Officially on BR

HeatherM0711

Its official I am on bed rest and I am so angry with my body for failing me! I expected to spend a few weeks at the end of my pregnancy on BR but not 7 weeks! I know so many of you have been on BR for much longer but right now it seams like a lifetime.

How have ya'll dealt with all of this?

 Also I have my second steroid shot today (thank god) That makes me feel much better but I am still so panicked. I feel like, yes I did get a ton done in the last few weeks for the babies room but I still feel SO unprepared! I have no clothes for a preemie. his room isn't finished, I have no nursing bras, nursing tops, ect. Its terrifies me that I am 2-3 cm & 70% effaced. I know how quickly those numbers can change and he isn't ready yet! He needs to keep cooking!!!

 I know most of you have given birth to your lo's what should I expect with a preemie @ 33weeks on who has had steroids?

Feeling beyond overwhelmed and like I have failed...

mrsV719

Feeling like you failed is a completely normal thought. I went through the same thing. But know that being on bed rest and taking care of your LO is being a GREAT mommy to him. You are doing everything that you can and there is nothing you could have done to prevent this from happening. Just keep following the doctors orders and know that everything is going to be ok. Try not to blame yourself... IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT! 

 

For my story: I got both steroid shots and had a c-section at 28w4d.LO was born at 2lbs 2oz and spent 82 fairly uneventful days in the NICU... well actually 20 in the NICU and 62 in a special care nursery. He was on the vent for 24 hours, then on CPAP for 5 days, and then 8 days on the nasal cannula. One of the hardest parts was that at first he was in an isolette with humidity so we couldn't hold him... only stick our hands in to touch him. Then at 20 days he was transferred to a lower care nursery because he was doing so well. Then next 62 days he spent growing and developing. He had a rare brady but did have a bunch of apnea spells and desats. He eventually outgrew them. The most difficult part of our stay was the eating. It was a challenge and kept him there past his due date and then was even re-admitted for reflux.  

 

On another side, a friend just gave birth to TWINS at 34w2d with both shots. They spent 12 days in the NICU and are now home and doing well. One had NO oxygen help and one had a cannula for a few days.  

 

No matter what happens, know that your LO will be well taken care of and that the NICU journey (no matter how long) is stressful, scary, and a roller coaster... but you will come out a stronger, better, and different person and mother.  

 

((HUGS)) 

HeatherM0711

Thank you so much, It is hard for me to face these fears, my 2 best friends gave  birth at 34 & 35 weeks recently and they sent me into panic mode & I got most of the baby stuff done but still.. 4 days later I started dilating... I still didn't think it would happen to me, even at 20% effaced. I was just completely convinced that I would stay that way till 40 weeks. Yesterday just rocked my world and I was expecting the bed rest by that point but still... I had thought the bed rest would be the last 4 weeks max. I guess in reality it could be 4 weeks to 37 weeks. I swear come 37 weeks I may be running stairs

Thank you so much