If you have been an active member of other bump boards than you know all too well, there is a lot of drama out there. This is one board that cannot afford to be divided. We all at one time have needed one another, leaned on one another, and supported one another.
Of course emotions run high, we are a group of women going through/having been through a terrible time in our lives and to top it off we have hormones that are completely out of our control. The point being, the last thing we need to do it turn our backs on one another.
There are women here who are aggressive protectors by nature, myself included. At times we are quick to pull the trigger, at the risk of hurting a new poster. Please understand that my comments (I cannot speak for others) come from a place of compassion for others. I have become friends with several of the women here and I will not stand by and let them get hurt. That being said, I certainly do not condone bullying or hurting other well intentioned people.
The problem being, the majority of people who post on this board to ask if they might be miscarrying are not thinking about how that question will make us feel. They are wrapped up in their own fear. As a result many people get their feelings hurt. Because many of us are still grieving it is hard to respond to these post with kindness. I for one will try harder.
Perhaps the best thing to do is ignore these post, post a simple warning (ex: Do not open *** pg mentioned) and notify the moderators, they are awesome. That way if you are not feeling vulnerable go ahead and read the post, respond if you like, but those who are still hurting will be spared.
I really don't know the best way to handle the situation, I would love to hear what others think. What I do know is that pointing fingers and hurting one another serves no purpose.
I wish you all nothing less than love, healing, and hope.
ETA: Jen is currently our only mod, click on her name to report a problem.