I feel like an awful mom :-(

MontyMrs

I commented the other day about some marital tension in the house since the added stressors of triplets and my H's grad school and got some great advice.  

We already had begun communicating better and had a great night chatting after the babies went to bed and I was starting to feel like we were headed in the right direction.  Then DH realized he had no clean work pants and we got into a full on blow out fight over the laundry which ended up with me screaming at the top of my lungs that I couldn't take the bickering anymore.  I yelled so loud that I woke Jason up. He was hysterical and could not be soothed and kept waking up crying all night long, I swear us fighting was upsetting to him.  

Needless to say DH and I are exhausted today and both feel awful for letting something so trivial affect one  of the boys and are going to try even harder to get on the same page.  I feel really awful about this :-(  

OrangeSmoke

First, HUGS.  You are an awesome mom.

Second, and I mean this in the nicest way... GET OVER IT.  You are a great mom and we all know it.  We all lose control of ourselves one time or another (and more so we are sleep deprived and tired).  Give yourself a break.  Jason probably is already over it and you should be too.  Dwelling on it isn't going to help anyone.

Third, HUGS... and hope you still are my friend.

BeccaLandes

you are not an awful mom- multiples put so much stress on a marriage.

one night of you and your husband raising your voices will not permanently damage your son, but you are right that kids pick up on tension and anger.  

hopefully you and your husband can work on your communication so that you can be the best parents that you can be.

Mouseygail

oh sweetie...I'm sure you feel bad, but it happens!  He's fine and won't remember a single bit. 

I'm sorry that you guys had such a rough night!  ((((HUGS))))

MontyMrs

OrangeSmoke:

First, HUGS.  You are an awesome mom.

Second, and I mean this in the nicest way... GET OVER IT.  You are a great mom and we all know it.  We all lose control of ourselves one time or another (and more so we are sleep deprived and tired).  Give yourself a break.  Jason probably is already over it and you should be too.  Dwelling on it isn't going to help anyone.

Third, HUGS... and hope you still are my friend.

LoL - of course I am!  Thanks for the kind words and the honesty.   

OrangeSmoke

MontyMrs:

OrangeSmoke:

First, HUGS.  You are an awesome mom.

Second, and I mean this in the nicest way... GET OVER IT.  You are a great mom and we all know it.  We all lose control of ourselves one time or another (and more so we are sleep deprived and tired).  Give yourself a break.  Jason probably is already over it and you should be too.  Dwelling on it isn't going to help anyone.

Third, HUGS... and hope you still are my friend.

LoL - of course I am!  Thanks for the kind words and the honesty.   

When you make a list of all the chores, just make sure he's in charge of his pants.

In all seriousness, I have a list that we use... want to see?

MontyMrs

OrangeSmoke:

MontyMrs:

OrangeSmoke:

First, HUGS.  You are an awesome mom.

Second, and I mean this in the nicest way... GET OVER IT.  You are a great mom and we all know it.  We all lose control of ourselves one time or another (and more so we are sleep deprived and tired).  Give yourself a break.  Jason probably is already over it and you should be too.  Dwelling on it isn't going to help anyone.

Third, HUGS... and hope you still are my friend.

LoL - of course I am!  Thanks for the kind words and the honesty.   

When you make a list of all the chores, just make sure he's in charge of his pants.

In all seriousness, I have a list that we use... want to see?

Yes, I do :-)  

BRSaugust20

Huge Hugs to you Monty!!!  I can't imagine what our relationship would be like with triplets let alone with you doing so much on your own.

Just take it as a learning experience and as another step to the two of you resolving the issues.

dusk42

Hugs!

And DH is in charge of making sure he has clean clothes.  I do a lot of laundry and he folds a lot of it, but if one of us doesn't have clean clothes, it's our own fault.  It makes things a lot easier.   

sescms2004

HUGS to you.  This MoM stuff is H.A.R.D.  There are so many times I feel myself on the verge of losing it, and sometimes I do.  We are human, and we all have our limits.  None of us are SuperMom/Wife, as much as we'd like to be.  DH and I have never been arguers/fighters with each other, until the LO's were born.  It's just so much easier to do or say something to set the other one off, and it's no one's fault, really.  Just figure out what you can control/do better at (if anything) and that's all you can do.  I'm sure you are a GREAT mom to your boys!  Today is a new day