..that gets me sh!t too.
AND, mrsfowler, etc, I could not agree more with the porn comment. Blech.
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And one final note... I'm sorry to anyone who thinks porn ruins marriages but just like facebook, myspace and all the other excuses out there (think Anthony Weiner), if these things are ending your marriage, there was definitely something wrong with it in the first place. Any man who expects his wife to act/look like a porn star has serious issues. If a couple is happy, they're not going to look to find an ex on facebook to hook up with or go to a strip club and find a porn look-alike to visit the champagne room with.
and im done!
Gravitation is not responsible for people falling in love. -- Einstein
I thought of some more UO's while I was painting today. let's see if I can remember them:
1. I am VERY skeptical whenever someone spouts about how their child is "gifted." How is it that EVERY kid in the wolrd is suddenly gifted? How are avereage joe's like us spawning this super intelligent human race? If every parent with a gifted kid is telling the truth, than the future looks bright indeed!
2. I hate it when people send or post pictures of their kid eating. I don't need a "see-food" slideshow, thank you very much!
3. I don't like it when people say their baby is "flirting." Any reference to sex, no matter how small, is weird to me when we are talking about an infant (or child, for that matter).
Well, a man shouldn't expect all women to look and act like that. My husband knows what' s real and what's not... not to start a fight with you, but I think it may be a matter of age, too! I used to think it was gross, too, when I was 20 but as years went on and I met different guy friends and boyfriends and then my husband, I learned it was pretty natural and could be fun to watch. Everyone has their own opinion. And I'm sorry, I think thing it's a bit weird if a guy doesn't like it at all...not even just a little bit. To me, if a guy says that, he's just not comfortable with admitting it.
DH is weird I guess, there are many reasons he doesn't like it and I'm sure not everyone would understand but that's fine with us. What I can't stand is when it comes up and people assume he's looking at it behind my back, we are very open about everything and that is not something I even think about.
Excuse me while I step on my soap box...
I believe this issue is less of men not "liking it" and more of them not wanting to look at it. Many many people get addicted to pornography and it tears families apart. It's extremely habit forming. I don't want to "need" porn in order to have great sex. I think it very rarely ends with "I occasionally watch it with my partner." It robs people of their self-respect and degrades the mind.
It's my personal/moral opinion that the naked body is private and is something that should be shared alone between a man and his wife. I think when you're looking at porn you're involving other "people" into your sexual relationships. I'm grateful that my husband doesn't look at porn. It's something we BOTH don't allow into our home.
Okay off my soap box!
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Porn issue = DH loves it, and with his sex drive, THANK GOD that he does, lol!!! I would never be left alone! Needless to say, I have no problem with it, provided he doesn't pay for it (since so much of it is free on-line now, lol).
Unpopular Opinion -
I hate the term "grandbaby" - the term used by grandparents to describe their grandchild. I don't know why - it just sounds stupid to me.
I agree it's very generic sounding, but I much prefer "my grandbaby" to them saying "my baby." If it's not your kid, it's not your baby!
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Well, a man shouldn't expect all women to look and act like that. My husband knows what' s real and what's not... not to start a fight with you, but I think it may be a matter of age, too! I used to think it was gross, too, when I was 20 but as years went on and I met different guy friends and boyfriends and then my husband, I learned it was pretty natural and could be fun to watch. Everyone has their own opinion. And I'm sorry, I think thing it's a bit weird if a guy doesn't like it at all...not even just a little bit. To me, if a guy says that, he's just not comfortable with admitting it.
DH is weird I guess, there are many reasons he doesn't like it and I'm sure not everyone would understand but that's fine with us. What I can't stand is when it comes up and people assume he's looking at it behind my back, we are very open about everything and that is not something I even think about.
Excuse me while I step on my soap box...
I believe this issue is less of men not "liking it" and more of them not wanting to look at it. Many many people get addicted to pornography and it tears families apart. It's extremely habit forming. I don't want to "need" porn in order to have great sex. I think it very rarely ends with "I occasionally watch it with my partner." It robs people of their self-respect and degrades the mind.
It's my personal/moral opinion that the naked body is private and is something that should be shared alone between a man and his wife. I think when you're looking at porn you're involving other "people" into your sexual relationships. I'm grateful that my husband doesn't look at porn. It's something we BOTH don't allow into our home.
