Does it get easier?

jaysougirl

I had a m/c in May and found out I was pg again last week.  I went to the Dr. on Monday and my HCG was 156 and Prog. 40.3.  They said the numbers looked great for being at 14 DPO and that I did not need to come back until I was 7 weeks for an u/s. 

I am excited, but not too excited.  I dont want to get my hopes up, if you know what I mean.  Does it get easier and what do you do to take your mind off having another m/c? 

dr.girlfriend

It does get easier, but honestly time is the main thing that helps. Each milestone you pass (seeing the heartbeat, the time at which you lost the first baby, the first trimester, the big ultrasound) you feel a little more secure. In the meantime, there are some mantras...hopefully someone can post them. "Today I am pregnant and love my baby" is one. I personally tell myself, "Most people who get pregnant have healthy babies...what makes me think I'm the exception?"

TheButlers:)

It is definitely difficult in the beginning, and it did get a little better for me.  I still worry a lot, but I found that my worries kind of evolved over time.  Someone can probably post the mantras for you, they help a lot!  good luck!

ncsubride

Congratulations.  It does get a little easier but the worrying never stops 100%, I think that just goes with being a Mom though.  Each milestone you pass def. helps though. 

Kerri

ParisBride06

First of all, congrats!  The thing that has helped me the most is setting little milestones (ticker change day, countdown to next appointment, etc).  I try to have a little milestone every few days because it helps me realize that I am making progress.  Also, the SAL mantras and the support from this board really helps when I am having an anxious day. 

gallerygirl

Congratulations! I am in the same boat as you.... Some days I feel great and other days I am worried. I do tell myself that this baby deserves to have parents that are excited. I am trying to let my excitement outweigh the worry.  I also agree, milestones are the best. I have also found that keeping myself busy and not always on the bump boards helps me take my mind off of the worry... but, I do come here often for support!  Good luck!

Summerstarr2

It does get a little less worrisome and a little more exciting as you pass each milestone.

 As pp's said, the mantras help:

-"Today I am pregnant and I love my baby."
--"I am pregnant until someone tells me otherwise."
--"My past does not dictate my future. A previous m/c does not mean I will have another m/c."
--"Just because something sad is happening to another poster, does not mean it will happen to you." We all know m/c and complications are not contagious!
-- "Hope does not make bad things happen" You cannot ?jinx? your pregnancy by creating a ticker, getting excited, or telling someone. Live in the positive!
--And this is the hardest one: "There is nothing I can do to prevent a m/c from happening. Worrying yourself sick doesn't prevent a m/c. And if (gods forbid) it were to happen again, I know I will survive."
 

 

LindseyS0504

It got easier for me when we had our first u/s, and everything was looking great. But, it's definitely still hard. I have days where fear creeps in a little too much. I just keep telling myself that my past does not dictate my future, and that there is nothing that I can do to stop another m/c. Good luck! Your betas do look excellent.

mrsdanigirl8

The hardest part was the first 12 weeks for me. I was constantly second guessing everything and every pain/cramp/etc would drive me crazy. I had very supportive people around me (and this board!) and I got through it. I am enjoying every moment of this pregnancy now. Just try to stay positive and remember that you're pregnant until someone else says you aren't.  GL!

nellieboo

Congrats!! Those are great #'s. I agree with the other posters. I take it one day at a time. I found out at 3wks 5 days and I didn't do betas and my first appt was at 7 wks. I was a wreck until then. I set little milestones and try to keep busy. This board is also so supportive and everyone understands the fear. GL!

jaysougirl

Thanks so much!  You girls really helped me feel better today.  It is nice to know I am not alone in my worries.  I guess I was just really worried becuase my m/c was at 5w 3d and I am getting close to that milestone.