S/o discipline, any recs on books?

spacystasi

Yesterday I let Court play in a grass area by a church. He kept running into the street (not a busy one, but still) and I would chase after him to grab him and give him a timeout. This happened several times and it became a game for him. I walked away realizing I need to figure out a way of discipline that he responds to. Do any of you have any recs on good books on discipline? I'm not normally one to parent by a book, but this discipline thing is kicking my arse. Thanks!

StellaZ

My current fave is "Love & Logic: For Early Childhood"

Certainly NOT in this particular case - where you just need to keep him safe - but to build up the idea of listening and staying nearby, I have heard of a few techniques where - hard as it is - you need to let them get "lost", get scared - all the while you can see them but they can't see you.

Grocery stores are great for this. You could even get an employee to "help you out" by walking them around trying to find you - and of course they know where you are. Make a bigger production out of it than necessary. They need to learn what happens when they wander off. Then remind them what happened and as they get older it might start to sink in.

*Sigh* This coming from a Mama whose child has ZERO separation anxiety. My friends say they are jealous...it is exhausting. Ha, the grass is always greener!

spacystasi

Yeah,Court is another one with zero separation anxiety. Whenever we go places he totally forgets about me. I worry if I let him roam around then he will just think it's great. Might be worth a try though. I know if I let him into the street yesterday and did not chase him he would have lost interest, but it's hard when its the safety thing. Thanks for the book rec, I'll check it out!

coribecca

I also like The Discipline Book by Dr. Sears.  Even if you're not an attachment parenting person, it's still a good read because it explains why kids do the things they do and how to prevent certain behaviors.