Okay off my soap box!
I'm not sure why I was quoted in this but OK, I agree with you. I saw my sister go from a very strong happy 8 year relationship to being second fiddle to her boyfriend's porn addiction. I was horrible.
If DH wanted to look at porn I wouldn't clutch my pearls but it would be like anything else in our house (beer, junk food, xBox) appropriate moderation is key.
Well, a man shouldn't expect all women to look and act like that. My husband knows what' s real and what's not... not to start a fight with you, but I think it may be a matter of age, too! I used to think it was gross, too, when I was 20 but as years went on and I met different guy friends and boyfriends and then my husband, I learned it was pretty natural and could be fun to watch. Everyone has their own opinion. And I'm sorry, I think thing it's a bit weird if a guy doesn't like it at all...not even just a little bit. To me, if a guy says that, he's just not comfortable with admitting it.
DH is weird I guess, there are many reasons he doesn't like it and I'm sure not everyone would understand but that's fine with us. What I can't stand is when it comes up and people assume he's looking at it behind my back, we are very open about everything and that is not something I even think about.
Excuse me while I step on my soap box...
I believe this issue is less of men not "liking it" and more of them not wanting to look at it. Many many people get addicted to pornography and it tears families apart. It's extremely habit forming. I don't want to "need" porn in order to have great sex. I think it very rarely ends with "I occasionally watch it with my partner." It robs people of their self-respect and degrades the mind.
It's my personal/moral opinion that the naked body is private and is something that should be shared alone between a man and his wife. I think when you're looking at porn you're involving other "people" into your sexual relationships. I'm grateful that my husband doesn't look at porn. It's something we BOTH don't allow into our home.
Okay off my soap box!
Very well-said, klayton! DH was addicted as a teenager, and his father's addiction played a big role in his parents divorce. Because he knows how easily you can become addicted, in a conversation before we got married, he said under no circumstances does he want it in our home or our lives, and I was in 100% agreement.
I also think if it's going to be a part of someone's life, it needs to be agreed upon. If it makes one spouse uncomfortable, I think the other should leave it alone.
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DD is only three and I'm already starting to get skeeved out by some girls' clothes. Like I don't really think one-shoulder tops are appropriate for little girls. It's not an issue of how much skin is showing, because I put DD in little sundresses with skinny straps, tanks/camisoles with shorts, etc., but those seem more natural on her than the sort of clothes that it seems like teenagers/adult women wear to be deliberately provocative. Yes, I am going to be that parent who tells her daughter, "You're not leaving the house dressed like THAT, young lady!"
And I also hate onesies with cute slogans on them. We got SO many of them as gifts for DD and I usually just used them as underwear with layered outfits. DH refused to let her wear the one that said "Does this diaper make my butt look big?"
DD born 10/10/07 * DS born 11/25/11 * #3 due 3/9/2015
Well, a man shouldn't expect all women to look and act like that. My husband knows what' s real and what's not... not to start a fight with you, but I think it may be a matter of age, too! I used to think it was gross, too, when I was 20 but as years went on and I met different guy friends and boyfriends and then my husband, I learned it was pretty natural and could be fun to watch. Everyone has their own opinion. And I'm sorry, I think thing it's a bit weird if a guy doesn't like it at all...not even just a little bit. To me, if a guy says that, he's just not comfortable with admitting it.
DH is weird I guess, there are many reasons he doesn't like it and I'm sure not everyone would understand but that's fine with us. What I can't stand is when it comes up and people assume he's looking at it behind my back, we are very open about everything and that is not something I even think about.
Excuse me while I step on my soap box...
I believe this issue is less of men not "liking it" and more of them not wanting to look at it. Many many people get addicted to pornography and it tears families apart. It's extremely habit forming. I don't want to "need" porn in order to have great sex. I think it very rarely ends with "I occasionally watch it with my partner." It robs people of their self-respect and degrades the mind.
It's my personal/moral opinion that the naked body is private and is something that should be shared alone between a man and his wife. I think when you're looking at porn you're involving other "people" into your sexual relationships. I'm grateful that my husband doesn't look at porn. It's something we BOTH don't allow into our home.
Okay off my soap box!
