I am 36 weeks pregnant and am so grossed out by the way I look. I have stretch marks everywhere, I am huge, uncomfortable and just 9 monthes pregnant lol. I haven't gained a ton of weight but not happy with the way I look. But my DH still wants to touch me constantly and it annoys me. He is always trying to rub me and touch me. If I hide to change from him, he ask why and tells me how sexy I look and it grosses me out. I am not complaining because I know some H don't wanna touch and are freaked out by the body and baby but its like constant and I feel bad cause I am so grossed out I dont wanna be touched at all.
Re: How does SO/DH feel about your body?
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I'm also curious to see how that changes after the baby.
Ditto! He's constantly telling me that he thinks other women must be jealous of how cute I look, lol. And I won't lie, I love my pregnant body too.
My DH is a douche and says "at least you don't have any stretch marks" and I go "yet" and he goes "I hope you don't get any". And I roll my eyes at him..hahaha
He probably doesn't hate my body, but I won't have sex with him so it's not he gets to touch it anyways.
It is weird... I think that DH LOVES my pregnant body, b/c I have his baby boy in it. He likes to rub my belly, hold it in the morning and comment on it. But I do not think that he is sexually attracted to me right now (no trying to get me into bed, which is fine b/c I don't want sex right now).
We seem at a good place.
BFP #1 March 24, 2010; missed m/c May 26, 2010 @ 12w 4d; D&E May 28, 2010
BFP #2 Oct 20, 2010; My little boy was born on July 5, 2011
BFP #3 April 30, 2013; Chemical Pg May 5, 2013
BFP #4 Aug 22, 2013; It's a boy. Loss discovered at 24 weeks on Jan 15, 2014 (cause CMV virus)
BFP #5 April 6, 2014; missed m/c May 15, 2014 @ 9 weeks; Misoprostol May 15, 2014; D&C May June 3, 2014
DH is very fond of the new body, even at 36 weeks. I tell him: love me now because I'm about to deflate - usually followed by the sound of a deflating balloon.
He is very sweet and supportive : )
I have crazy stretch marks, very angry and red. I have asked if we could pretend I wrestled a tiger : p But in all seriouness, we are prepared to adjust to changes and work with them in terms of the physical stuff. I love physical affection, we both work our shoulders stiff every day (I scoop ice cream and he lifts boxes at a warehouse) so releasing that tension through massage is very good. I am surprised to feel fairly peppy at 34 weeks.
Jess & Adam, married 2009, precious Audrey born in 2011. BFP 1/6/13, 6-wk MMC discovered at 9 wks 2/11/13. D&C 2/18/13, second D&C 4/23/13 for retained placenta.
BFP 8/24/13!! EDD 5/1/14, delivered healthy and sweet Zoey Leanne on 5/5/14 by repeat c-section.
It's not his favorite look on me. He's not rude or mean about it - he'll tell me I look pretty when I get ready for work or to go out, but he's admitted that pregnancy is kind of a necessary thing you have to go through for the awesome experience of having a baby. It kind of hurt hearing that, since I know some women's husbands are all about it, but you can't force someone to feel a certain way I guess.
I was in pretty great shape before I got pregnant, so it's been a huge adjustment. We joke about me "getting my body back," and the truth is, I'm just as excited to as I'm sure he is. I don't have any stretch marks (knock on wood), but I did get a huge booty and my face is a lot rounder. I was put on pelvic rest about 10 weeks ago and so we haven't had sex. at this point, I'm not sure that I even want to, and I sure as hell don't want to feel shot down if I initiated, given my crazy hormonal swings.
DH has a new found respect for me being pregnant! He's astounded and amazed at what we have to do to create this little life inside our bodies. He loves my bump, and when I complain about my body he always brings me back to a good place.
It's hard to feel attractive with a basketball belly so I know what you mean, but it's definitely nice to hear how much he loves it even when I'm down on myself. I think we as women are WAY harder on ourselves than we need to be, but it's not easy that's for sure! I'm used to this bump, I'm more nervous about how it will look post postpartum.
My husband constantly tells me that he thinks I'm beautiful. He isn't saying it to make me feel better about myself either. But I also, most of the time at least, think that I look beautiful too. We're both amazed at what my body is going through to bring a kid into this world.