Unpopular Opinion Thursday

robinsokj

SandNSurf:

My UO: 

I'm pro-spanking. 

As a last or first resort?

EdithBouvierBeale

SandNSurf:

My UO: 

I'm pro-spanking. 

well, bend over then.

Scout05

We might have taken family photos last weekend with the baby and the 70 lb. dog in tutus. Maybe happened.

I agree w/ the Twilight thing, but Lady Gaga and Pinterest are the_shit.

mlb108

mrsmacias2008:

oh God...I hate that FB ***.

Here's mine: I can't stand the twilight movies...I don't get all the hype. I understand the books are good but the movie? It's just really bad acting and they try to make up for it with the guy taking his shirt off.

 

Amen to that.  Twilight was the only movie I've seen in the theater that I actually seriously contemplated getting up and leaving halfway through because I thought it was so bad.  I only saw New Moon because a friend let me borrow it and I was ready to turn it off not long after it began.  I decided I was through after that. 

ETA:  I also don't get the Pinterest thing.  Which is probably good because I don't need anymore time sucks these days.

SandNSurf

robinsokj:

SandNSurf:

My UO: 

I'm pro-spanking. 

As a last or first resort?

It depends on how bad the act is. The child should be told "no" but if they have already been told or they do something on purpose, they should be spanked. That's just my opinion. It worked in my family. Spanking should not leave bruises or be done more than two or three swats in one spanking.

I should also add that I know it doesn't work for every child. Each learns differently. But I'm certainly not against spanking. 

TheOriginalSP

My UO, I don't think being a SAHM is really that hard.  I mean there are hard days, don't get me wrong, but many days it's a cake walk.  Especially when both of the girls are in a good mood and both nap.  Like today, it was freaking awesome.  And DH is jealous becuase we got to go sit on a beach all morning and play in the water while he had to work.  I feel bad sometimes, but we made this decision together for me to stay home. 

robinsokj

TheOriginalSP:

My UO, I don't think being a SAHM is really that hard.  I mean there are hard days, don't get me wrong, but many days it's a cake walk.  Especially when both of the girls are in a good mood and both nap.  Like today, it was freaking awesome.  And DH is jealous becuase we got to go sit on a beach all morning and play in the water while he had to work.  I feel bad sometimes, but we made this decision together for me to stay home. 

Can you send some of that good mood juice this way?  

The boys won't sleep past 530 and they stay royally pissed most of the day b/c they didn't sleep long enough.  

TheOriginalSP

robinsokj:

TheOriginalSP:

My UO, I don't think being a SAHM is really that hard.  I mean there are hard days, don't get me wrong, but many days it's a cake walk.  Especially when both of the girls are in a good mood and both nap.  Like today, it was freaking awesome.  And DH is jealous becuase we got to go sit on a beach all morning and play in the water while he had to work.  I feel bad sometimes, but we made this decision together for me to stay home. 

Can you send some of that good mood juice this way?  

The boys won't sleep past 530 and they stay royally pissed most of the day b/c they didn't sleep long enough.  

NO!  I am keeping it all for myself. My girls have actually been sleeping past 7:00am this week so I'm thrilled! See I say that it's not hard today becuase we've actually had a really great week, but ask me again next week and I'll probably be singing a different tune. 

BallSox

:dons flame suit:  I think a lot of parents over-parent their kids.  I read that article that went around a week or so ago and I agreed with it almost 100%.  I'll summarize a few key points: 

1) Giving a kid too many choices all of the time makes them feel more overwhelmed than empowered.  Plus, when there are situations in which there can NOT be a choice, they can become defiant and argumentative. "Well, what's my other choice?" They don't value the decisions they make as much as when their options are narrowed down. 

2) Protecting a child from disappointment, pain, confusion, insecurity, fear and failure does way more harm than good.  Without knowing heartbreak, you can't truly know and appreciate love, without knowing insecurity, you can't really understand and appreciate security...etc.  What happens is these kids grow up to be adults, have a crisis and have to go through this learning process at that point and have more issues dealing with it.  

3) There's a fine line between self esteem and narcissism.  Kids are raised being told how special and unique and priceless they are and are having problems becoming team players and members of a group.  

4) My favorite point (and potentially a very UO, considering my profession), when two preschoolers are  throwing sand in each others faces, people spend 5 minutes discussing appropriate actions, feelings, other channels, etc when "Hey--knock it off!" is sufficient.  They (the kids) get talked to death, issue a rote apology and 5 minutes later do it again (because there were no real consequences to their actions).  You reach a point when they know what they are doing is wrong and "knock it off" is more effective than "now Timmy....." (note:  I do not have the balls to tell kids to knock it off, I value my job, lol). 

It's a really long article, but it's interesting.  These 20 somethings with great parents, great families, great jobs, great lives and not a single thing to complain about are ending up in therapy, confused and depressed.   

 

robinsokj

BallSox:

:dons flame suit:  I think a lot of parents over-parent their kids.  I read that article that went around a week or so ago and I agreed with it almost 100%.  I'll summarize a few key points: 

1) Giving a kid too many choices all of the time makes them feel more overwhelmed than empowered.  Plus, when there are situations in which there can NOT be a choice, they can become defiant and argumentative. "Well, what's my other choice?" They don't value the decisions they make as much as when their options are narrowed down. 

2) Protecting a child from disappointment, pain, confusion, insecurity, fear and failure does way more harm than good.  Without knowing heartbreak, you can't truly know and appreciate love, without knowing insecurity, you can't really understand and appreciate security...etc.  What happens is these kids grow up to be adults, have a crisis and have to go through this learning process at that point and have more issues dealing with it.  

3) There's a fine line between self esteem and narcissism.  Kids are raised being told how special and unique and priceless they are and are having problems becoming team players and members of a group.  

4) My favorite point (and potentially a very UO, considering my profession), when two preschoolers are  throwing sand in each others faces, people spend 5 minutes discussing appropriate actions, feelings, other channels, etc when "Hey--knock it off!" is sufficient.  They (the kids) get talked to death, issue a rote apology and 5 minutes later do it again (because there were no real consequences to their actions).  You reach a point when they know what they are doing is wrong and "knock it off" is more effective than "now Timmy....." (note:  I do not have the balls to tell kids to knock it off, I value my job, lol). 

It's a really long article, but it's interesting.  These 20 somethings with great parents, great families, great jobs, great lives and not a single thing to complain about are ending up in therapy, confused and depressed.   

 

I agree

staticgirl77

Ace1599:

caffinated_tulip:

pinkflipflops44:

I hate Winnie The Pooh.

I don't mind Pooh, but I think Tigger is annoying as hell. Only thing more annoying than tigger are the tigger-people. You know who I'm talking about. 

I don't mind it, but I see your Tigger people and raise you Eeyore People. I cannot stand all things Sesame Street. Elmo's voice gives me the jeebies.

I am also not a fan of most character paraphernalia. I don't like clothes, blankets or other wearable items with excessive character usage, especially if it is not Disney. (We have a lot of Toy Story and Cars stuff, and a few Mickey things. But that is it. And none of it is clothing.)  And if you are over the age of 12, you shouldn't be wearing character clothing in public anymore. Sorry.

I also hate Winnie the Pooh (the whole gang) and am not crazy about over the top character wearing either; for kids or adults. Yeah, that vintage Mickey mouse shirt is cool, but please, to the 30 year old woman wearing a tazmanian devil shirt that says Party Animal (bonus points if it's airbrushed)...just no.