I'm not sure why I was quoted in this but OK, I agree with you. I saw my sister go from a very strong happy 8 year relationship to being second fiddle to her boyfriend's porn addiction. I was horrible.
If DH wanted to look at porn I wouldn't clutch my pearls but it would be like anything else in our house (beer, junk food, xBox) appropriate moderation is key.
I was quoting because I agreed with what you said. I disagreed with what the prior person had bolded. I am not hip on quoting etiquette!
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PR: I also don't get the whole buying car seats, high chairs, etc. in blue or pink. Even if you're planning on just one child, does every dang thing have to be pink pink pink piiiiiiiink?
NPR: I'm easily annoyed by AW home improvement posts (I don't see them here - mostly on other non-Bump boards). I get that you're excited about your new towel bar for your bathroom, but do you really need to post that stuff? Maybe I'm Crabface McSourbutt but what ever happened to blogging about stuff like that? Not enough validation? I dunno.
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PR: I also don't get the whole buying car seats, high chairs, etc. in blue or pink. Even if you're planning on just one child, does every dang thing have to be pink pink pink piiiiiiiink?
NPR: I'm easily annoyed by AW home improvement posts. I get that you're excited about your new towel bar for your bathroom, but do you really need to post that stuff? Maybe I'm Crabface McSourbutt but what ever happened to blogging about stuff like that? Not enough validation? I dunno.
Oh my. Crabface McSourbutt. I love it.
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I'm getting sick of all the lunch meat postings. If it worries you so much that you need to post your meat experience on the internet, then stop eating it. I'm not judging people for following this rule, I just don't understand why each incident needs to be shared on TB.
I know! Doesn't it make you want to scream "I Don't Care!!" Eat the sandwich, don't eat the sandwich...no one cares.
Seriously!! FWIW, I'm pretty sure our mothers ate lunch meat regularly while pregnant. It's really not that serious.
Well, a man shouldn't expect all women to look and act like that. My husband knows what' s real and what's not... not to start a fight with you, but I think it may be a matter of age, too! I used to think it was gross, too, when I was 20 but as years went on and I met different guy friends and boyfriends and then my husband, I learned it was pretty natural and could be fun to watch. Everyone has their own opinion. And I'm sorry, I think thing it's a bit weird if a guy doesn't like it at all...not even just a little bit. To me, if a guy says that, he's just not comfortable with admitting it.
DH is weird I guess, there are many reasons he doesn't like it and I'm sure not everyone would understand but that's fine with us. What I can't stand is when it comes up and people assume he's looking at it behind my back, we are very open about everything and that is not something I even think about.
Excuse me while I step on my soap box...
I believe this issue is less of men not "liking it" and more of them not wanting to look at it. Many many people get addicted to pornography and it tears families apart. It's extremely habit forming. I don't want to "need" porn in order to have great sex. I think it very rarely ends with "I occasionally watch it with my partner." It robs people of their self-respect and degrades the mind.
It's my personal/moral opinion that the naked body is private and is something that should be shared alone between a man and his wife. I think when you're looking at porn you're involving other "people" into your sexual relationships. I'm grateful that my husband doesn't look at porn. It's something we BOTH don't allow into our home.
Re: Unpopular Opinions
I'm getting sick of all the lunch meat postings. If it worries you so much that you need to post your meat experience on the internet, then stop eating it. I'm not judging people for following this rule, I just don't understand why each incident needs to be shared on TB.
It's not her butt really, that makes it sound sexual it's her cute baby chubby legs and some of her diaper or diaper cover which help make the outfit. For example the first dress is so much cuter than the second here:
Here is another...I think kids look silly in sunglasses.
Ha, me, too! And in addition to that, a slight socialist as well.
Coming from Germany I just have a very different mindset than most Americans when it comes to this.
Well, a man shouldn't expect all women to look and act like that. My husband knows what' s real and what's not... not to start a fight with you, but I think it may be a matter of age, too! I used to think it was gross, too, when I was 20 but as years went on and I met different guy friends and boyfriends and then my husband, I learned it was pretty natural and could be fun to watch. Everyone has their own opinion. And I'm sorry, I think thing it's a bit weird if a guy doesn't like it at all...not even just a little bit. To me, if a guy says that, he's just not comfortable with admitting it.
I think it's just personal preference, my husband won't/wouldn't even allow it in the house, and we are only 24 and 23, we just don't like it. Nothing against people who both like it in their relationship, but it's not for us.
