I think the boards are freaking me out!

woozer77

While I really enjoy getting on here every day and seeing how everyone else is doing, I think the majority of the posts are doing more harm than good.  If I see someone else is not as far along as me but is having symptoms, I wonder why I'm not having those symptoms.  From chemical pregnancies, to spotting, to consumption of lunch meat, all of these convos have made me a huge ball of anxiety.  Anyone else feel the same way or am I alone on my island.  I want to be happy and excited!

starrynight1658

I definitely feel like that at times. I also see that for the women who are having symptoms or concerns, it is EXTREMELY helpful to have a sounding board to either commiserate or console. I kind of take everything with a grain of salt; pregnancy is a crazy, wacky, amazing ride that is different for everyone, but always causes anxiety! I say that we just be thankful every day that we are pregnant and support and encourage others the best we can!

sushi&wasabi

It can get to me at times.  The only "symptom" I have had is not being able to stop eating even though I'm just a few days into this.  There is nothing else as far as m/s etc.  But then I remember that each person is different and if I keep hanging on w/o symptoms, I just need to count my lucky stars!

bigdreams24

I am with you, I have literally had no symptoms! My first doctors appointment is tomorrow afternoon so hopefully that will be re-assuring. I want to be excited too.. but just hasn't set in yet. Have you had a doctors appointment yet?

hopeandlove0417

Before my first pregnancy I thought people get pregnant, and boom they live happily ever after. I had no idea what a chemical pregnancy was, I didn't even know what a missed miscarriage was. I had no idea what betas were or just how many things is unsafe to eat during pregnancy ( though I've also learned that opinions vary from person to person). It can be a little overwhelming reading posts about spotting and the many other scary things that come along with getting a BFP. But at the end of the day I learned so many wonderful things from these amazing women....not everyone gets m/s, if you heat up the lunchmeat you can eat it, spotting can be very normal in early pregnancy...some women get it and some don't..and everyone has that DH/BF who is completely clueless in one way or another. These boards may have some catty moments when hormones are raging, but when someone has a concern, or having a bad day, even when you get the worst news of your life...the women on here really can help you get through your day if you give them a chance.

woozer77

No appointment yet.  My initial prenatal isn't until 6/29...ugh. 

Let me say that I completely agree that the boards are an excellent source of support.  I know that if I have any question or concerns, I can come here for answers and support.  I just never knew there could be so many concerns before I became pregnant.  I actually POASed today just to reconfirm.  I really don't want m/s but some sort of sign would be nice.

hopeandlove0417

My mom never has m/s with me, but with my sister she had really bad m/s......if that puts your mind at ease any. Also I only just started get nauseous on a daily basis these past few days,some people don't start until 8+ weeks too.

mariekl04

I've done TONS of googling to make sure my symptoms are in sync with other ladies and I have decided to stop worrying about what everyone else's bodies are doing and to have faith in mine. It's really hard sometimes, especially after two MC's, but i think this way my nerves won't be shot if my body is doing things differently than others. 

smallfry18

I know EXACTLY how you feel.  Although these boards can be great, they can also add to anxiety.  I am someone who worries A LOT on a normal basis and reading some of this stuff gives me even more to worry about.  I bumped frequently when I was pregnant with DS and I told myself when I got pg again I would stay away from the bump....but here I am, lol.  It is like an addicting drug that you know is bad for you, but you can't stay away

No but in all seriousness, I have found the boards to be a great support and a great place to ask questions; but you also read about stuff that you otherwise would not (which can be good or bad).  I think you just have to take some things with a grain of salt.

katie-lynn3313

I totally get it. Like everyone else said take it with a grain of salt.

 I mean this in all respect to everyone but when people have their losses listed (at the signature line) it makess me so sad. I never knew that miscarriages were so common. I have been on the boards a lot recently but trying not to read them too much. Kinda freaks me out.

that being said I enjoy being here and like the support

soralette

Yeah, I'm in the same boat... Seeing other ladies posting about having no/few/light symptoms makes me feel better, though -- it helps me realise that just because I'm not miserable 24/7 doesn't mean that something's wrong, you know?

Daisy07gray

Like so many of these ladies said- pregnancy is so different with different babies and different ladies.  Please try to enjoy your pregnancy & feel good while you can (& then, when your favorite breakfast makes you feel green, smile b/c that's ok too!).  H & H to you all~

tickled_pickle

On the TTGP board, all the losses listed in siggies made me sad. But over here and on the tri boards, it makes me happy to see that someone who has suffered one loss or more is pregnant again. It gives me a lot of hope, and I'm so happy for them that they've made it this far again. 

 Keep in mind, ladies, that you're going to hear more about the bad symptoms than about the "no symptoms." If everyone with no morning sickness came on and started a thread titled, "I feel so great! No puking for me!" it might be a little insensitive to those who are fighting nausea every single day. As would a siggy that said, "No losses here! Every pregnancy I've had has been a success!" KWIM? Obviously nobody's suggesting that anyone do that, but I just want to point out that as with all things in life, you're going to hear the complaints and the scary stuff a lot more than you will all the great stuff. Ever watch the news? LOL. 

But the boards are a great place for support and advice and help and commiseration. I hope we can keep it that way here.