1st Trimester

First Dr. Apt. Time to find a new Dr. LONG

I had my first official Drs appointment today.  I was NOT happy with him at all.

 

Some back ground: Last week I went to the ER because I was because I was bleeding.  I had an ultra sound that showed a small hemorrhage sitting on the outside of the sack.  The ER doc said I needed to be closely monitored for the time being but since I had my first ?real? apt in a week I could wait until then.

 

Fast forward to today.  I was nervous but excited for my appointment.  I wanted to know if my baby was still okay and if the hemorrhage had spread.  So I met my husband there and we waited, and waited, and waited.  An hour and 15 minutes after the scheduled time of our appointment we were finally seen by the doctor.  He barley introduced himself, did not shake our hands or say any of the normal pleasantries (how are you? Nice to meet you.  etc.)  

He asked the standard medical background questions which was fine.  I told him about the ER last week and he looked at the ultra sound results.  Then he very causally said ?well you have a 50/50 shot of keeping this one?.  Now, don?t get me wrong.  I want to know my chances, but REALLY!!! There has to be a better way to have stated that.  Now by this time it was 2 hours after our scheduled appointments start time.  MH had to leave for a conference call so I was left in the room alone.  The doctor never made eye contact with me.  It was like pulling teeth to get any information out of him.  The dude just told me I had a 50/50 shot he had to know I would have questions.  So after much aggravation he told me that I should refrain from sex and exercise.  Then he handed me a few sheets of paper and said ?these are your instructions for next time? and left the room.

I look down at this pile of paper in confusion.  Wasn?t I supposed to get a second u/s to check on the bleeding?  Oh I see it is on the paper for next week but I have to schedule it someplace else.  What about blood work to check my hormone levels like the ER doc said I needed to do? Oh I see on the paper I have to do that elsewhere.  Where?  And why do I need to see a genetic consular? I?m young and have no family history of anything.  But the paper says I need to so there you are.

I left the DR office and went back to the office upset.  I called to schedule the U/s other test for next week.  The lady on the phone was nice and told me that wow Guess what I could have gotten my blood taken that day right where I was!!! Nice of someone to tell me that.

 

Anyway, I will go to him for my next appointment because we are moving anyway and I do not want to have to change DRs twice.  (we are not moving far but I would rather use someone associated to the nearest/best hospital to me).

 

Anyway that is my vent.

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Re: First Dr. Apt. Time to find a new Dr. LONG

  • Honest opinion....moving or not moving....call another doctor today/tomorrow morning.. Explain your bad experience with your previous doctor, tell them about your ER visit and ask for the first available appointment. I had a bad experience my last pregnancy with my first doctor.....I should have switched sooner...the first doctor didn't mention any signs of a miscarriage to me, even though two sonograms where preformed. After my second sonogram I went to my new doctor who spotted a second yolk, and confimirmed a missed miscarriage all two days after the last sonogram.I was devastated and put a lot of blame on myself for not switching doctors (even though it wouldn't make a difference). I hope you can find a doctor that you trust, and one with a better bedside manner..and one that can do u/s in office.

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  • That sucks! I agree with the PP. I'd look now even if it's just for one appointment before you move. Maybe get a recommendation from a friend or co-worker for a new doctor that has a better bedside manner.
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  • I also agree with PP about switching. The first few weeks are so important and nerve-wracking. You need all the positive experience and important information you can get! Good luck!
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  • If you're not moving far, I would try to look for a new dr near where you're going to be.  If it's only one or two appts that you would have to drive further, it would be worth it to me to not have to switch that one extra time.  I agree though, that I would look right away for another dr to check on things and have a better experience.  Good luck!
    DD- 7/22/07 DS- 4/22/09 DS #2- 1/11/12
  • thanks ladies.  I am calling around and searching the internet for recommendations. I am going to call my GP and see if she will do the blood work tomorrow.  I will also be calling Drs first thing in the AM!

     

    DH did not like him either.  Oh I forgot to mention that when he was talking about STDs screenings he said he could "prove [my] husband is faithful". 

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