I hate politics and discussions of religion (moslty b/c they become arguments and not kept civil and intelligent)
I have opinion and beliefs on both, but I only share based on facts.
Baby UO:
people who assume that becuase I am due in late december I will not resurface to the outer world until Spring break.....ummmmm in general (unless the pedi has advised otherwise or cases of severe weather) if a baby is healthy enough to come home the baby can go in public (but yes I do mind people touching and the like)
My DH is 30 and doesn't allow it either. I don't think age has anything to do with it. I think it's a personal preference, and with DH, it's also a moral issue.
To the porn folks:
I couldn't care less if DH watches porn. I would not want him to deny me my smutty novels! In a marriage I think this stuff is small potatoes.
I'm not saying every guy watches it all the time or every guy loves it. I just don't think there are many guys out there that hate it. I think most of the guys who say they hate it, are just saying so to make their girlfriends/wives happy.
I also think that men who marry young, especially those who go straight from their families' homes to living with their wives don't have much breathing room and they are most likely the ones to either not be into porn or say that they're not.
whatever. either way, opinions are opinions. what I think about anyone's porn preference doesn't really matter. It's how your own marriages work for you!
Porn issue = DH loves it, and with his sex drive, THANK GOD that he does, lol!!! I would never be left alone! Needless to say, I have no problem with it, provided he doesn't pay for it (since so much of it is free on-line now, lol).
Unpopular Opinion -
I hate the term "grandbaby" - the term used by grandparents to describe their grandchild. I don't know why - it just sounds stupid to me.
lol i agree! sounds very generic... it's almost like, ummm, do you not know the gender of your grandchild?
DH watched porn before we got together. I think we watched 1 together, but more for the laugh factor, I remember it was a particularly ridiculous plot (not like they all aren't, but whatev).
When we got really serious he gave it up, and doesn't masturbate at all either. Since getting pg I've not been in the mood much and told him to "go freaking jack off!" but he said he wouldn't and would just be patient with me.
BFP #2: 8.31.16 Dx w/ GD @ 28w DD Born @ 36w: 4.21.17
This is a huge one for me too!!!! SO's ex spends sooo much money on clothes for his son and her new one that it is pathetic!! She wont even let SS wear the clothes we or SO's family buys for him cus they aren't "trendy" or expensive enough.
If they look like kids clothes with cartoons or funny sayings she is disgusted with them. They only get to wear them how many time and grow out of them!! Why spend 75$ on a pair of baby shoes they will kick off or wear 5x?! Got to say that I love walmart and kohls cus they're cute and cheap and I am perfectly fine with dressing my baby in stuff from there!!
It bugs the living daylights out of me to deal with people who are pro-life but yet are the first to give the stink eye or gripe about a kid fussing in church.. If you're so pro-life then mind your own business, and realize that kids misbehaving/fussing/whiniing/etc. when they aren't suppose to is also part of LIFE... The worst was I attended mass out of town and there was a little kid (maybe 2) that was making "fuss" sounds and the priest was disturbed by it and I think at one point made a comment about taking kids out if they fuss... Sorry dude - that's EXACTLY what the kid WANTS and isn't going to work to extinguish the behavior in the long term...
An off-shoot of that is people who don't have kids yet trying to give parenting advice... Seriously, some days it's like think of the most annoying person you've ever met at work, only they now live with you 24/7 and you're the boss trying to get them compliant... I'll use what works for the kid, your hippy "never say no to a child" may work in fantasy land, but in the real world, it's called boundaries!
I know! Doesn't it make you want to scream "I Don't Care!!" Eat the sandwich, don't eat the sandwich...no one cares.
I love the dentist. I look forward to my appointments. I never feel as clean as when I leave the dentist.
As for the porn, my husband doesn't watch it. I guess this makes him "weird" but he doesn't see the point. When we got serious, he stopped watching it. He says he's only interested in seeing me naked, and I feel the same about him.
Breastfeeding and pregnant!
I could hug you
I'm not in Texas but trust that my political views are not loved here in Nebraska. The Europhile in me does not mesh well with my surroundings.....and, well, I'm about as liberal tree hugger as it gets..that gets me sh!t too.
