In a perfect world, if we weren't dealing with 2IF issues when had you hoped to get pregnant with your 2nd LO?
Also has this infertility changed how many LO's you want now from how many you wanted when you originally thought about starting a family?
For me, I ideally wanted to get pregnant with baby #2 when Ava turned 1. Now she's about to turn 2 so things are really off track. This has caused me to change my desire from having 3 LO's to now just being happy if I can have one more.
Re: Age spacing of children
DH wanted to get pregnant right away. I wanted to wait until DD's 1st birthday. We started TTC #2 when she was 10 months old. I really wanted them within 2 years of each other. She's now 19 months old and now that the 2 year spacing is no longer possible, I will just be happy with having one more at any time. My sister and I are 8 years apart and couldn't be any closer now. I would like DD to have a playmate growing up, but I have just given in to the fact that I don't really have control and whatever happens will happen. I've always wanted a big family, but I don't think that I could ever go through this again. We will just be having two, if we're lucky.
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Yale- Just looked at your siggy. We are on the same schedule. I am 5 DPO. What did you do this month? When are you testing? Hopefully we can be a part of the Jun Club too!
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This is my second post-m/c cycle, so I was expecting a whacked out cycle like last time - it's looking surprisingly better though. I missed my surge, but think FF is close. I had an almost +opk (which usually happens for me the day before a +opk) and then saw my doctor the day after that when she told me to wait this cycle out, so I didn't actually POAS the day FF says I O'd. I was doing all my normal stuff - temps, opks, etc. I also started baby aspirin at the recommendation of my doctor. I'm not expecting much since I don't feel like we were really really trying when I O'd. We'll see though. Timing seems decent if FF is right. I won't test until next Friday probably. How about you?
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The first thing I said to DH after DD was born was "Whoa - I can't wait to do that again!" Now, that might have been the drugs talking, but I would have started pretty soon after.
However, I am a believer in long-term BFing, so DD BF'ed until she was 2 1/2 . We officially started "trying" just before her 3rd birthday. I would have been ok with that spacing had it worked.
Now, even if I get KU this cycle, I'm looking at a 6+ year age gap. That bothers me because of the playmate thing, but lovely ladies here keep giving me wonderful examples of how close they are with large-age gap sibs. Since my reasons for having children are focused on long-term benefits, I need to remember that "close as adults" is much more important than "playmates as youth".
Ideally, DH and I wanted 4 kids, but like all of you, at this point I'd thank my lucky stars for a 2nd.
"Just keep swimming, just keep swimming..."
Miracle DD born 12.2005
TTC #2 since Dec 2008 w/ PCOS
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Keep it Natural, Baby!
We had wanted our kids 2-2 1/2 years apart but my DD is now 3 1/2. Like everyone else we had planned for 3 or 4 but now will be happy if we are lucky enough to get 2, I think. My DH doesn't quite agree but I think it will depend on how much more we have to do to get number 2!
Glad to know I'm not the only one with the 35 goal... of course, I turned 35 this month and I'm not stopping... though I would have, had I gotten lucky! I hope you get your dream fulfilled before your 35th bday...
"Just keep swimming, just keep swimming..."
Miracle DD born 12.2005
TTC #2 since Dec 2008 w/ PCOS
***P/SAIF Always Welcome***
Keep it Natural, Baby!
Glad to know I'm not the only one with the 35 goal... of course, I turned 35 this month and I'm not stopping... though I would have, had I gotten lucky!
"Just keep swimming, just keep swimming..."
Miracle DD born 12.2005
TTC #2 since Dec 2008 w/ PCOS
***P/SAIF Always Welcome***
Keep it Natural, Baby!
Ok, ladies, enough with the 35 goal
I didn't get married until I was 36, had DS at 38, and am now 41 trying my hardest. I totally get why you guys would like to be done by then, but if you ever need any inspiration that 35 isn't that far over the hill, checking out the thriving TTC/PG/Parenting over 35 boards here. Or come to my house! I won't cook you dinner, but DH will
Back to the OP. My goal was 2-3 years. If this month works he'll be 3 years, 3 months, so not the end of the world for me. The end of the world is that if this month doesn't take, we've decided we've only got maybe 2 more months of trying in us.
Thanks, Jenna! I am thinking 6 more months of trying and then looking at adoption. I am hoping that even if we have to go all the way through the adoption process, it will still be done at least within the year of 35.
Jen, thanks for the reminder that 35 is not the end all, be all year. I guess I will have to see how things have turned out when I get there and maybe I will feel differently then. It is always easy to say things about the future, but until you are there you really don't know what you will decide to do. At least, that is my experience. Oh, and what kind of delicious food does your DH serve for dinner??
TTC #2, Operative hysteroscopy March 2011; IVF #1 long lupron protocol April 2011-cancelled due to poor response; IVF #2 flare protocol May 2011=hospitalization due to abdominal hemorrhage during ER and no fert due to MFI issues. Moving onto international adoption from Moldova January 2013!
With my first loss I should of had 2u2 and have a newborn right now
We started trying when Jack turned 1 and he will be 2 next month. I wanted my kids 2 years apart.
If I get pregnant with another child it will probably be our last, I can't take this another time.