I am about 9-10wks pregnant, and I have an (almost) 11mo son. I am also a SAHM and my son has never spent more than a few hours away from me, and certainly never almost a full day.
Lately, I have had horrid M/S. I had it very bad when I was pregnant with DS as well, but it was more manageable seeing as I could lay around the house all day. I finally came to stay with my Mom for a few days while my DH is working really long hours, just so I would have help.
I feel like I have hardly spent anytime with DS lately. Yesterday I spent the whole morning sick in the bathroom, then fell asleep, and didn't even see DS until around noon. He doesn't seem to be too bothered by it, he seems to miss me for about 2 minutes then he is off doing his thing. I am on a couple medications for my M/S but they aren't working enough to let me be the everyday Mom I have been.
I guess I am feeling like I should be stronger and able to handle this better. I know it's only temporary, but it's very hard on me.
Re: I feel like a bad Mom. (vent/long)
I can understand how you would feel that way, but hopefully the m/s will pass and then you can go back to spending time with your L/o.
I'm sure he's having fun playing with grandmom and he knows that you're not feeling good.
Just tell yourself that he's having fun and you need your rest and hopefully m/s will pass.
Good luck, I hope you feel better.
Married July 2006
MC Feb 2009 8 weeks
MC Dec 2009 8 weeks
MC Oct 2013 8 weeks
You really really need to give yourself a break. First of all, it is a good, healthy thing to have your son relying and interacting with other caregivers. And it is OK to not be there 100% of the time. You are sick- you feel horrible and need to rest for you and the baby. I work full time and was the same way- I hardly had an ounce of energy to even interact with my 2 1/2 year old. It felt bad but she is fine and I knew she would be.
I also think it is good moving forward to get rid of that guilt otherwise you will always feel it with 2 kids. Taking time for yourself- even when you feel good, is positive and you should do it moving forward.
I hope you feel better soon, and glad your mom can help you.