AND, mrsfowler, etc, I could not agree more with the porn comment. Blech.
And one final note... I'm sorry to anyone who thinks porn ruins marriages but just like facebook, myspace and all the other excuses out there (think Anthony Weiner), if these things are ending your marriage, there was definitely something wrong with it in the first place. Any man who expects his wife to act/look like a porn star has serious issues. If a couple is happy, they're not going to look to find an ex on facebook to hook up with or go to a strip club and find a porn look-alike to visit the champagne room with.
and im done!
I thought of some more UO's while I was painting today. let's see if I can remember them:
1. I am VERY skeptical whenever someone spouts about how their child is "gifted." How is it that EVERY kid in the wolrd is suddenly gifted? How are avereage joe's like us spawning this super intelligent human race? If every parent with a gifted kid is telling the truth, than the future looks bright indeed!
2. I hate it when people send or post pictures of their kid eating. I don't need a "see-food" slideshow, thank you very much!
3. I don't like it when people say their baby is "flirting." Any reference to sex, no matter how small, is weird to me when we are talking about an infant (or child, for that matter).
Excuse me while I step on my soap box...
I believe this issue is less of men not "liking it" and more of them not wanting to look at it. Many many people get addicted to pornography and it tears families apart. It's extremely habit forming. I don't want to "need" porn in order to have great sex. I think it very rarely ends with "I occasionally watch it with my partner." It robs people of their self-respect and degrades the mind.
It's my personal/moral opinion that the naked body is private and is something that should be shared alone between a man and his wife. I think when you're looking at porn you're involving other "people" into your sexual relationships. I'm grateful that my husband doesn't look at porn. It's something we BOTH don't allow into our home.
Okay off my soap box!
I agree it's very generic sounding, but I much prefer "my grandbaby" to them saying "my baby." If it's not your kid, it's not your baby!
I'm not sure why I was quoted in this but OK, I agree with you. I saw my sister go from a very strong happy 8 year relationship to being second fiddle to her boyfriend's porn addiction. I was horrible.
If DH wanted to look at porn I wouldn't clutch my pearls but it would be like anything else in our house (beer, junk food, xBox) appropriate moderation is key.
Very well-said, klayton! DH was addicted as a teenager, and his father's addiction played a big role in his parents divorce. Because he knows how easily you can become addicted, in a conversation before we got married, he said under no circumstances does he want it in our home or our lives, and I was in 100% agreement.
I also think if it's going to be a part of someone's life, it needs to be agreed upon. If it makes one spouse uncomfortable, I think the other should leave it alone.
DD is only three and I'm already starting to get skeeved out by some girls' clothes. Like I don't really think one-shoulder tops are appropriate for little girls. It's not an issue of how much skin is showing, because I put DD in little sundresses with skinny straps, tanks/camisoles with shorts, etc., but those seem more natural on her than the sort of clothes that it seems like teenagers/adult women wear to be deliberately provocative. Yes, I am going to be that parent who tells her daughter, "You're not leaving the house dressed like THAT, young lady!"
And I also hate onesies with cute slogans on them. We got SO many of them as gifts for DD and I usually just used them as underwear with layered outfits. DH refused to let her wear the one that said "Does this diaper make my butt look big?"
I was quoting because I agreed with what you said. I disagreed with what the prior person had bolded. I am not hip on quoting etiquette!
PR: I also don't get the whole buying car seats, high chairs, etc. in blue or pink. Even if you're planning on just one child, does every dang thing have to be pink pink pink piiiiiiiink?
NPR: I'm easily annoyed by AW home improvement posts (I don't see them here - mostly on other non-Bump boards). I get that you're excited about your new towel bar for your bathroom, but do you really need to post that stuff? Maybe I'm Crabface McSourbutt but what ever happened to blogging about stuff like that? Not enough validation? I dunno.
Oh, that makes sense then
I hate Winnie the Pooh.
There, I said it.
Jan17 Sept Sig: Pumpkin Spice gone too far
Oh my. Crabface McSourbutt. I love it.
Seriously!! FWIW, I'm pretty sure our mothers ate lunch meat regularly while pregnant. It's really not that serious.
Very well said IMHO!
I hate the term "outside baby". It's just plain wrong, IMO.
I Hate Elmo and Barney!!!! Whew! This is like the beginning of a good 12 step!