I think I just need to get this out more than anything but if any of you have thoughts, suggestions, experience...well you know I'm always open to those.
Quick back story...my niece is 15 and the middle child. Her oldest and youngest siblings were diagnosed with diabetes, within weeks of each other, about five years ago. This brought A LOT of attention to them while learning to deal with it and she has always been a little left out. Well over the last year or so that has caught up with her and she is retaliating. She has run away then came home. Started using drugs and has done in center rehab twice and is currently in out patient rehab with family counseling. About two weeks ago she tried to commit suicide, was in the hospital for a week then sent home. For the last two weeks she has gone on and on about how much better her life is and she is finally getting along with her mom. (note: her mom is a saint and an excellent mom) I didn't really think things could be "fixed" that quickly. Well we just got a call from DH's brother and she has tried to commit suicide twice within the last 24 hours and is in the hospital again.
My initial reaction to this is that I'm pissed at her, I know that's not a fair reaction and I will never let her know that's how I feel but it is what it is. I'm mad that she is putting her family through hell right now, a family that is so unbelievably supportive of each other and of her. I'm heartbroken to see her in pain and the pain it's putting the rest of the family through. I want to help...I just don't know how.
Thanks for letting me get that out...
Re: Need help with my niece...or just need to vent.
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Oh man, what a horrible situation. I agree it sounds like medication is necessary, but I know they can end up having horrible effects on teenagers so that's really hard. It definitely seems like she needs to be in heavy duty treatment, cognitive behavior therapy, preferably in a treatment center of some sort where she's constantly monitored. It doesn't sound like she is safe (from herself) living at home.
I'm sure it's hard to know how to offer help when you can't get much information. I would definitely let her parents know you're concerned and want to offer support. I wonder if the whole family would benefit from family therapy. They could all sit down and get things out in the open and maybe your neice would open up and let them know how to help her.
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